What to do: Fighting in School

[Jennifer]

Rational_Parent:

Surely we all fought before and learn something when we were kids, don't we?

Maybe the gender of school teachers are majority women who did not engage in fights during their childhood. Hence they do not understand the above

[ammonite]

Jennifer:

Rational_Parent:

Surely we all fought before and learn something when we were kids, don't we?

Maybe the gender of school teachers are majority women who did not engage in fights during their childhood. Hence they do not understand the above

My parents vividly remembered that I threw shoes at some boys and my father solemnly told me - good, I know now that you can stand up for yourself. :evil:

Agree totally with strparent and rational parent. I think the gender of the child also makes a difference. Boys' play and dynamics are different from girls' play and dynamics. Mothers with only daughters probably won't understand. My MIL's perspective and advice are very different from my mum's (who basically surrenders). At some point, boys establish a certain understanding among themselves.

Slight aside, there was an incident when an older boy invited my son to a race and after losing, became very angry. He was a year older and one head taller. He screamed and shouted at my son and invited him to a fight. My son shook his head and walked off to another part of the playground. The boy followed, still shouting \"come and fight! you don't dare to fight?!?!\" My son sat down and looked away. The boy stood right in front of him and went on ranting. The boy's grandmother was talking to me but I kept an eye on them. Just as I was about to stop the grandmother so that I could intervene, my son suddenly swung a fist at this boy who clutched himself and gaped in disbelief for a few seconds. Then he started screaming,\"You hit me?!?! You actually hit me?!?!\" My son looked at him with narrowed eyes, shook his head and went off to help a little girl catch grasshoppers!

I apologised to the grandmother (who also apologised to me), and also told my son to apologise. They never play together again. In fact, I have only seen him once after that incident and he didn't want to play with any of the boys at the playground and the feeling was mutual.

[ammonite]

Strparent:

No biggie, usually standing up to abusive taunting sch mate or helping a fren who was bullied.

But we still met out some punishment of course, but inside, I am a proud dad :oops:

me too...
DH too...

so not very PC to say hor.... :siam:

[heyhoe]

I think it is only fair to listen to your ds side of the story before giving out any form of punishment.


Just to share that my ds (small frame) was bullied by 2 boys, for no apparent reason. His hand was held up by a bigger size boy and kicked in the groin by another boy. :mad:

Although, it hurts I'm glad that he learn to report to the teacher and doesn't bow to the bully. On my part, I highlight to the school in writing that bullying must be nipped in the bud. By writing, I've a record on hand should the same incident happen again :evil: .

After the incident, the boy apologised to ds and we let the matter go. The only sad part is the parents never even bother to call or write in to apologise.