Club FTWM

[Imami]

Kissgurami,


Such is the life of "one mum show". We are saddled with work, house and children. Sometimes parents and in laws too.

The fine at this cc is ok, considering I am not 5-10min late. When I am late, I am very late! Each fine is $10. On almost everyday I will turn up at my son’s cc at 6pm sharp. I think this make the cc teachers and supervisor more understanding to me, even though I am very late. For I am always early.

It’s always very drama when I am late. Always, I see my son pressing his little face at the glass door (as if press harder then mummy will reach earlier). For me I would be turning up in messy hair and sweaty (run from the car park). And when son and I met, we would hug each other like we were separated for a long time. Then he would pout a little and complained he was the last one blah blah… And I would so apologetic…

And then I would bow and apologize to the teachers profusely. Not acting la, just that they are also parents. So I can feel how they feel about going home late.

[Kissgurami]

Imami, I can totally relate. my girls will say Mummy why soooooo late and sulk.


Ya I feel bad for the teachers also and offer to drive them home but they will politely decline so ended up getting one of the teachers to be part time nanny after CC hours. :grphug:

[MintyMin]

Ooo.. :grphug: to all 'one-mum show' mummies.. i can totally relate... and am glad to be staying near either mum or my relatives who can help whenever i m late..

[Dekora]

Yes, it is definately terrible juggling work with family and without support. Now need to manage the depressed emotions on a Sunday after spending meaningful times with our family and going back to work tml.

Does any of your superiors hinted at although u have family commitments they would still expect u to put in the effort to move up the corporate ladder?

[TheAnswer]

Will anyone support their husband’s decision if he wants to quit his job and study full time?

[Imami]

Dekora:

Yes, it is definately terrible juggling work with family and without support. Now need to manage the depressed emotions on a Sunday after spending meaningful times with our family and going back to work tml.

Does any of your superiors hinted at although u have family commitments they would still expect u to put in the effort to move up the corporate ladder?

Er....The part in red yes. The part in blue, no need to think la.

[Imami]

TheAnswer:

Will anyone support their husband's decision if he wants to quit his job and study full time?

For me, of cos not for practical reasons - he earns a lot more than me currently and I am definitely better at managing the home and the kid.

[TheAnswer]

Imami:

TheAnswer:

Will anyone support their husband's decision if he wants to quit his job and study full time?

For me, of cos not for practical reasons - he earns a lot more than me currently and I am definitely better at managing the home and the kid.

My DH told me he wants to quit his job to focus on his studies as he wants to do a career switch. I will have to solely bear the finances for a few years until he finishes his studies.

I earn substantially more than him and all along I allow him to control how I spend money because I do not want to hurt his self esteem. I feel very tired everyday after work and I still need to take care of my son and all the housework. It's very tiring and mentally draining.

Sometimes I just find that he didn't consider how I feel.

[Dekora]

Imami:

Dekora:

Yes, it is definately terrible juggling work with family and without support. Now need to manage the depressed emotions on a Sunday after spending meaningful times with our family and going back to work tml.

Does any of your superiors hinted at although u have family commitments they would still expect u to put in the effort to move up the corporate ladder?

Er....The part in red yes. The part in blue, no need to think la.

My superior has somewhat hinted and of course said that with more effort put in, there would be rewards at work thus the part on moving up the corporate ladder. But effort would means more time spent at work, initiatives, innovations and ideas. By the time I reach home I'm half dead, my husband the other zombie as well haha. Think only my girl is the most energentic at home. That's why sometimes I try not to bring work home and during the weekends- it is family time but sometimes it is really v difficult.ftwm, any tips to juggle?

[Dekora]

TheAnswer:

Imami:

[quote=\"TheAnswer\"]Will anyone support their husband's decision if he wants to quit his job and study full time?

For me, of cos not for practical reasons - he earns a lot more than me currently and I am definitely better at managing the home and the kid.

My DH told me he wants to quit his job to focus on his studies as he wants to do a career switch. I will have to solely bear the finances for a few years until he finishes his studies.

I earn substantially more than him and all along I allow him to control how I spend money because I do not want to hurt his self esteem. I feel very tired everyday after work and I still need to take care of my son and all the housework. It's very tiring and mentally draining.

Sometimes I just find that he didn't consider how I feel.[/quote]I would if that is what he has think through carefully. And of course if we have sufficient savings to tide us through during the time he is studying. Could it be that he wants to be able to get a better paying job to ease your burden in the long run?