Zen 禅悟人生 -My way of Seeking a Balance life
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3 Stages of Life
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人生三部曲
少年、中年、老年，人生的三部曲该走好每一步.
人生总会有高潮与低谷，有的人年轻时鸿运当头，家财万贯，尽享荣华富贵之美事，老来却颠沛流离，饱受艰辛劳碌之苦.
有的人年轻时浑浑噩噩，无所事事，中年时平步青云，极尽奢华享福之能事.
有的人一生虽无大起大落，但却有很多辗转曲折的片段。
看来，人生之三部曲不仅仅有年龄的更迭，还有过程的起伏，不要抱怨你没有富贵的人生，因为你可能有幸福的生活，不要慨叹你没有幸福的生活，因为你可能有精彩的瞬间。物质生活也好，精神生活也罢，总不能尽如人意，良好的心态才能提高幸福感指数，才能让那些坎坎坷坷成为一道道亮丽的风景线。
你是否想你的人生与众不同？你是否为你的人生规划很久？你是否对你的人生期待太多？
年幼的时候，去爬树，去踢毽子，去掏鸟窝，尽情地去享受童年的欢娱时光.
成年的时候，去学习，去打拼，去奋斗，大胆地去体验富有挑战性的生活.
老了的时候，去晨练，去畅游，去思索，细心地去感悟曾经的欢畅与失落。
想哭就哭，爱笑就笑，走好人生的每一步，也就没有了揪心的羁绊与烦恼！ -
Aiyo !! I totally agree with this.
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Stop the Glorification of Busy
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‘Busy’ Trap
By TIM KREIDER
June 30, 2012
New York Times
If you live in America in the 21st century you’ve probably had to listen to a lot of people tell you how busy they are. It’s become the default response when you ask anyone how they’re doing: “Busy!” “So busy.” “Crazy busy.” It is, pretty obviously, a boast disguised as a complaint. And the stock response is a kind of congratulation: “That’s a good problem to have,” or “Better than the opposite.”
Notice it isn’t generally people pulling back-to-back shifts in the I.C.U. or commuting by bus to three minimum-wage jobs who tell you how busy they are; what those people are is not busy but tired. Exhausted. Dead on their feet. It’s almost always people whose lamented busyness is purely self-imposed: work and obligations they’ve taken on voluntarily, classes and activities they’ve “encouraged” their kids to participate in. They’re busy because of their own ambition or drive or anxiety, because they’re addicted to busyness and dread what they might have to face in its absence.
Almost everyone I know is busy. They feel anxious and guilty when they aren’t either working or doing something to promote their work. They schedule in time with friends the way students with 4.0 G.P.A.’s make sure to sign up for community service because it looks good on their college applications. ....
Read more: http://opinionator.blogs.nytimes.com/2012/06/30/the-busy-trap/
\"Busy Trap\" Article Review : By Holly Baranowski Posted: 03/27/13 5:54pm
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This article discussed what the author called “the busy trap.” This is the idea that people in America get so caught up in their schedules, they often forget to just take some time to themselves and relax, hence, “the busy trap.”
The article also talks about how being busy is something that almost is glorified. People brag about how busy they are as a way to show how important they must be. These same people get anxious or guilty when they aren’t busy and find something to do to fill the void.
What’s even worse is that this article describes me perfectly.
Like many college students, I find there aren’t enough hours in the day. I sometimes feel trapped within my daily schedule of class, work and Chinese homework. Even in high school, I dreaded a Saturday sitting by myself in my room. I needed to be doing something all the time.
In college, I dream for some time just to lay on the couch all afternoon, but as soon as that time appears, I run away from it. The last time I decided to take a nap, I crawled into bed only to be haunted by the guilt of what I should be doing instead.
Even after reading this article, I can see the problem, but not a solution. In order to keep up with all the other busy bees in this country, I also must maintain a schedule overflowing at the seams. Right?
It’s important to stay on top of work and school, but where do we draw the line? I’m not really sure what the answer is to this issue, but I suppose I can start by taking baby steps.
Being busy is pretty unavoidable in college, but I think figuring out how to relax now instead of later would be a good place to start. -
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为谁辛苦为谁忙
现在的人每一时、每一刻都是匆匆忙忙的，可是到头来却不知道为谁辛苦为谁忙，只是从早到晚不停的忙碌着，几乎没有一刻得到清闲，为什么要这么辛苦呢？
我们常常说，「一生儿女债，半世老婆奴」，一个人的一生，就是这样地每天形形役彼、忙忙碌碌地渡过，不知不觉成为「儿女奴」、「老婆奴」，很少有时间反省一下自己。
忙忙碌碌的生活中，你可曾想過人生在世的意義和價值究竟是什麼？
是來吃飯的？穿衣服的？還是來吵架、競爭的？
生命一定有它的原因，也一定代表著某些意義。
到了最後，它的目的是什麼？它會到哪兒去？又會成為什麼樣的東西呢？
很多的人，就是在貪生怕死、貪求名利、你爭我鬥中一天一天的過下去。看到大家要的我也要，大家不要的我也不要。
以為很多人都要的，那一定好，所以搶著要，但是從來不去思考自己是不是真的需要。反正大家都要的我就要，大家不要就立刻把它丟掉。
人應該抱持「我要的不一定是別人要的，別人要的不一定是我要的」的觀念，這才是真正獨立的人格。
「想要」是貪得無厭的追求，不但使自己非常疲累，非常煩惱，非常痛苦，也會對別人造成困擾。 -
Changing Stumbling Blocks To Stepping Stones?
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\"The difference between a stumbling block and a stepping stone is how you use them.\" - Unknown
It is not really what happens to us that matter but how we react to it. Do you agree with me? Someone once said, 10% of life is what happens to you and 90% the way you react to it.
Stumbling blocks are bound to come on our way to our destiny. But our ability to convert such stumbling blocks to stepping-stones will differentiate the successful from the unsuccessful. Whatever happens to us in our quest to attain success is not new, it has once happened to someone before, but what will differentiate you from others is your reaction to it. Someone was once raped and abused; someone once failed and someone was once disappointed, yet someone came out stronger and better.
Stumbling blocks come in form of problems, failures, trials, tribulations, disappointments, and setbacks. If these situations are not adequately managed, they tend to stand on our way to destiny and act as a garrison demarcating us from our success. On the other hand, if these circumstances are properly managed, they act as stepping-stones, which when stepped on will take us closer to our destiny.
让错误成为迈向成功的垫脚石! -
well, my way of seeking a Balance Life is to login to Kiasuparents forum in the wee hours of the morning. Works very well for me and I’ll balance it off with 2 jugs of coffee in the morning.
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cimman:
well, my way of seeking a Balance Life is to login to Kiasuparents forum in the wee hours of the morning. Works very well for me and I'll balance it off with 2 jugs of coffee in the morning.
Just Curious ...you are a Night Owl or a Early Riser?
Me ...I am a Early Riser...my day start before 4am....
Like a farmer.....
Have a great Weekend.... :xedfingers: -
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生气时，绝对不开口讲超过三句话
当一个人生气时，往往会失去理智，意气用事，讲出来的大多是'气话'，甚至是'错话'，'脏话'……，到时不免坏了事！所以，为了不让怒气坏了正事，在生气的时候，克制自己少说话！
人在生气的时候，多半是讲不出什么\"好\"话的！与其等到伤了人，误了事，赔了形象……后，再来懊悔，还不如早些选择默然不语。
人，要懂得\"说话\"的艺术，更要有\"不说话\"的自制力，如果您不确定自己在生气之时还能否勒得住自己的舌头，那么，干脆暂时闭口，少说几句吧！ -
dolphinsiah:
I'm a late person. Just so happens I'm currently in a different timezone.cimman:
well, my way of seeking a Balance Life is to login to Kiasuparents forum in the wee hours of the morning. Works very well for me and I'll balance it off with 2 jugs of coffee in the morning.
Just Curious ...you are a Night Owl or a Early Riser?
Me ...I am a Early Riser...my day start before 4am....
Like a farmer.....
Have a great Weekend.... :xedfingers: -
dolphin,
I have wanted to wake up at 4am for a long time but just couldn't. How do you do it? It is very nice to experience the break of day, the daylight slowly coming on and that feeling of a new beginning, a new day.
But then hor, it's also very nice to stay up late. Lately, I take some Melatonin to help me sleep earlier but after sleeping earlier, still cannot wake up earlier :stupid:
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