All About Autism

[helplessmum3]

Mashy,

Should give this tip to your son SLT lolx

[nugget]

mashy:

So happy! My boy is finally able to articulate all the sounds of the alphabet accurately. it has been a long journey with speech therapies from 4 yrs old. Almost 3 years later, he's finally capable of articulating them properly. Now we can finally move on to other goals.

Congrats Mashy! :rahrah:

My boy also made an improvement yesterday. He hold a conversation with his daddy over the phone. Even though his answers are very short, but its a great improvement.

Last time he would just held the phone and listen and dun speak any words. Now at least he can response. We are very thrilled too.

[specialboymum]

Great job mummies!!

The way to deal with our kids, is to be patient… certain tasks may take them longer time to master them, but eventually they will learn to do it.

Re: labelling,

I’m also one of those parent who refuse labelling for our kid. I’m not denying that my kid is different from others and he needs additional help to learn. However, I don’t like the fact that once we have the label on him, everything he does will be view through the lense call ‘autism’ and people tend to forget he is also a child.
I’m not sure if many of you experience this…I wanted to sign him up for enrichment classes and even some religious school, but once I mention my child’s condition (I thought to be open upfront so that they won’t be caught in a surprise), the reply I got is ‘sorry, we are not trained in handling such kids, we suggest you try somewhere else’…they don’t even let him try and certainly not even giving me the opportunity to explain that he is not disruptive in class.
Now, I don’t disclose his condition when I sign him up for class but also got problem lah. Just like recently, I sign him up for martial art class. Due to his poor motor planning, he couldn’t follow many action, which other kids could do so easily. The coach wasn’t happy, I have to beg him to continue let him stay in the group and reassure him it doesn’t matter to us if he is slow and having difficulty following, and it is perfectly ok not to give him extra attention as he also need to be fair to other students, what I hope for is just the opportunity for him to be in a group and do some form of physical exercise.

[jme]

ImMeeMee

I believe the iccp u were looking at is under govt which is why all applications must go thru CEL. However my son is with the private integrated childcare n the admission was very easy. But I am paying $1500 (b4 deducting $300) excl ot n st. Super heartache when issuing cheque every month end. School fees for nt kids is less than half of special needs kids.

There is a mummy who send her kid to divinity at bishan ( cc fees is a lot cheaper than st Gerard) n have school bus to fetch her kid to rainbow 3x a week which I think it is another good idea.

[jme]

mashy:

So happy! My boy is finally able to articulate all the sounds of the alphabet accurately. it has been a long journey with speech therapies from 4 yrs old. Almost 3 years later, he's finally capable of articulating them properly. Now we can finally move on to other goals.

So Happy for you Waiting for my day to come

[nugget]

jme:

ImMeeMee

I believe the iccp u were looking at is under govt which is why all applications must go thru CEL. However my son is with the private integrated childcare n the admission was very easy. But I am paying $1500 (b4 deducting $300) excl ot n st. Super heartache when issuing cheque every month end. School fees for nt kids is less than half of special needs kids.

There is a mummy who send her kid to divinity at bishan ( cc fees is a lot cheaper than st Gerard) n have school bus to fetch her kid to rainbow 3x a week which I think it is another good idea.

Jme, is Divinity a EIPIC or ICCP? Can sign up EIPIC and ICCP at the same time?

[jme]

nugget:

jme:

ImMeeMee

I believe the iccp u were looking at is under govt which is why all applications must go thru CEL. However my son is with the private integrated childcare n the admission was very easy. But I am paying $1500 (b4 deducting $300) excl ot n st. Super heartache when issuing cheque every month end. School fees for nt kids is less than half of special needs kids.

There is a mummy who send her kid to divinity at bishan ( cc fees is a lot cheaper than st Gerard) n have school bus to fetch her kid to rainbow 3x a week which I think it is another good idea.

Jme, Divinity is not a EIPIC or ICCP? Can sign up EIPIC and ICCP at the same time?

It is a private integrated cc. N that's what the mummy did.

[mashy]

specialboymum:

Great job mummies!!

The way to deal with our kids, is to be patient.. certain tasks may take them longer time to master them, but eventually they will learn to do it.

Re: labelling,

I'm also one of those parent who refuse labelling for our kid. I'm not denying that my kid is different from others and he needs additional help to learn. However, I don't like the fact that once we have the label on him, everything he does will be view through the lense call 'autism' and people tend to forget he is also a child.
I'm not sure if many of you experience this..I wanted to sign him up for enrichment classes and even some religious school, but once I mention my child's condition (I thought to be open upfront so that they won't be caught in a surprise), the reply I got is 'sorry, we are not trained in handling such kids, we suggest you try somewhere else'...they don't even let him try and certainly not even giving me the opportunity to explain that he is not disruptive in class.
Now, I don't disclose his condition when I sign him up for class but also got problem lah. Just like recently, I sign him up for martial art class. Due to his poor motor planning, he couldn't follow many action, which other kids could do so easily. The coach wasn't happy, I have to beg him to continue let him stay in the group and reassure him it doesn't matter to us if he is slow and having difficulty following, and it is perfectly ok not to give him extra attention as he also need to be fair to other students, what I hope for is just the opportunity for him to be in a group and do some form of physical exercise.

I also don't tell any enrichment classes about his condition. He's learning tkd now just went for grading. He is slow in learning his moves so we asked the coach to demo and we video it. After that we practise at home with him. Whenever we ask if he is ready for grading, the coach gave us a look like he didn't think he will make it. Lol. Well, can't be helped. We just need to be more diligent.

[nugget]

jme:

It is a private integrated cc. N that's what the mummy did.

I see. I thought we can only sign up for 1. Dunno if her subsidy, she can claim on both sides or not.

[ImMeeMee]

Blokus:

I should be really grateful & I am. He has no problem academically, does not have disruptive or awkward behaviors, he's socially aware & I've even seen him play appropriately with peers with back & forth talking.

I just get disappointed when I see him in social class. Although He response and follow instructions well. But he seems to fidget alot more, like he will do a break dance while sitting down & he looks away while the teacher is talking. Strangely, he sits very still in school. Or when I see how he give very weak response to friends who make effort to talk to him, I feel sad too. My heart sink whenever he shows no regard to his younger sister while all my friends' kids would play or take care of my daughter. :sad:

I know I should be counting my blessings. But you know, when you have $2, you want $5, when you have $5, you want $10. :roll:

Blokus, hope this post is not too late and my two cents worth.

I think its ok to want $5 or $10 when you have $2, cos thats how one strives towards excellence. But the key is to appreciate the $2 in the meantime while we work hard for the additional dollar, and to look at the value of $2 not in its absolute terms but its relativity with no money at all.

These days I am a lot calmer with my doter, cos I have begun to appreciate the essence of not comparing her with other children, whether NT or otherwise. Let her grow at her own pace. There is a lot of pressure in our society in terms of benchmarking and milestones, and all the more we need to fight this pressure within ourselves to have to conform at the expense of our child. We will still have bread and butter issues to worry about as she grows into adulthood, but we will always do our utmost to support her.

Thats not to say I dont bother about her anymore. Support is still ongoing, but it has become more baseline as part of our lives. I still strive for that $5, but perspectives are beginning to be different, if you know what I mean.