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[sharonkhoo]

jedamum:

so now when i try out new recipe, i will sms dh to buy supper on his way home.

I would never do this - this way, you teach kids that even if they are fussy, they will get something else to eat later. My way is to let them go hungry (usually they will still have eaten something) or tell them to eat plain bread/crackers. So they learn not to be fussy. But I'm 'nice' enough not to make a whole meal out of something that I think they may not like (eg. even if 1 ingredient is new, the rest of the dish will be familiar, or if the sauce is new, they can 'drip-dry' the food), so at least they will get something to eat.

[sharonkhoo]

vinegar:

same...my son eats brocolli,cabbage,cucumbers,cauliflowers,potato.


he takes at least 1 hour to finish his meal,irregardless whether there is any food of his liking.

I have no such patience. From the time my kids were toddlers, I threw away meals that weren't eaten in 30mins (and no snacks or milk till the next meal). I only did that once or twice per child and it never happened again.

[vinegar]

i don’t hv the heart to do that…But i feel i am running out of patience.As what Buds & smartmummy advice,i’ve to start somewhere,if not,this things will keep going on.

[sharonkhoo]

vinegar:

i don't hv the heart to do that.....But i feel i am running out of patience.As what Buds & smartmummy advice,i've to start somewhere,if not,this things will keep going on.

I had to steel myself to be hard-hearted in those early years, but I told myself that the earlier I start the better, and missed meal or 2 has no impact on their overall health. In the event, it only took a couple of times (and not consecutive meals) to teach them, and I've had trouble-free years since. If my kids pick at their food, I know that they are genuinely not hungry for whatever reason.

[janet88]

During meal times, they are supposed to sit at the table and finish their meal before they can walk away…once they do so, I assume they are done and will clear dishes. So even if there is a phone call or SMS, they are not allowed to take. I set the example by doing the same.


The other thing…no in-between meals esp b4 lunch and dinner. No tea break nor supper. 3 square meals. My house, my rules.

[KSmom8]

slmkhoo:

vinegar:

same...my son eats brocolli,cabbage,cucumbers,cauliflowers,potato.


he takes at least 1 hour to finish his meal,irregardless whether there is any food of his liking.

I have no such patience. From the time my kids were toddlers, I threw away meals that weren't eaten in 30mins (and no snacks or milk till the next meal). I only did that once or twice per child and it never happened again.

DS will scream joyously I'd threw away his food! No food never mind, we used to joke that he survives on air. Eating AND drinking milk are really chores to him. When he was younger, he's take an hour or more to eat and drink his milk. DH does not have patience. So the maid ( made sure i was present always at these times ) and I would take turns....share in the pain.

As he grew older, I'd allocate 45 mins to his lunch. Usually, I let him eat by himself for the first 25 mins, then I'd take over to feed him. There's usually a carrot for him to finish his meal, eg no cartoon today if he doesn't finish and extra reward if he finished food by himself.

Dinners are easier cos I usually cook one of his favourite dish. He can throw up everything if he does not like the taste of the food. We eat together. He'd be the last to finish but thankfully I don't need to feed him for dinner.

People don't realize that he is actually a very fussy eater when they see him... It's hard work keeping him that weight.

[vinegar]

what is ur son weight?


I can understand ur agony.Each time i complained to my colleagues(was working that time),my colleagues consoled me n said her brother used to survive on milk & biscuits when he was small.Now he is very big n macho…n eats a lot! esp come back fr. army,his mum spends the whole day in kitchen,keep cooking for him.

[SAHM Chew]

vinegar:

TheAnswer:

Hey Vinegar,
Try not to eat leftover food all the time. My DH will try to finish the dishes cos he knows I will throw them away. He hates to waste food. Now only occasionally some soup left over which sometimes he will drink up before leaving for work the next morning or I will have it for lunch.

I eat leftover food for lunch.DH is small eater,doesn't eat a lot.

frankly,i am kinda sianz over on & off quarrel.All along,my DH cannot stress well,i know he is trying.I can't help him much except to load him off fr. hsework n coaching for DC.Other than that,i don't know how i could help him coz i nid help for myself as well.I am actually \"bitting my lips to pull thru\".

perhaps this is a typical trait of mummy's son.He is very well-protected in the terms of emotionally,financially,physically since young.While i am the one being threw inside the jungle n survive by myself....

i feel my DH has prob to ask for help n make decision. He has a capable mother who handles everything for him.....so i always remind myself not to do so for my DC,if not,they'll follow their father footstep n lose survival skills.

My DH is also protected from his mum since young. But luckily, he went oversea for his Degree, therefore, that force him to be independent. If not, he will forever be mummy's boy too.

[SAHM Chew]

slmkhoo:

vinegar:

i don't hv the heart to do that.....But i feel i am running out of patience.As what Buds & smartmummy advice,i've to start somewhere,if not,this things will keep going on.

I had to steel myself to be hard-hearted in those early years, but I told myself that the earlier I start the better, and missed meal or 2 has no impact on their overall health. In the event, it only took a couple of times (and not consecutive meals) to teach them, and I've had trouble-free years since. If my kids pick at their food, I know that they are genuinely not hungry for whatever reason.

I wish I can do that. I did try to do that, but was not successful, as the in laws will always give snacks to the kids when they refused their meals.

[vinegar]

my DH always let my son plays games. It has since become a habit.


yesterday,I told him off. I don’t mind let him relax after CA1,but not this type of relax.I very against games playing. Thus,I always get him go out explore nature or sports.But sometx,i am tired from cooking,hsework n coaching him homework,hv very little energy left,to play sports wf him.DH also lazy…