All About Autism

[ImMeeMee]

jme:

Helplessmum, the 3 cc I mentioned r privately run. the iccp fees is cheaper than the ones I have seen. I do not know how iccp runs but I can share how my son's cc works. His class has 4asd kids n 6 nt kids. They (asd and nt) attend english, chinese, math n art lesson together. There will be 2 sessions of group ot n 1 session of group st every week. Each session is 30 mins. The asd kids will also have one on one session for 45mins of teaching everyday. This 45mins daily is not ot or st. More like a special needs teacher teaching the child according to the child's ability. All these therapies r included in the school fees. But I will have to pay extra if I want one on one ot n st. They have swimming lessons but then parents will have to pay too.

jme, sorry have not followed closely but is your child in ICCP? The support looks good. Any challenges that you face in this environment?

I called up to enquire about ICCP some time ago and was told that the fees that we pay under ICCP will be different from those for NT kids even in the same childcare center. What is the difference at your end?

At one stage I was thinking of EIPIC and ICCP together since ICCP offers the mainstream environment but still with some support for the ASD child. But application for ICCP comes under CEL referral, and I think if the child is already in EIPIC, the chances will not be high.

[mashy]

Just had PTM with the English enrichment teacher. Guess he is not totally unidentifiable coz his teacher realizes that he’s a bit different from the other kids and his poor eye contact, difficulty in getting his attention. The good thing is that she also thinks he’s very bright, just need to work on the speech and handwriting.

[Blokus]

Same. Every time at home or during normal days I always think my son is so mild that he's no different from the other kids. But after observing him in social class or seeing him amongst his classmates, I can tell how different he is. Each week I go through this cycle. From being hopeful then feelings of grief. Though my son doesn't display typical signs but he's lack of eye contact & sometimes lack of response are obvious enough.

[helplessmum3]

Now u know it is hard not to compare n get notice especially they are with NT


yesterday at the tv News, they show some SPED kids playing concert, right moment u can see their are diff.

but I’m impressed by Lavendary;s husband. as during dating Lavendary can’t even notice and is a scholar & a degree holder, salary must be 7k and above. salary is my guess, not tat she mentioned. cuz she paying ARC 900++

Lavendary, u shod get some tips how his parents do that? did he go to any therapy or just his parents works with their means to correct him… jus like SLMKHOo … Lavendary, u are very kind. is true. your husband is very direct because they are born this way. DIRECT… they don’t mean to hurt anyone… they simply speak what they think… for NT pple, they may twist & smoke around. if they disagreed they can say agreed but the do otherwise…



i read somewhere, there are more & more ASD being diagnosed cuz aBIT aBit of Traits they will put them under ASD…

cuz it is too wide…

[helplessmum3]

Blokus,

Is he yr only child. I feel when they grow older they will be more obvious…

Especially when outside when stranger talk to them as for their age usually a NT kids will look n response with at least some facial expression like shy or scare or curious…cuz shy to stranger …as not all kids are social to strangers.

For my case , my son will just look up n smile n ignore them and carry on what he is doing… The so called "interaction" are missing .

I think so , just base on own personal experience , just correct me if I’m judge wrongly again…

I only start to learn & experience about ASD this yr or lesser then a yr.

nevertheless, Mashy always reminded me that i may compare to those NT kids who are advance, so i shd not… that will be always back in my mind whenever i see a NT kids with my Son…

so far i always met all advance NT kids SIGH…

[helplessmum3]

Blokus:

Same. Every time at home or during normal days I always think my son is so mild that he's no different from the other kids. But after observing him in social class or seeing him amongst his classmates, I can tell how different he is. Each week I go through this cycle. From being hopeful then feelings of grief. Though my son doesn't display typical signs but he's lack of eye contact & sometimes lack of response are obvious enough.

Blokus,

then you work on his eye contact more.. for now..

the first thing i do most is his eye contact when i get to know he is ASD.. now he always get eye contact.. whenever he meet pp. example reached school he will look at his teachers... when teacher help him on his bag he too will look at his teachers..

he is now always look at pp & kids..

jus works on eye contact.

in what way u feel your son is not responsive to social class?

[Double E]

Helplessmum,


Comparing is inevitable. But that does not mean we ignore out kids strengths. I too feel dejected when I see my son not as responsive as NT kids and needs a lot of prompting in social comm. But we just hv to deal with it.

But u know, while our kids are not as sociable and responsive, they hv strengths that NT kids dun hv too. My friends came over to my Plc today and I am glad that my boy’s spelling and writing skills are on par if not slightly better than the NT kids who are older than him.

[helplessmum3]

Whoa! Way to go double e.


Academy to our kids always not really a issue… It’s memory power.
gladly at least they some strength .rather then don’t .

Ya I also try to observes what are my son strength … So far know he good in puzzle and I know his IQ is definitely higher n even have dynamic thinking n problem solving . As they are weak in speech so then tends to figure out themselves rather then simply ask…

Ask n get answer , is easy forget. Think n solve yr own u can remember better.

[helplessmum3]

I think most our kids here are aspergers…when they grow older

For now due to age so is PDD-Nos

[mashy]

Helplessmum


I don’t know whatever makes u think they will get worse as they grow older. So far I’ve only seen my son getting better. Perhaps it’s those who leave their kids to live and die on their own will see them getting worse.

He still stands out from the other peers. But the gap is narrowing. And I’m happy with that progress. Previously, he stood out by hiding in the group and staying in a corner. Now he stands out by talking at inappropriate times. I’m rather happy (though a bit embarrassed) when he did that. Coz at least he is no longer keeping himself in the shell. Now it’s just to teach him when is a good time to talk and when isn’t.

I can only say, u don’t know how lucky u are. At least your boy will still look up and smile to the stranger. That’s acknowledging that person’s presence. U haven’t had the experience of your kid living in his own world even when there are people close by. And these people aren’t even strangers.

And I also dunno whatever gave u the idea that PDD NOS is given to your son because of his age. It’s because he didn’t fulfill all criteria to be labelled ‘autism’.