2013 PSLE Discussions and Strategy
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I will always remember what my son’s doctor said to me…that was 12 years ago…‘You are his mother and not the other way’.
Parents cannot be friends with their kids or the respect and authority when needed to impose will not be effective. -
Shan:
Hi KSmom8 & ngl2010,
Hi. I only allow DS 2 hours of computer game each month. No exception for holiday. No iPhone games on weekdays but I allow him to play iPhone games on weekend provided he had completed his homework.ngl2010:
[quote=\"Shan\"]Hi, need advice.
DS doing PSLE this year is not motivated. I have to nag/shout at him to do his school/ tuition centre hw, revise & pack his bag otherwise he will be watching cartoons, just lazing around. He said doing work is boring. He is doing ok in Maths & Science but getting 50s-60s for English & Chinese.
He keeps asking to play computer games but I told him he can play only on weekends. In the past, he will be \"motivated\" to do his hw if I allow him to play computer games after he finishes.
For parents of kids doing PSLE this year, do you allow your kids to play computer games on weekdays? Appreciate if you can share. Thanks!
How do you get your DS to listen & not play computer games? Maybe I started too late, trying to control now when he is in P6. He gets very angry when I said no. I have another younger boy who is asking to play games every day, telling me need to collect somethings in the games, etc. Sigh![/quote]I lock his Wii, iPad, DS, etc once school starts. Somehow, out of sight ... Out of mind. As for computer, our computer is located in the dining room area... Everyone gets to see the contents on the computer as they walk from living room to dining room to kitchen... No privacy so can't hide and sneak to play.
If DS gets angry and sulks, he knows he still won't get his way. In fact, he can sulk whilst being punished. I'm a fierce mom. :nunchuk: He follows the rules and meets / exceeds my expectations, he gets his bonuses ( which includes his games ) during school holidays.
For my DS, letting him play during weekend or weekday after his work is completed, simply didn't work. He kept asking when he could play, which meant that he was thinking of his precious games too much, when he was supposed to be focusing on his school work.
For P6, he didn't get to play till PSLE ended. The amount of playtime depended on whether I thought he put in enough effort and his marks for prelims etc.
You know your child best.... Do what you think best suits him. -
I feel guilty for not stopping all my DS from playing too much computer games earlier. Will sit down & talk to DS who is taking PSLE this year & will stop P2 one otherwise too late & difficult.
Thanks to all for sharing! -
Do you know any school that engage Adam Khoo Learning Centre to motivate the P6 children? Any positive results?
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Hi reading the above posts regarding playing computer games, how about TV? My DS2 will always ask if he can watch TV during lunch (when I am at work) so I can't really tell what time he stops. And if he watch, DS1 who is taking PSLE this year will also tend to follow. Now that I did not tune the TV to receive local channels, he will ask if he can watch a movie (that's worst).
Also how do you all break their rest time? Example, after every hour of work 15 minutes rest? But will the 15 minutes extend to 30 minutes etc?
What I currently do is after lunch, 2 hours of work then rest for 1 hour. I try to ask them to go outdoors for that hour. But is it too long a break for P6? Sometimes DS1 can't seem to be able to complete his work.
Some advices and sharing of experiences appreciated
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ScaredyMum:
I usually dont ask my DS to work after having lunch or dinner. As they get a little sleepy and unable to concentrate. Usually after lunch they will watch tv for a while, take shower or nap and then go on to finish their work from 3-7. No TV or games but only 10 mins break every hour. It works for them as DH very fierce as has super high expectation. So DS has to listen and comply. After dinner, they get to rest for about 30 mins before going back to work again at 830-930pm. Then at 930pm, they can surf their FB or whatever games or watch tv for only 30 mins. Initially it was hard to put it to work but as time pass and if you are consistent and they know that you will not give way, they had no choice but to comply. They have to go for tuition 3-4 times a week too.Hi reading the above posts regarding playing computer games, how about TV? My DS2 will always ask if he can watch TV during lunch (when I am at work) so I can't really tell what time he stops. And if he watch, DS1 who is taking PSLE this year will also tend to follow. Now that I did not tune the TV to receive local channels, he will ask if he can watch a movie (that's worst).
Also how do you all break their rest time? Example, after every hour of work 15 minutes rest? But will the 15 minutes extend to 30 minutes etc?
What I currently do is after lunch, 2 hours of work then rest for 1 hour. I try to ask them to go outdoors for that hour. But is it too long a break for P6? Sometimes DS1 can't seem to be able to complete his work.
Some advices and sharing of experiences appreciated
On weekends, I allow them 2 hours of playtime. they can choose by themselves to save it for at night or use it up first. I let them choose so that they know they choose the time themselves and whatever reasons they have, they cannot argue. I uses an alarm clock to remind them.
Thats my way. -
AdonciaTang:
Thanks for sharing :rahrah:
I usually dont ask my DS to work after having lunch or dinner. As they get a little sleepy and unable to concentrate. Usually after lunch they will watch tv for a while, take shower or nap and then go on to finish their work from 3-7. No TV or games but only 10 mins break every hour. It works for them as DH very fierce as has super high expectation. So DS has to listen and comply. After dinner, they get to rest for about 30 mins before going back to work again at 830-930pm. Then at 930pm, they can surf their FB or whatever games or watch tv for only 30 mins. Initially it was hard to put it to work but as time pass and if you are consistent and they know that you will not give way, they had no choice but to comply. They have to go for tuition 3-4 times a week too.ScaredyMum:
Hi reading the above posts regarding playing computer games, how about TV? My DS2 will always ask if he can watch TV during lunch (when I am at work) so I can't really tell what time he stops. And if he watch, DS1 who is taking PSLE this year will also tend to follow. Now that I did not tune the TV to receive local channels, he will ask if he can watch a movie (that's worst).
Also how do you all break their rest time? Example, after every hour of work 15 minutes rest? But will the 15 minutes extend to 30 minutes etc?
What I currently do is after lunch, 2 hours of work then rest for 1 hour. I try to ask them to go outdoors for that hour. But is it too long a break for P6? Sometimes DS1 can't seem to be able to complete his work.
Some advices and sharing of experiences appreciated
On weekends, I allow them 2 hours of playtime. they can choose by themselves to save it for at night or use it up first. I let them choose so that they know they choose the time themselves and whatever reasons they have, they cannot argue. I uses an alarm clock to remind them.
Thats my way.
I will talk to my DSs and see which ways they prefer
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ScaredyMum:
Thanks for sharing :rahrah:
I usually dont ask my DS to work after having lunch or dinner. As they get a little sleepy and unable to concentrate. Usually after lunch they will watch tv for a while, take shower or nap and then go on to finish their work from 3-7. No TV or games but only 10 mins break every hour. It works for them as DH very fierce as has super high expectation. So DS has to listen and comply. After dinner, they get to rest for about 30 mins before going back to work again at 830-930pm. Then at 930pm, they can surf their FB or whatever games or watch tv for only 30 mins. Initially it was hard to put it to work but as time pass and if you are consistent and they know that you will not give way, they had no choice but to comply. They have to go for tuition 3-4 times a week too.AdonciaTang:
[quote=\"ScaredyMum\"]Hi reading the above posts regarding playing computer games, how about TV? My DS2 will always ask if he can watch TV during lunch (when I am at work) so I can't really tell what time he stops. And if he watch, DS1 who is taking PSLE this year will also tend to follow. Now that I did not tune the TV to receive local channels, he will ask if he can watch a movie (that's worst).
Also how do you all break their rest time? Example, after every hour of work 15 minutes rest? But will the 15 minutes extend to 30 minutes etc?
What I currently do is after lunch, 2 hours of work then rest for 1 hour. I try to ask them to go outdoors for that hour. But is it too long a break for P6? Sometimes DS1 can't seem to be able to complete his work.
Some advices and sharing of experiences appreciated
On weekends, I allow them 2 hours of playtime. they can choose by themselves to save it for at night or use it up first. I let them choose so that they know they choose the time themselves and whatever reasons they have, they cannot argue. I uses an alarm clock to remind them.
Thats my way.
I will talk to my DSs and see which ways they prefer :)[/quote]For me and DH, the Most important thing is that they must know that they are responsible for their own actions. If they have decided to do something, make sure they finish it or follow it. If not, nobody will listen to what they say again. -
ScaredyMum:
My kid will focus on one subject from 1.5hrs to 2hrs before she decides to take a break.
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Also how do you all break their rest time? Example, after every hour of work 15 minutes rest? But will the 15 minutes extend to 30 minutes etc?
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Personally, I think a good gauge will be...\"the kid needs to stay focus till the time is up for their longest paper\".
That should be 1.5hrs to 2hrs. -
Every child will need their own way to chill out. The best option is to work out the revision and relaxation with your child as partners. He plans timetable and you change and approve.
Depending on child, if u start revision early then you can revise smaller portions at a time with frequent but short breaks. This helps to relieve the boredom of studying. I cannot imagine a P6 studying for 45 mins or longer at a time!!!
If u start revision now, then your child has more time so you should not need to push so hard to expect child to study for 1-2 hours at a time with short breaks. That is way too long for a P6 child.
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