Stay At Home DAD

[mel2sg]

Eagle-Ladybird:

About time this topic is discussed . . yes :goodpost:


I wud luv to be SAHD. I have worked out the whole itinerary for it:

Wake up have my breakfast together with family. Then send kids to school and drop wife to work (since she's a high flyer, she goes to work at 9.30am).

Then, go for a 9-hole golf game with buddies. Then pick the kids up and have lunch at the club. Maid feed them lunch, and I continue with my buddies. Then go for a quick swim with the kids and showers taken care of. Send them home for afternoon nap, and I doze off too (of course, after 2 hours under the sun).


how i wish my itineries are like he above. btw I am a SAHD with 2 school-going kids. however, the reality is like blow:
5.40am - wake up, wash cups & boil water & prepare breakfast for DD
6.05am - wake DD up, while I go & fold laundries (those put in dryer night before)
6.35am - me go wash up and dress
6.50am - send DD to school
7.05am - reach home, have breakfast with wife
7.35am - wife leaves home, tidy up. ironing kids uniforms for tomorrow
8.20am - wake DS up, and tidy up bedroom & prepare his breakfast
8.30am - vacuum house
9.00am - DS finish bf, me do worktime with him
10.00am - finish worktime, Ds goes poopoo, got spare time go feed goldfisf or tend to my plants.
10.30am - bath for DS, and at same time scrup toilet. I give direction to him to point where to splash water, very convenient
10.50am - DS dress up and ready to leave house. Drive to nearby mall for lunch.
11.00am - lunch with DS
11.45am - send DS to school
12.00pm - marketing
12.20pm - back home, faster mop floor
1.15pm - go fetch DD from school
1.30pm - get or bring DD for lunch
2.00pm - back home, DD bath and do homework, if need my help i have to teach but nowaday seldom. The only time i can either catch a nap, catch up on news on internet or monitor share market. bi-weekly have to change bedsheets and curtains during this timing.
5.00pm - cook rice and prepare fish for steaming (we cater food). So fish is add-on
5.40pm - go fetch boy, why so early because kiasu if not early cannot chope nice parking in front of school
6.50pm - reach home and have dinner
7.20pm - finish dinner and wash-plates

Normally wife will teach kids in evening, if she busy I will have to OT also teach until 9.30pm before they go to sleep. Still got many other things never put in. sigh, so who say got time for golf? :?






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Wake up, send the kids to enrichment classes and I'll meet up with some brothers for coffee. Maybe go to car show rooms, or happy hours :celebrate:

Pick them up from enrichment classes, and pick wifey up as well (since she's a highflyer, she leaves work maybe 5pm). Go for a stroll at the parks, have dinner, and packed them home, ready for bed! They sleep by 9pm, and the rest is history :celebrate:

Sounds alright . . . . or am I getting flame
:siam:

[Oppsgal]

Dora1:

Well it was a good option for me as I could work just a few hours a week and be a SAHM for most of the rest of the week. At least I can have my own pocket money and not get money fr DH. And at the same time take care of DD. it's definitely better to have part time on the resume than completely no work at all. Employers are generally concerned that SAHP are detached fr the working world, so working part time sort of alleviate the concern.

Qualifications depends on the field. Min good hons deg with many years of relevant hands on experience if its a very hands on course. For the more academic courses, min masters deg

For me, I used to do some temp jobs last time, when interview, the interviewer will ask why keep changing jobs. Some will try to lower salary to almost same as the temp jobs, calculate to per month, let say earn $7 per hour, they might take $7 per hour X 30days or what...

[Dora1]

Oppsgal:

Dora1:

Well it was a good option for me as I could work just a few hours a week and be a SAHM for most of the rest of the week. At least I can have my own pocket money and not get money fr DH. And at the same time take care of DD. it's definitely better to have part time on the resume than completely no work at all. Employers are generally concerned that SAHP are detached fr the working world, so working part time sort of alleviate the concern.

Qualifications depends on the field. Min good hons deg with many years of relevant hands on experience if its a very hands on course. For the more academic courses, min masters deg

For me, I used to do some temp jobs last time, when interview, the interviewer will ask why keep changing jobs. Some will try to lower salary to almost same as the temp jobs, calculate to per month, let say earn $7 per hour, they might take $7 per hour X 30days or what...

I think temp and part time is not entirely the same. Also depends on how you present your working history. I'll say that I'm a SAHM working part time occasionally to keep in touch with the working world, focus is on kid. Now kid old enuf to go cc so I'm looking for full time work. If you say you were temping, then it gives the impression that you were looking for a full time job, but can't find.
And I think the fact that poly pays the part time lecturer very well also up the bargaining power when I returned to work ($70/h).

[Imp75]

I am interested to be a part-time lecturer (ie work 5 half days). What are the polys/tertiary institutions looking for when hiring such part-timers? What workload would you have (pre-class prep?) and what is the expectations for part-timers?

[Dora1]

Imp75:

I am interested to be a part-time lecturer (ie work 5 half days). What are the polys/tertiary institutions looking for when hiring such part-timers? What workload would you have (pre-class prep?) and what is the expectations for part-timers?

I think different courses and polys have different requirements. Anyway, it's not a permanent position and they will only have when they need (e.g. full time staff go on maternity, sabbatical etc). So you need to source out and ask around. Best is if you know someone in there.

[Imp75]

yup will check from school but would you be able to share from your own experience like do you have to spend time prepping prior to class etc, expectations from school generally?

[Dora1]

Imp75:

yup will check from school but would you be able to share from your own experience like do you have to spend time prepping prior to class etc, expectations from school generally?

Depends largely on the person that hand over the module to you. Some lecturers have very detailed lessons plans, notes and slides. So you just have to familiarize and teach. And set assignments and test questions according to the lesson plan. Need to mark test, assignments and compile scores at end of term.
If you teach lab, have to go through the experiment beforehand to familiarize, cos teaching scale equipment can be diff fr the actual industry ones. And mark lab reports.
If the lecturer before you is very messy with very messy documentation then a lot more effort would be required to sort them out.
However if they require to come up with the curriculum material fr scratch, you will be paid separately.

[SBKS]

Dora1:

You mentioned that your industry has the highest FTs. Have you considered the possibility that you can't go back to your industry once you are out for a few years since there are FTs around that can easily fill your shoes? If you are mentally prepared to switch line and start fr scratch when u go back to work, then it's fine.

For me, I enjoyed my time as a SAHM mum very much. However, when my hubby nearly lost his job, we realized that it is extremely risky to survive on single income in SG, unless the working spouse has a super stable job like a teacher.
It's diff fr our parent's time where my dad worked for the same co for 30 years and retrenchment is unheard of.
So this is stg that you need to consider. How vulnerable is your DW's job in SG?
Also, I'll suggest that you take up some part time work so that your résumé looks better.
I was teaching part time in poly, just a few hours a week. That is a fall back plan that you can consider.

interesting prespective. yes, DW job is considered stable but yes depending on 1 income in sg is really unstable. we also gt to cater for unexpected situations and medical bills.

i am keen on teaching but not keen on admin work that comes with MOE syllabus. :siam:

But i doubt i can teach in poly or MOE as i have no prior teaching experience.

[SBKS]

Irrelevant:

This remark piqued my curiosity.

This is not the first time I have seen this factor being cited in relation to caring for one's parents. {I'm not suggesting in any sense that Dora1 does not take care of her parents} I have seen quite a bit of TV programmes or interviews that the aggrieved parent(s) would rather rely on public assistance schemes/charity/manual jobs than to burden their children with their problems.

I'm puzzled. Personally, I do not see myself as being particularly filial BUT cutting my retired parents' allowance is the farthest thing in my mind. I would rather sell my car, downgrade my flat, cut my kids' pocket money, etc than touch my aged parents' allowance. Don't other folks feel the same way? :scratchhead:

i can only say \"to each his own\"

also, m curious, how much in term of percentage do you give your parents for allowance? i give only very little 10% of my gross salary.

[SBKS]

mel2sg:

how i wish my itineries are like he above. btw I am a SAHD with 2 school-going kids. however, the reality is like blow:
5.40am - wake up, wash cups & boil water & prepare breakfast for DD
6.05am - wake DD up, while I go & fold laundries (those put in dryer night before)
6.35am - me go wash up and dress
6.50am - send DD to school
7.05am - reach home, have breakfast with wife
7.35am - wife leaves home, tidy up. ironing kids uniforms for tomorrow
8.20am - wake DS up, and tidy up bedroom & prepare his breakfast
8.30am - vacuum house
9.00am - DS finish bf, me do worktime with him
10.00am - finish worktime, Ds goes poopoo, got spare time go feed goldfisf or tend to my plants.
10.30am - bath for DS, and at same time scrup toilet. I give direction to him to point where to splash water, very convenient
10.50am - DS dress up and ready to leave house. Drive to nearby mall for lunch.
11.00am - lunch with DS
11.45am - send DS to school
12.00pm - marketing
12.20pm - back home, faster mop floor
1.15pm - go fetch DD from school
1.30pm - get or bring DD for lunch
2.00pm - back home, DD bath and do homework, if need my help i have to teach but nowaday seldom. The only time i can either catch a nap, catch up on news on internet or monitor share market. bi-weekly have to change bedsheets and curtains during this timing.
5.00pm - cook rice and prepare fish for steaming (we cater food). So fish is add-on
5.40pm - go fetch boy, why so early because kiasu if not early cannot chope nice parking in front of school
6.50pm - reach home and have dinner
7.20pm - finish dinner and wash-plates

Normally wife will teach kids in evening, if she busy I will have to OT also teach until 9.30pm before they go to sleep. Still got many other things never put in. sigh, so who say got time for golf? :?

hi mel2sg,

thanks for sharing your itinerary. I think mine should be a little bit like urs.

this is somthing that I am not doing now but a proposed plan
4am - wake up, wash up, dress up & boil water, have my breakfast
430am - online business
630am - throw clothes into washing machine and wake whole house up
640am - Dress DDs and wash them up.
7am - try to get a cab and send them to school
9am - reach home and start doing misc hsework like washing dishes, drying and folding clothes.
(on twice a week this slot is meant for exercises till 11am)
10am - mopped the whole hse and wash toilets and check inventory (weekly)
12pm - lunch
1245pm - ironing
130pm - online forums, checking, banking, business(if any)
330pm - rest
4pm - go to fetch DDs and take cab back
530pm - reach home and let them settle down
6pm - dinner with them
7pm - pack their school bags
730pm - bathe them
8pm - wind them down
9pm - kids sleep

we are trying to get school bus but still pending and no childcare near our house.