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[ngl2010]

SAHM Chew:

Ladies, what is your darkest moment as a SAHM?


I am facing my darkest moment now. My DH had decided to quit his high paying job and soon we will be unemployed with 3 young boys. And high expenses to maintain.

No new job at the moment and we have to tap into our savings.

Can he find a job first before he quit? I know of somebody that quit his high paying job and could not find job until now. Already more than 6 months. He is above 40 so it is difficult to find a job although he is willing to receive lower salary.

[TheAnswer]

vinegar:

RA RA RA......pai sey le....


even we married for almost 10yrs+,i still chase him out when i am changing. :oops:

It's too much hassle. We always change in front of each other. Why need to chase him out? What is it that he hasn't seen :?

[janet88]

SAHM Chew:

Ladies, what is your darkest moment as a SAHM?


I am facing my darkest moment now. My DH had decided to quit his high paying job and soon we will be unemployed with 3 young boys. And high expenses to maintain.

No new job at the moment and we have to tap into our savings.

My darkest moment was when I had depression. Hubby retrenched then, he joined one stat board in the East. Worked till 10pm everyday...sat and sun, sales rep called whole day. He was unreachable.

Depression hit me badly...hubby thinks I was faking to get attention. Told me to snap out of it. Though I wasn't suicidal, I cried all day...mornings were the worst bcos I just couldn't start the day. I hid in the room and refused to see anyone.
Saw psychiatrist. She started me on antidepressant. It took me LONG 2 months before I started to feel better. She also counseled hubby that depression isn't a snap-and-get out of it thing. I was concerned with costs of medication and wanted to avoid but could not...knowing the pay then was lower.

[BeContented]

TheAnswer:

vinegar:

RA RA RA......pai sey le....


even we married for almost 10yrs+,i still chase him out when i am changing. :oops:

It's too much hassle. We always change in front of each other. Why need to chase him out? What is it that he hasn't seen :?

New fats. New stretch marks. New old age spots.

[sharonkhoo]

BeContented:

TheAnswer:

It's too much hassle. We always change in front of each other. Why need to chase him out? What is it that he hasn't seen :?

New fats. New stretch marks. New old age spots.

If your husband has watched you through morning sickness and through labour and birth, why worry about him seeing anything else?

[BeContented]

slmkhoo:

BeContented:

[quote=\"TheAnswer\"]It's too much hassle. We always change in front of each other. Why need to chase him out? What is it that he hasn't seen :?

New fats. New stretch marks. New old age spots.

If your husband has watched you through morning sickness and through labour and birth, why worry about him seeing anything else?[/quote]No morning sickness.
Emergency Caesarian.
So looks like he has seen nothing gross except my ever increasing wrinkles, fats, stretch marks & age-spot. Haha.

My answer above was meant as joke. We change in front of each other

[janet88]

Yeah, after 14 years, what has he NOT seen

Wrinkles sure to have...just that lines are not too deep.
Fats...from sitting down to surf net.
Pimples/white hair from coaching kids and planning their schedules, CA/SA.

[TheAnswer]

ngl2010:

SAHM Chew:

Ladies, what is your darkest moment as a SAHM?


I am facing my darkest moment now. My DH had decided to quit his high paying job and soon we will be unemployed with 3 young boys. And high expenses to maintain.

No new job at the moment and we have to tap into our savings.

Can he find a job first before he quit? I know of somebody that quit his high paying job and could not find job until now. Already more than 6 months. He is above 40 so it is difficult to find a job although he is willing to receive lower salary.

High paying jobs are really hard to find. My DH has friends who quit their jobs and ended up without employment for years. Really need a job before quitting.

[sleepy]

TheAnswer:

ngl2010:

[quote=\"SAHM Chew\"]Ladies, what is your darkest moment as a SAHM?


I am facing my darkest moment now. My DH had decided to quit his high paying job and soon we will be unemployed with 3 young boys. And high expenses to maintain.

No new job at the moment and we have to tap into our savings.

Can he find a job first before he quit? I know of somebody that quit his high paying job and could not find job until now. Already more than 6 months. He is above 40 so it is difficult to find a job although he is willing to receive lower salary.

High paying jobs are really hard to find. My DH has friends who quit their jobs and ended up without employment for years. Really need a job before quitting.[/quote]
logical advice but I think need to understand why he wants to quit?

I always remember the suicide case many years ago. A father committed suicide together with his son. Work pressure was too much for him & his unsympathetic superior refused his request for transfer. was it LTA or smrt? forgot which company he was in. Very very sad & possibly avoidable if he can just quit

[ammonite]

Good point. SIL is teacher. One of her students’ father was found in the river. Officially it was misadventure, but another colleague who knew the father said he had depression.


SAHM Chew,
I have seen relatives family going through financial difficulties, from very rich to bankruptcy, family abandoned by father/husband, husband lose respectable in and go to prison, dying child.

The worst, the absolute worst, is having to nurse a dying child. Money can be earned back, broken families can heal, prison can come out and start again. Dying child is a forever pain.

The best is to provide your husband with a listening ear, tell him The family can make adjustments and pull through together. Your sons may surprise you with their grit and tenacity and whatever happens now, may be the event that turned them into strong men in future.

Look through your finances and see how long they can last. Then you can have a better idea how to move forward.