All About Autism

[helplessmum3]

Imeemee,


Thank you … Becos of this forum n mummies … I fall n stand up again n again…

My son still not so good in comprehend

But don’t hav behavior issues in school… That’s gladly …

[helplessmum3]

Slmkhoo ,


Y most of them beats school friends when they get older ?

So far my son no beats fren but I’m worry why n when they start to harm friends ?

[peapot]

Simkhoo, my gal does not hold it against her. I have explain to her that her friend can’t control herself. I told her she is autistic. I would like her to know and see more things. But the problem here is that it’s a constant hit and shove. So I worry my girl thinks normal to get hit for no reason.


Some friends recommended that I should tell my girl to mix with more friends and don’t just stick to her only.

[ImMeeMee]

Mummies


Have you heard of comic strip conversations? Its developed by Carol Gray, the pioneer behind social stories. These are visual representations of a conversation.

Has it helped you and your child in any way?

[mashy]

peapot:

Simkhoo, my gal does not hold it against her. I have explain to her that her friend can't control herself. I told her she is autistic. I would like her to know and see more things. But the problem here is that it's a constant hit and shove. So I worry my girl thinks normal to get hit for no reason.


Some friends recommended that I should tell my girl to mix with more friends and don't just stick to her only.

Perhaps communicate with thAt girl's parents and see how u can work together on this. I see that you are disturbed by the hitting and shoving part. Similarly, I wasn't too happy when my boy was constantly hit by another boy. I think parents can help in way to reinforce at home that hitting is not permissible. If the parents don't care, then ask your girl to move on.

[ImMeeMee]

peapot:

Simkhoo, my gal does not hold it against her. I have explain to her that her friend can't control herself. I told her she is autistic. I would like her to know and see more things. But the problem here is that it's a constant hit and shove. So I worry my girl thinks normal to get hit for no reason.


Some friends recommended that I should tell my girl to mix with more friends and don't just stick to her only.

peapot, appreciate that you are so open-minded about your child having a ASD friend.

Being a parent to an ASD child I would be interested to know if my child is hurting someone else unknowingly and what I can do to help. So maybe if you are on close terms with your doter's ASD friend's parents you could let them know but with the intent to see how to work together to bring down the hitting? That's of course if the ASD child's parents are open-minded enough. In that way, maybe can find a win-win.

Agree that your gal should mix with more friends to build on social interactions and understand social norms. Your NT child would need her own developments too. But hopefully she does not reject her ASD friend and instead work together to resolve the hitting issue. It would be an important life experience too for your child.

Hope this helps.

[sharonkhoo]

mashy:

peapot:

Simkhoo, my gal does not hold it against her. I have explain to her that her friend can't control herself. I told her she is autistic. I would like her to know and see more things. But the problem here is that it's a constant hit and shove. So I worry my girl thinks normal to get hit for no reason.


Some friends recommended that I should tell my girl to mix with more friends and don't just stick to her only.

Perhaps communicate with thAt girl's parents and see how u can work together on this. I see that you are disturbed by the hitting and shoving part. Similarly, I wasn't too happy when my boy was constantly hit by another boy. I think parents can help in way to reinforce at home that hitting is not permissible. If the parents don't care, then ask your girl to move on.

I agree that it may be good to speak to the ASD girl's parents and ask if they are aware, and if they are doing anything about it. Perhaps a technique like 'social stories' may be good. Your daughter is a wonderful girl, but I also think she should broaden her group of friends. Perhaps then there will be more than just her helping the ASD girl.

[sharonkhoo]

helplessmum3:

Slmkhoo ,


Y most of them beats school friends when they get older ?

So far my son no beats fren but I'm worry why n when they start to harm friends ?

I don't know that 'most' do. My daughter has never done so, but it's really all part of the lack of self-control and probably an inability to express themselves well. We all know that 2yo NT toddlers lack self-control and may hit out; well, ASD kids may face that issue until they are older. It doesn't mean that they will all be like that or that they will always be like that.

[helplessmum3]

thanks slmkhoo.


Mummies,

if you asd going to get married and some1 is wiling to marry them. will you stop them?

in consideration of that your grandchildren might be ASD .

[Double E]

Helpless mum, why think so far ahead?