Club SAHM

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ScaredyMum:

I am not even talking about expensive holidays and other indulgences.

These are wants not needs. Perfectly fine to do without. The first thing I cut down is travel budget after I quit my job.

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ammonite:

Single income can range from $4k to $50k a month.

:yikes:
I wonder what kind of jobs can earn $50K a month? SME bosses?

Like that can be rich tai tai leow.

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jedamum:

I thought i can do 1-to-1 for Chinese, but that was an extremely tedious period. It is difficult to teach language which requires very good foundation on the part of the one who teaches and able to know what is within syllabus, as Chinese scope is wide.

My Chinese is pretty good yo. But my dd 不受教 le, she doesn't want me to coach her. She said she rather go tuition which make sense because she spent all her time negotiating with me when I tried to guide her.

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slmkhoo:

metz:

If I were to judge them based on the effort they put in, I will be screaming at them for every paper. My boy was still reading storybooks the nights before his exam last year.

As long as he had done sufficient revision before he read his story books, I would have no problem with it. We should judge effort by other criteria as well, not just by time spent.

My dd won't even revise if she has her way. She always says she knows everything & that it's boring to revise. But I wanted her to get into the habit of preparing. So I insist she must at least glance through. If she revise sufficiently, I would be ready to accept whatever results she achieved. That's like our little pact since p1.

Nowadays whenever her classmates mentioned their parents gonna scold them for their results, my dd always feels so fortunate compared to them & proudly declare 'my mummy never once scold me over my marks'.

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slmkhoo:

If you had asked me then, I would have said I was the last person to want to be a SAHM. Not that I was very ambitious, but I did want a career and I've never really liked kids. But once I had a baby, I couldn't bear the thought of handing it over to someone else for hours a day, and thankfully, my husband preferred to entrust babycare to me than to someone else, even at the cost of my income. But I still don't see my whole future tied up in my kids and their kids!

My exact sentiments! :hi5:

[metz]

sleepy:

Nowadays whenever her classmates mentioned their parents gonna scold them for their results, my dd always proudly declare 'my mummy never once scold me over my mark'. Not even when she only gets 70 marks for tingxie because I noticed her learning the day before.

That's nothing unusual for my son :evil: He's terrible at Chinese and HCL is really a killer for him. But still, he's hoping to score 100 marks one of these days - so that he can be spared from xi2 zi4 :rotflmao:

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sleepy:

slmkhoo:

If you had asked me then, I would have said I was the last person to want to be a SAHM. Not that I was very ambitious, but I did want a career and I've never really liked kids. But once I had a baby, I couldn't bear the thought of handing it over to someone else for hours a day, and thankfully, my husband preferred to entrust babycare to me than to someone else, even at the cost of my income. But I still don't see my whole future tied up in my kids and their kids!

My exact sentiments! :hi5:

Life is really unpredictable. At that time, it was just a dream, an impossible dream. But I guess I was never an academic or career-minded person. Otherwise, I would not have given up a fully sponsored PHD programme with a guaranteed career.

Being a SAHM is just part of my dream. That's why I included the part about working. My mom has been a SAHM all her life since her marriage. My father is a MCP and wouldn't agree to her working despite her wish. So, it is crucial that I have that freedom to choose. In fact, I am already considering various alternatives to utilise my mornings in a more $productive way.

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metz:

A JC friend posed me this question about my ambition when we were 18. My answer must have startled him, haha. Told him it was my dream to have a family with 2 kids and be a housewife. My husband must love me enough to allow me to make choices about working. So yes, I am really glad that I am living my dream now

I was big fan of 亦舒, started reading her novels since I was 11 years old. She influenced me greatly during my growing years. So I actually have this vivid image in my mind that I want to be the character commonly depicted in her books - An intelligent, well educated, witty, humourous, attractive yet 大女人主义 kind of career woman who excels in her area of expertise.
I even have an image of my apartment - must be 独居 because all the characters in her books are so independent.
When I was in secondary 3, I made it my goal to obtain a Masters degree because I have to be well educated in order to fit the image in her books.

Reality is of course very different. I am not indepedent at all and in fact quite 小女人 (although I'm 大女人 in my heart). I'm quite happy to being taken care of. Best is don't have to do anything, just idle. Really 没出息 I know

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sleepy:

metz:

A JC friend posed me this question about my ambition when we were 18. My answer must have startled him, haha. Told him it was my dream to have a family with 2 kids and be a housewife. My husband must love me enough to allow me to make choices about working. So yes, I am really glad that I am living my dream now

I was big fan of 亦舒, started reading her novels since I was 11 years old. She influenced me greatly during my growing years. So I actually have this vivid image in my mind that I want to be the character commonly depicted in her books - An intelligent, well educated, witty, humourous, attractive yet 大女人主义 kind of career woman who excels in her area of expertise.
I even have an image of my apartment - must be 独居 because all the characters in her books are so independent.
When I was in secondary 3, I made it my goal to obtain a Masters degree because I have to be well educated in order to fit the image in her books.

Wow, you can still remember when you started on romance stories! For moi, I can't remember when I started on romance storybooks but Sweet Valley High was definitely my first contact with BGR. I think I started on 亦舒 and the likes much latter.

sleepy:

Reality is of course very different. I am not indepedent at all and in fact quite 小女人 (although I'm 大女人 in my heart). I'm quite happy to being taken care of. Best is don't have to do anything, just idle. Really 没出息 I know

不是没出息， 是幸福的小女人啦! 不过不干点活儿，很容易发福喔。

[janet88]

I grew up reading Sweet Valley High and Nancy Drew books.


SAHMs are fortunate to have husbands who give us an option whether to work or not. When hubby and I were shopping for our first flat, we decided on a 4 room, so that if I choose to stay at home to be with the kids, he can finance our flat without having to top up cash.