Kids say the darnest things...

[tutormum]

tankee:

Me: DS, why are you misbehaving? why do we have we repeat ourselves when we ask you to stop <<doing>> .....


DS : ... :oops: ... I do not know ....

Me: you are a good boy, but why aren't you behaving like one today and daddy & mommy have to nag?

DS: .... I do not know ... maybe I got a naughty spell ....

Me: .... er .... so are you start behaving?

DS: Yes. The spell is gone

:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:

[tankee]

Muffins:

Nice icon, tankee!

thanks

[jedamum]

i don't know where to post this question, so just tag here.

my ds1 has this burning question which i have no answer...
\"why am i born myself and not someone else? why am i your child and not someone else's child?\"

:?
any idea how to approach this question and what is the underlying issue?

[Andaiz]

jedamum:

i don't know where to post this question, so just tag here.

my ds1 has this burning question which i have no answer...
\"why am i born myself and not someone else? why am i your child and not someone else's child?\"

:?
any idea how to approach this question and what is the underlying issue?

jedamum, :!: that's a multi-layer questions and totally stops you at your track eh?!

I'd look him in the eye and say...\"it doesn't matter why! I only know you're my child and that makes you a wonderful blessing for me!\" and then give him a big hug!

- If that's just a simple question for affirmation, that that should do the trick.
- If it is a question of identity vs a Higher Being, then this would warrant a sit-down talk I'd think of who he is in the universe...
- or :idea: an inpromtu discussion of the birds and the bees??!?!

What was his expression/psyche like when he asked that question!

[tutormum]

Andaiz:

jedamum:

i don't know where to post this question, so just tag here.

my ds1 has this burning question which i have no answer...
\"why am i born myself and not someone else? why am i your child and not someone else's child?\"

:?
any idea how to approach this question and what is the underlying issue?

jedamum, :!: that's a multi-layer questions and totally stops you at your track eh?!

I'd look him in the eye and say...\"it doesn't matter why! I only know you're my child and that makes you a wonderful blessing for me!\" and then give him a big hug!

- If that's just a simple question for affirmation, that that should do the trick.
- If it is a question of identity vs a Higher Being, then this would warrant a sit-down talk I'd think of who he is in the universe...
- or :idea: an inpromtu discussion of the birds and the bees??!?!

What was his expression/psyche like when he asked that question!

If he said it in malice cos he wished that he could have what other children have and felt deprived, then you have to reason with him e.g. why he can't have that PSP while Peter can etc. My kids sometimes do such comparisons to try to get what they want. I'll also use comparisons to make my point e.g. compare them to the poor third world kids who go hungry every day to let them know how blessed they really are. I insist my kids read the papers so that they are aware of all those sufferings around them. :roll:

[Andaiz]

tutormum:

My kids sometimes do such comparisons to try to get what they want. I'll also use comparisons to make my point e.g. compare them to the poor third world kids who go hungry every day to let them know how blessed they really are. I insist my kids read the papers so that they are aware of all those sufferings around them. :roll:

Yep, good point, tutormom. It's human to compare and oftentimes, we are apt to compare with someone who HAS more than ourselves.

We've started the children on some social work project (fund raising) this year and are inclined to do so this coming year again.

[autumnbronze]

Andaiz:

tutormum:

My kids sometimes do such comparisons to try to get what they want. I'll also use comparisons to make my point e.g. compare them to the poor third world kids who go hungry every day to let them know how blessed they really are. I insist my kids read the papers so that they are aware of all those sufferings around them. :roll:

Yep, good point, tutormom. It's human to compare and oftentimes, we are apt to compare with someone who HAS more than ourselves.

We've started the children on some social work project (fund raising) this year and are inclined to do so this coming year again.

Hi Andaiz,

Read your post above with interest

Could you pls share your fund raising project with your kids?

Would like DS to be involve in something like this as well in a yr or two.

TIA

[Andaiz]

autumnbronze:

Hi Andaiz,

Read your post above with interest

Could you pls share your fund raising project with your kids?

Would like DS to be involve in something like this as well in a yr or two.

TIA

Would be glad to, autumnbronze...by the way, great planning and tenacity in seeing the avatar/nick contest through :ugogirl:

My younger 2's kindergarten/playschool went to a hospice earlier last year and just this year, a funfair was organized to raise funds for the charity. We had a game/food stall and all 3 helped me reckie the game, try-outs, set up stall, make posters, put them up etc and manned the stall (plus grandma's too!). My DD1 kept track of the coupons we'd helped sell, bought, and collected. So it was something tangible for them coz they saw the recipients of the funds, then the process of managing a stall plus raise funds. That was in October.

Then at Christmas, got them to choose a toy to give away to an orphanage in Central PH where my colleague returned for the holidays. It's painful for them to part with the toy, no matter how little they've played with it over the year. But I think it shows the children just how blessed they are.

Next year? Have not planned yet but was thinking of getting them to raise funds through flag day (actually DD1 helped me sometime back. So cute to have a then 2 year old tag along. My can was very full indeed and I've no ego that it's because the donors gravitated twds her...); or perhaps a donation drive for less priviledged children for Children's Day.

[autumnbronze]

Andaiz:

Would be glad to, autumnbronze...by the way, great planning and tenacity in seeing the avatar/nick contest through :ugogirl:

:thankyou: wouldn't have been possible w/o KS team and members' help though

Andaiz:

My younger 2's kindergarten/playschool went to a hospice earlier last year and just this year, a funfair was organized to raise funds for the charity. We had a game/food stall and all 3 helped me reckie the game, try-outs, set up stall, make posters, put them up etc and manned the stall (plus grandma's too!). My DD1 kept track of the coupons we'd helped sell, bought, and collected. So it was something tangible for them coz they saw the recipients of the funds, then the process of managing a stall plus raise funds. That was in October..

Oh thats nice .... I don't believe many pre-schs are actively involved in charity wk.

Andaiz:

Then at Christmas, got them to choose a toy to give away to an orphanage in Central PH where my colleague returned for the holidays. It's painful for them to part with the toy, no matter how little they've played with it over the year. But I think it shows the children just how blessed they are..

That's a fantastic idea, my sis lives in the philippines with my 3 nieces. I will try and speak to them to see if they can help me coordinate something like that there. I can start now with DS then, don't have to wait till he's older. Thank you

[jedamum]

Andaiz:

I'd look him in the eye and say...\"it doesn't matter why! I only know you're my child and that makes you a wonderful blessing for me!\" and then give him a big hug!

- If that's just a simple question for affirmation, that that should do the trick.
- If it is a question of identity vs a Higher Being, then this would warrant a sit-down talk I'd think of who he is in the universe...
- or :idea: an inpromtu discussion of the birds and the bees??!?!

What was his expression/psyche like when he asked that question!

Oh...i will try your suggestions next time. thanks.
his expression is that of confusion when he asked this question.....