All About ADHD : Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder

[jedamum]

Littlefly,

You are right to state that if it does not impact learning, they cannot rule adhd. My boy scored high in academic areas as being my second kid, I have experience and resources to give him a headstart. Being a sahm helps too.

His chinese teacher note that he is busy minding his friends and not paying attention in class. But he knows his stuff, so it makes a difference.huge difference compared to the days when he was blur and could not speak - I got feedback everyday wrt this and really felt demoralize. We are very fortunate to subsequentlymeet great teachers who know how to handle him. And gave him plenty of encouragement and praises. He did get into major troublewith one of the classmates but thank goodness the parents were very forgiving when we apologised.

My boy is never lethargic when sick. He behave normally. Just behave like my elder boy in his normal mode.

I give my boy fish oil supplements that claims to enhance concentration level. He does not eat sweets or snacks. Strict tv regime too.

[jedamum]

Fifiyeo

Yes, there is no cure, but our consolation is, there is a wayto go about continuing to function if it is not too severe. It involves lifestyle changes, expectation management. Not knowing how our little one will turn out one day, but knowing that he will face an uphill task if he requires additional help, to us, at this moment, we want to build good self esteem and positive outlook in life. With these traits, he can face future challengeswith more confidence.

[Littlefly]

I was a bit down when it seemed that my child could be ADHD. His is my elder boy and i have no basis for comparison until i have my younger boy who is relatively more manageable and able to sit by himself and play quietly sometimes. At least there are peaks and dips, you know, unlike the elder boy who is like a spinning dynamo.


I am probably in denial as his teachers had been complaining alot. We switched school and same issues surfaced. I saw some of his classmates are equally cheeky and active and thought there is no problem here at all until the ‘wake-up’ call from school on his learning difficulties. Is it a standard practice for teachers to compliment the kids to be ‘clever, intelligent, learns very fast’ ? yet at my boy has learning disabilities. It just don’t add up…

[beanbear]

Littlefly:

I was a bit down when it seemed that my child could be ADHD. His is my elder boy and i have no basis for comparison until i have my younger boy who is relatively more manageable and able to sit by himself and play quietly sometimes. At least there are peaks and dips, you know, unlike the elder boy who is like a spinning dynamo.


I am probably in denial as his teachers had been complaining alot. We switched school and same issues surfaced. I saw some of his classmates are equally cheeky and active and thought there is no problem here at all until the 'wake-up' call from school on his learning difficulties. Is it a standard practice for teachers to compliment the kids to be 'clever, intelligent, learns very fast' ? yet at my boy has learning disabilities. It just don't add up...

You might consider seeing an Occupational Therapist first before seeing an Educational Psychologist. An OT can do a preliminary diagnosis and let you know what therapy is needed, if the child needs. From my personal experience, OT will share with you how the nervous system may be affected such that the child is not able to regulate their other functions. Doing certain specific exercises can help the child to regulate their energy and their attention.

[fifiyeo]

Littlefly:

I was a bit down when it seemed that my child could be ADHD. His is my elder boy and i have no basis for comparison until i have my younger boy who is relatively more manageable and able to sit by himself and play quietly sometimes. At least there are peaks and dips, you know, unlike the elder boy who is like a spinning dynamo.


I am probably in denial as his teachers had been complaining alot. We switched school and same issues surfaced. I saw some of his classmates are equally cheeky and active and thought there is no problem here at all until the 'wake-up' call from school on his learning difficulties. Is it a standard practice for teachers to compliment the kids to be 'clever, intelligent, learns very fast' ? yet at my boy has learning disabilities. It just don't add up...

Accept your boy as he is and take time to relook the lovely side of him and his talents. Do not let this ADHD thing take you down. It won't be an easy path but if you hang in there and work on him and around his positive points, it will be ok eventually.

[baobei]

Littlefly, did you change son’s school due to being asked by teacher? My boy’s form teacher called and suggested that he may not be suitable for the environment and suggested to find him a place suitable for him. Do you get such calls from teachers? Do teacher call to feedback how disruptive the child is in class once per term or they would give frequent feedbacks after knowing child having ADHD?

[baobei]

The preschool teachers for my child feel that my child does not have ADHD, in fact describe child as a kind soul with leadership qualities. However, in primary school, after half a year of complaining of noisy classmates, ended up being diagnosed with ADHD. Nowadays, he would act impulsively and throw tantrums in class. I became confused whether it was due to environment that has caused child to be so or was it due to ADHD not detected earlier.


After working with psychologists, counsellors and therapists, we felt that there are improvement in child's behaviour management. Somehow, it is not up to the school teacher's expectation. Teacher claims that no children would approach child to talk, however, I saw friends initiating talk with him at busstops. I wonder if the children is being stopped by teacher in class to talk to him.

[jedamum]

baobei:

Littlefly, did you change son's school due to being asked by teacher? My boy's form teacher called and suggested that he may not be suitable for the environment and suggested to find him a place suitable for him. Do you get such calls from teachers? Do teacher call to feedback how disruptive the child is in class once per term or they would give frequent feedbacks after knowing child having ADHD?

baobei,
did you speak to the Principal?
is it possible to change class?

[baobei]

jedamum:

baobei:

Littlefly, did you change son's school due to being asked by teacher? My boy's form teacher called and suggested that he may not be suitable for the environment and suggested to find him a place suitable for him. Do you get such calls from teachers? Do teacher call to feedback how disruptive the child is in class once per term or they would give frequent feedbacks after knowing child having ADHD?

baobei,
did you speak to the Principal?
is it possible to change class?

Hi jedamum,

Nope, I did not speak to the principal. However, principal is aware that he is an ADHD child. I do not want child to suffer in school by making complains.

Sigh! He was asked to change class after P1 as there are too many \"naughty\" children in class and since he keep complaining, teacher suggested to split up the children and move him and a few others to other classes. Apparently in the new class, there is a bully that keeps bullying him during recess time and he was very unhappy with the school then. As the P1 teacher has hoped, he did get into the top classes in P3. He went to the new class happily this year, in fact, he is happy most of the time and has mentioned that he has kept trying hard to improve but not to the teacher's expectation I guess. I guess the teacher is biased towards him now. She mentioned that he did not do his work in class and did not take initiative to hand in in class but also interrupting at the wrong time when he did take initiative to hand in. I told her this boy needs help, perhaps she can get it from the child, she said she expect them to be responsible for handing in their work. Child's story is he did try hard to hand in but at times he was told to take it back. This term, is worst. His workbook is with the teacher and when he asked for it, teacher ignores him. After 2 weeks of questioning him, I wrote to the teacher, the next day, he get his workbook back with his work not marked. Teacher did not even reply my email on this issue. I belive with such situation, a motivated child will also become unmotivated.

[luvmum]

Preschool is a totally different environment from primary school. Preschool tends to be more protected, greater attention given by the teacher and there is no exam for the child to be stressful about. Hours are short and the teachers will not be ablt to detect that much.


On the contrary, in a primary shcool setting, child is left to fend for themselves most of the time, teacher has to handle 30-40 students at one go hence little focus on each child and with all the mountainous homework and bite size tests here and there coupled with the long hours in school, a number of issues surfaced.