Lazy & Low Attention Span Kid

[ChiefKiasu]

slmkhoo:

We've also done that, and it works somewhat for one-on-one conversations and with people who are more familiar with her. But in groups and with people who aren't used to her, they just find her very hard to talk to! Oh well, that's just something she has to deal with. Actually, I don't think she cares if no-one talks to her, but we are concerned how she is going to manage in things like oral exams (are there oral exams at 'A' levels and higher?) and job interviews.

I'm in the middle of an experiment with my Sec 2 son. Essentially, we will spend about 15 minutes each day reading the Opinions page on Straits Times and then discuss the key points that the editor is trying to express, and then do critical analysis on those points or even add on to the points. This is done verbally to reduce the time taken. The nice thing about choosing the Opinions page is that it spans a spectrum of contemporary issues which are likely what people talk about, anyway.

I believe this can help to train critical thinking overtime, allowing us to rapidly process information and formulate decisions that can be communicated effectively.

Maybe you can try that too with your daughter.

[Nebbermind]

ChiefKiasu:

I'm in the middle of an experiment with my Sec 2 son. Essentially, we will spend about 15 minutes each day reading the Opinions page on Straits Times and then discuss the key points that the editor is trying to express, and then do critical analysis on those points or even add on to the points. This is done verbally to reduce the time taken. The nice thing about choosing the Opinions page is that it spans a spectrum of contemporary issues which are likely what people talk about, anyway.

I believe this can help to train critical thinking overtime, allowing us to rapidly process information and formulate decisions that can be communicated effectively.

Maybe you can try that too with your daughter.

What if I am also lazy and gave low attention span? :scratchhead:

[mico ricco]

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[sundaymorning]

yuanyuan mama:

Hi,


My dd is in P3. She is not lazy but low attention span. Her tuition teacher would complaint to me that she sort of losing her focus in the mid till the end of the lesson. Her school teacher told me exactly the same thing last year.

Also, my gal is very forgetful. I don't know how many times I had replaced the erasers, water bottle, rulers.......as she either forgot where she placed it or \"lost to no where\" as she claimed. I scolded, reminded and threatened with cane, no use. Still the same, to the extend that I suspect something wrong with her.

Any advice for me, please feel free to share. I am at my wits' end too :slapshead:

Hi ,
You could get the tuition teacher to play games with her to increase her attention span for learning . Making the lesson more interesting will make your girl remember the things she required to learn easily.
For the second issues, i was once like this when i am young. There is nothing to worry about . I think we have to be patience , kids are learning responsibility and sometimes it takes time to learn that. Gradually as i get older, i understand and handle my things with care and not lose it.
Perhaps you have to teach her how to be responsible to her items, and let her understand the consequences of losing it like if she lose an item , deduct a portion from her pocket money or smth ? just a suggestion

[Bellatklim]

Have you try to send your kid(S) for a profiling test? I been to one that is pretty detail and they even offer therapy session for kids to correct their behavours.


And another that they actually can profile the child without a test and I would say its 90% correct.

[chic_savvy]

ChiefKiasu:

slmkhoo:

I have a 16yo daughter like that too. The problem is that many people are very impatient and will not give her time to plan her answer then speak. It means that she is usually left out of conversations as it moves on before she has a chance to take part. It's OK at home as we will give her the time she needs, but with other people, they think she is unwilling to speak, or just too dumb to answer. Any suggestions?

There's nothing wrong with thinking before you speak. It's better than shooting off and then regretting the moment. I see it more as a virtue than a fault.

lol! Indeed! But it's true about children and especially adults, they don't really have the patience to listen (some teachers too) thus, the kid at school may become outcast

[chic_savvy]

Vez:

Hi chic_savvy ,

May I know did u bring your DD to any diagnostic test? Have a DD who is the same age as your who loves to read, loves art, creative and draws. The way you describe your DD is exactly like mine.

Really don't what to do already. Hopefully she can wake up soon

Hahaha so cute you! *hope she can wake up soon*

I have not take her to any tests (yet). My daughter she gives me confuse feelings. Just the other day, she told me she was praised in class and her teacher also emailed me on her good performance and behavior. But at home, she likes to show me her laziness leh. Or is it becos she's already too tired from school and just wants to chillax and play since she's done her \"work hard and play hard\" part? :stupid:

[chic_savvy]

One of my kids is like that and we do some role-plays about social situations when he is dumbfounded or does not know what to say, what will be a temporary answer he can give people. I know of introverted adults who have learnt how to let people know that they are thinking by saying \"I'm still listening to what you're saying but I\"m thinking about my own response.\"[/quote]

We've also done that, and it works somewhat for one-on-one conversations and with people who are more familiar with her. But in groups and with people who aren't used to her, they just find her very hard to talk to! Oh well, that's just something she has to deal with. Actually, I don't think she cares if no-one talks to her, but we are concerned how she is going to manage in things like oral exams (are there oral exams at 'A' levels and higher?) and job interviews.[/quote]

Yes, my concern is on the latter. Just days before she was one of the selected to become a prefect but her interview (nowadays they have INTERVIEWS??) didn't get her through.

[chic_savvy]

Actually if I want to take her for such diagnostics tests or profiling, where do I take her to? Poly clinics? Children specialist?

[Vez]

chic_savvy:

Actually if I want to take her for such diagnostics tests or profiling, where do I take her to? Poly clinics? Children specialist?

Actually I wanted to do that also.. But then still thinking still haven't action.If I decide to go I will bring her to Polyclinic get a referral letter. It must be a very long way to go.

I heard some extreme case that parents need to attend certain course so they can manage or deal with the kid.