桃花谈

[Imami]

Some times I wonder if those Chinese women are the same ones who got raped/multilated/murdered etc by the Japanese during the Japanese occupation, 回来讨债。 and those men who fell into the traps were the japanese soldiers who committed the sins in their previous lives. Oops 我又胡思乱想le .

[vinegar]

insider,

My uncle had married 3 times.He divorced my aunty n married another richer n younger woman.Few yrs later,he divorced again n married another younger woman,almost same age as his daughter(my cousin).He is ard 50+,the 3rd wife is in 30s.
He has a daughter(my cousin)fr 1st marriage,2 sons fr. 2nd marriage,2sons fr. 3rd marriage.The 2nd wife abandon her sons n now the 3rd wife take care of them,according to my mum,she ill treats them.

My uncle is in pink of health n still very happy le…

[insider]

vinegar:

insider,

My uncle had married 3 times.He divorced my aunty n married another richer n younger woman.Few yrs later,he divorced again n married another younger woman,almost same age as his daughter(my cousin).He is ard 50+,the 3rd wife is in 30s.
He has a daughter(my cousin)fr 1st marriage,2 sons fr. 2nd marriage,2sons fr. 3rd marriage.The 2nd wife abandon her sons n now the 3rd wife take care of them,according to my mum,she ill treats them.

My uncle is in pink of health n still very happy le....

Your uncle has the same number of wives as my friend's dad and one wife behind my dad. heeheehee...

Many in their generation is about like this, 三妻四妾. However, in general, they still will take care of their kiddos despite having affairs / wives outside unlike the 'modern' generation people who if want to cut, can be quite 绝情.

The 'love' between a man and a woman in a marital relationship during my mum's time is quite different from the 'love' as of now. In her generation, women are more tolerant about affairs / extra wives and could accept easier. Most modern women would have asked the men to go fly kites...

Your uncle sounds like someone who has 福分 in his own way as of currently as long as he doesn't really evoke curses from the rest (even my dad was relatively with good 福分）. If he does, then it is still yet to be seen...

vinegar, you may really have to think about the possibility to re-enter work force coz staying at home may worsen your relationship with your husband. Discuss with him and seek his blessings. If you continue to be a SAHM, please have some 私房钱. Overall, you seem to be a quite capable woman but somehow you are not realising your own potentials with more negative Qi = even being a SAHM, your 'net gain' seems to be a negative and so you may want to reconsider (take your time, no hurry).

[insider]

Imami:

Some times I wonder if those Chinese women are the same ones who got raped/multilated/murdered etc by the Japanese during the Japanese occupation, 回来讨债。 and those men who fell into the traps were the japanese soldiers who committed the sins in their previous lives. Oops 我又胡思乱想le .

Imami, dont 胡思乱想. Dont anyhow 起念.

About 2 years ago I went to Nanjing to visit the massacre memorial hall alone.

It is a very long building.

The moment I went near the building, not even in anyway near the main entrance yet, I was swept by a strong sense of grief that made me keep tearing so unexpectedly. Somehow, I had a sense that I might be one of the women / child who was killed and buried inside. (very strange but powerful experience)

It's still just be the best that you can be (to be a person with 仁 and keep practising 仁 with your husband and your child and the rest around you) and then the rest will really fall into place...

[vinegar]

insider,

according to my mum,one of his sons,by the 2nd wife,is abnormal.They put the abnormal boy to the temple instead of taking care of him… The 1st wife,my aunt,did a curse during 2nd wife pregnancy.

My mum said the curse somehow also fell back to my aunt.She is in 60yrs,staying alone.The only daughter she has,migrated n married in usa.Her daughter has been trying for kid for yrs,but on avail.My mum said not sure if the curse she made.

[insider]

vinegar:

insider,

according to my mum,one of his sons,by the 2nd wife,is abnormal.They put the abnormal boy to the temple instead of taking care of him... The 1st wife,my aunt,did a curse during 2nd wife pregnancy.

My mum said the curse somehow also fell back to my aunt.She is in 60yrs,staying alone.The only daughter she has,migrated n married in usa.Her daughter has been trying for kid for yrs,but on avail.My mum said not sure if the curse she made.

This is a big 共业 among all who are related in blood in your aunt's family.

You just keep a mental note of how your uncle and aunt die, as in the process of dying.

If carrying a lot of curses, will die slowly and painfully, unless forgiven.

As said, positive and negative seeds are all in us. If the negative seeds have been suppressed all along and later they mature one right after another, it will be disastrous...

PS:
So far I think the worst dying process that I have ever known of is my friend's grandma.

Grandma helped one of her daughters to put black magic on a man whom the daughter liked. That man subsequently married the daughter and listened to the daughter.

Grandma was bed ridden during old age for about 3 to 4 years.

Her whole body literally ROTTEN. Part by part - rotting.

Basically, she started to rot while she was still alive and every inch of her body was in pain.

The day when she died at home, my friend went to open the window to let in fresh air. SWAMP of flies flew in and feasted on her grandma rotting body...

BTW, this 'friend' is the friend whom mum was 'purchased' by her grandma as a 童养媳 to take care of her low IQ dad who raped my friend when she was young. This grandma ill treated my friend's mum all the while. And then this 共业 played itself out 'automatically' with each one getting the deserving part of the shares of merits and demerits...

[vinegar]

sound scary…

[SAHM_TAN]

Hi insider,


For the 2 examples of 共业, the curse and the black magic, are you saying that the demerits will affect all the family members connected by blood. Does that mean even if the member does not know also will kena? For example a child who’s not born when the deed was committed.

[vinegar]

insider,

how did u know my DH doesn’t give me any $$?

My DH pays for everything n gave some cash,just enuff to pay for groceries & food.He doesn’t see the reason to give me more $$ as savings. I told him i nid some 私房钱,he said i don’t trust him.Since he pays for everything,he doesn’t see the point of giving me extra.So i also gave up asking.

do u foresee he might hv affair in future?

[insider]

SAHM_TAN:

Hi insider,


For the 2 examples of 共业, the curse and the black magic, are you saying that the demerits will affect all the family members connected by blood. Does that mean even if the member does not know also will kena? For example a child who's not born when the deed was committed.

Any child borne to any particular set of parents comes with a purpose - 讨债 or 还债. This means he will participate in the 共业 of a family no matter how...

As said, this child will be borne with a certain amount of 慧根.

If he is borne in a very difficult family but he's there to 还债, he can act as the stabilising force in the family to help the family.

If he is there to 讨债，then he is capable of ransacking the whole family even if he is borne in a rich family.

We say 共业， coz the child may have some or many others in the family to throw 'nails' at him. The more he is being 'nailed', the more he maybe be affected. Then, he also may throw 'nails' back to affect others. Therefore, this big 共业 that everyone in a family is undertaking together.

My friend was borne with an evil grandma and a very weak and helpless mother. She was originally just a pure innocent baby. But her grandma's evils might have affected her father being low IQ. Her mum who was under long term ill treatment by her grandma and her dad (sexual and physical abuse) was unlikely to be emotionally stable and we maybe can imagine what kind of deep grudges that she was holding in her heart. So can further imagine her family was like got minimal positive Qi and that perhaps compounded and resulted in my friend got raped by own father.

It is just fortunate that my friend has enough 慧根 to forgive her dad and move on. Last week when I met her and we talked about our parents, I could still see tears of her acknowledgement of her father as a father when she talked about him.

My friend was borne to the family to 还债 and I would consider the debts between her and her dad are over and in their next lives, they would not meet each other again to settle this score...

PS: My friend's family is Catholic. Her mum is a very devoted one while she a half-past-six believer whom I always encourage her to go church more often...