All About Autism

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I came across this blog entry. I am sure many of us here can relate to it.

I just hope my son will not turn violent and keep lying on the floor. There will truly be one day when he is stronger and bigger than me, and I cant subdue him anymore.

*note: the boy in this blog is special needs - not ASD*
http://anarchistsoccermom.blogspot.sg/2012/12/thinking-unthinkable.html

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slmkhoo,


Thanks. Your suggestion sounds really good to me. I never tried those before. Yes, even though he has ASD, but he still have his sense of pride and ego…

Sometimes after crying he will tell me "can you cry? Only baby cry". I think your approach might work. And he told me he always want to be a good boy.

[mashy]

When my gal did that, I totally ignored it. Yes, she also rolled on the floor. And she’s NT. So I believe it’s just a tantrum. When they are 12 and still doing that, then I will be worried. But kindy kids do that. So don’t worry ok?


Hehe, I think I really thick skin now. The teachers tried to bribe her with sweets, I took it away. Why should she be rewarded for bad behaviour? I simply told her I’m leaving, with or without her. She still tried to push her luck and end up held on to my legs as I walked. U know, like those drama? I walking and she on the floor, holding onto my legs? When she finally got to the door, then she refused to wear her shoes. So I just threw her shoes far away and I walked off. The teachers must be thinking I’m so hard hearted. She’s the princess in the school and everyone loved her to bits. And here I am being so harsh to her. Tsk tsk tsk.

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Mashy, slmkhoo,


I guessed I must be hard hearted like you all. Now even my NT 2 years old also learning from Kor Kor and sit on the floor.

K1, K2 still can lie on the floor and fuss and its normal??? I thought they are too big for this stun. Really look so ugly, childish and not appropriate.

My boy is either doing this to gain attention and trying to get things he wanted in his own way.

[mashy]

nugget:

Mashy, slmkhoo,


I guessed I must be hard hearted like you all. Now even my NT 2 years old also learning from Kor Kor and sit on the floor.

K1, K2 still can lie on the floor and fuss and its normal??? I thought they are too big for this stun. Really look so ugly, childish and not appropriate.

My boy is either doing this to gain attention and trying to get things he wanted in his own way.

They probably thought what they did at 3 would still work at 5? I've seen some boys done that to get their way. i guess boys are a bit more immature than girls. It will be over soon. Just hang on. My elder boy, when he was younger rolled and knocked his head on the floor (very carefully). Lol. Anyway he realised it's painful and a stupid way to protest so he stopped after a while.

[mashy]

slmkhoo:

nugget:

Mashy, slmkhoo,


I guessed I must be hard hearted like you all. Now even my NT 2 years old also learning from Kor Kor and sit on the floor.

K1, K2 still can lie on the floor and fuss and its normal??? I thought they are too big for this stun. Really look so childish!

My boy is either doing this to gain attention and trying to get things he wanted in his own way.

My experience, from my own kids and hearing from others, is that there is another 'terrible 2s' phase around 4yo, called 'fearsome 4s' by some writers. If the earlier phase was handled well and the child has experienced that it doesn't work, the 2nd phase should be very short. There will be challenges to parental authority every now and again throughout a child's life, especially in the teen years. The 2yo and 4yo phases are the noisiest though!

Yes, I think they do some odd stuff every 2-3 yrs. guess it's them trying to gain independence and want things done their way. We can't always get our way too, so slowly we have to let them make some decisions themselves. I've been exposing son to more decision making process and help him learn to make decisions himself. Like previously, we will decide what he wears and what he eats, what he does that day. Now we slowly let him decide within guidelines. I think when they 'feel' that they are in control, they behave better.

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slmkhoo,


Thanks for your advise. You really an experience mother. I was starting to question my parenting skills and wondering where went wrong. Its good talking to you. Thanks for enlightening me. I will remember the suggestions and give them a try.

Mashy!
You put a smile on my gloomy day

[quote]My elder boy, when he was younger rolled and knocked his head on the floor (very carefully). Lol. Anyway he realised it's painful and a stupid way to protest so he stopped after a while.[/quote]

This is so funny. *no offense* but I am sure now you looked back, you find it funny. Ok I will hang in there. And keep talking and drilling into his head.

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But on a happier note, now my boy can start to negotiate with me. Or blow whistle when the brother do the wrong thing.


Now when they fight, I will ask "who hit who first?"… he will tell me. I guessed even though he is naughtier, he also expressed himself better.

[helplessmum3]

nugget,


my son too, i so worried, he duno what is hurt to others, now he still young, so i always say i so worried i will one day kill by my son…

[Double E]

Hi mummies, long time no 'see'


Oh yes, about the recent shoot out incident in US, reports are linking Autism/Aspergers to Violence. I sure hope such reports can stop so that it will not create further stigma on our kids.

Nuggets,
My son also has a few episodes of tantrums this week. I was just telling his psychologist that he's tantrums have reduced a lot since 3 mths ago but right after that, for the next few days, he threw tantrums every day. Just like what the old people say, don't say the kid is 'good' cos they will be xiao qi and be naughty just when u least expect it. Argghh!

Last Fri at his therapist's clinic, I was talking to his therapist when he starts bugging me to buy him a bun (his routine, his dad buys for him after the sessions). I told him to wait as I was talking to his therapist. He started throwing tantrums and make angry groans. After I ended my conversation with his therapist, I told him that he did not wait as told, so I will not get him the bun. He kicked up a big fuss, cried and rolled on the floor. His dad carried him to a corner and made him sit there. We told him to stop crying before he can leave the chair. Of course, he didn't and cried louder. Hubby and I then made our way out, leave him behind. He panic, ran to us and said he wanted to wear shoes and leave with us. I said ok only if he stops crying. He was sobbing on the way out when the daddy told him off, saying that he would not get his bun cos he is not behaving well. After that, he tried to get my attention as I was ignoring him, he said he wants \"sayang\" from me. I relented and hugged him but at the same time, tell him he still will not get his bun. He then stopped crying and followed us to the car. It was such a struggle! I like you is very upset why he went back to his tantrum ways just when we thought he has improved. Let's pray for both our sons that they will behave and throw less tantrums.