All About Autism
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braverymom:
Dear nugget,
You have not meet such parent like that, when you tell them your child is ASD, they immediately go to the school and request to change class/ withdraw their child from the center, because they don't want their child to pick up bad behavior from ASD child! Guess what, that mother is a pre school teacher!
Personally I have not come across discrimination myself, but I have heard of teachers in special schools saying that they hear mainstream preschool teachers telling their kids not to mix with the special needs children ...
Am a bit surprised that there are parents who behave like this, considering that the awareness of ASD has been on the rise.
I was trying to talk to my elder gals on the condition and explain why meimei will not join them in primary school next year. And guess what, they told me there are posters in their school about ASD and special needs.
Its really heartening to hear that efforts are being put in to educate the young on special needs, hopefully the social stigma will fade in time to come. -
phtthp:
My therapist has ever shared with me that one of her ASD students gets confused when the mother switches between being a mother and being a teacher. Due to the rigidity, the mother has to literally wear different caps to indicate how she is interacting with the child, especially during those times when she is coaching the child on work.Did you find out what are the requirements of a shadow teacher?
If requirements not too stringent, have you considered training yourself to be a qualified shadow teacher instead, for the sake of your own child? This way, no need to pAy $3k to $5k per month, to hire an external outsider shadow teacher. Sometimes, parent is the best teacher to own child.
I guess this depends on the child's functional capacity. -
ImMeeMee:
ImMeeMee,
Personally I have not come across discrimination myself, but I have heard of teachers in special schools saying that they hear mainstream preschool teachers telling their kids not to mix with the special needs children ...
Am a bit surprised that there are parents who behave like this, considering that the awareness of ASD has been on the rise.
I was trying to talk to my elder gals on the condition and explain why meimei will not join them in primary school next year. And guess what, they told me there are posters in their school about ASD and special needs.
Its really heartening to hear that efforts are being put in to educate the young on special needs, hopefully the social stigma will fade in time to come.
That is nice to hear that primary school are increasing the awareness of ASD and other special needs. Singapore needs more tolerance and compassion and patience...
Lets hope when our kids grow up, they will not be so stigmatized by the society. -
nugget:
yes, I do hope so. My doter's teacher told me that one of her therapists specializing in ASD who is residing overseas views that locally we are still not up to date where ASD is concerned. I myself am impressed by the UK Autism Society website and the support they are providing.
ImMeeMee,
That is nice to hear that primary school are increasing the awareness of ASD and other special needs. Singapore needs more tolerance and compassion and patience...
Lets hope when our kids grow up, they will not be so stigmatized by the society.
Let's hope that one day things will look up further. -
Does autism carry on till old age? or it will stop at certain age group?
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octoberbaby:
Does autism carry on till old age? or it will stop at certain age group?
ASD is a life long condition. There are studies that show that with intervention, ASD individuals are able to overcome some of their traits, especially the high-functioning ones. But the condition stays with the individual. -
Let’s say in a working environment, how do I know whether that person is an ASD patient? does it show in adulthood?
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phtthp:
The parents cannot be the shadow teacher, I understand from almost all the preschool. You mummies have all hit the right point - the cost is high from $3300 pm (min for 4 hours, and applied throughout the months inclusive of the school holiday) .
Did you find out what are the requirements of a shadow teacher?MelodyMelody:
Without the shadow teacher, my gal cannot gain entry to the school.
If requirements not too stringent, have you considered training yourself to be a qualified shadow teacher instead, for the sake of your own child? This way, no need to pAy $3k to $5k per month, to hire an external outsider shadow teacher. Sometimes, parent is the best teacher to own child.
I cannot afford the fees so will drop the idea of letting her go to the church kindergarten which MOE preschool division have helped to contact them. The minimum therapy we are engaging services for is already quite a sum. I cannot be putting every cent into the therapy or shadow teachers (and forgetting our parents who aged and the daily expenses) . Many thanks to mummy who pm the contact of shadow teachers.
My child was in a CC with no shadow teacher previously, she's quite happy for 1 or 2 months (so is the young teacher) until the school suddenly change manager and lots of teacher. We then withdrawn from the cc following an incident. Discrimation has been always around - from therapy centers, doctors, teachers etc, but there are kind and understanding souls too. Few will take time to understand that my child and I are not beggars for charity, nor favour.
It's true my child need accomodation to some extent as she is borned with a lacking of certain substance, yet she is capable if a different learning method is used or a different route be attempt. It is the invisible wall of lack of understanding and my child's invisible handicap that I find it difficult to break and get people to understand her. It is also pretty hard for people without the handicap to understand it over a long period of time, even for the therapist and myself as a parent at times. The only thing I am sure of everyday my child is trying her best, and she knows she is different but is still trying...she try to hold her head up when being laugh, but end up looking silly most times..she is trying....I will also keep on trying on the private service provider for preschool. The MOE has helped, so the rest is really up to me. -
Melody :hugs:
Its never easy to walk the journey with a special needs child. We all need a lot of patience and courage and its a life long journey.
You sound lonely, and I hope that you get to overcome that soon, cos take heart, there are a lot of other parents like yourself who are bringing up special needs children. We all face the same issues of limited resources, lack of understanding, physical and mental exhaustion, lack of knowledge, frustration, anxiety and so on. But we also face the same joy of seeing our special needs child grow and flourish, their courage to keep trying and to never give up, their sometimes out-of-syn conversations and jokes, and their achievements day in day out with our guiding hands.
For myself, cos I send my ASD doter to an EIPIC school in the morning, I get to interact with the other parents whose kids are special needs too, and exchange news and information face-to-face. That helps in some way to help me overcome the lonely feeling. Its not a support group per se, but at least I know I am not in this alone.
Coming to this forum to rant and exchange information helps too. Mummies here are supportive and strong, and we try our best to help where we can. Kudos of course to CKS and his team for maintaining this forum to provide for this exchange.
I also have a few close friends who know my situation, and its heartening for me to be able to share with them on what's happening in this alternative world of mine. They may not understand fully, but saying things out sometimes is better than keeping everything inside. It clears my mind too when thinking through issues.
I hope you will find your own support network too. -
MelodyMelody:
The parents cannot be the shadow teacher, I understand from almost all the preschool. You mummies have all hit the right point - the cost is high from $3300 pm (min for 4 hours, and applied throughout the months inclusive of the school holiday) .
Did you find out what are the requirements of a shadow teacher?phtthp:
[quote=\"MelodyMelody\"]
Without the shadow teacher, my gal cannot gain entry to the school.
If requirements not too stringent, have you considered training yourself to be a qualified shadow teacher instead, for the sake of your own child? This way, no need to pAy $3k to $5k per month, to hire an external outsider shadow teacher. Sometimes, parent is the best teacher to own child.
I cannot afford the fees so will drop the idea of letting her go to the church kindergarten which MOE preschool division have helped to contact them. The minimum therapy we are engaging services for is already quite a sum. I cannot be putting every cent into the therapy or shadow teachers (and forgetting our parents who aged and the daily expenses) . Many thanks to mummy who pm the contact of shadow teachers.
My child was in a CC with no shadow teacher previously, she's quite happy for 1 or 2 months (so is the young teacher) until the school suddenly change manager and lots of teacher. We then withdrawn from the cc following an incident. Discrimation has been always around - from therapy centers, doctors, teachers etc, but there are kind and understanding souls too. Few will take time to understand that my child and I are not beggars for charity, nor favour.
It's true my child need accomodation to some extent as she is borned with a lacking of certain substance, yet she is capable if a different learning method is used or a different route be attempt. It is the invisible wall of lack of understanding and my child's invisible handicap that I find it difficult to break and get people to understand her. It is also pretty hard for people without the handicap to understand it over a long period of time, even for the therapist and myself as a parent at times. The only thing I am sure of everyday my child is trying her best, and she knows she is different but is still trying...she try to hold her head up when being laugh, but end up looking silly most times..she is trying....I will also keep on trying on the private service provider for preschool. The MOE has helped, so the rest is really up to me.[/quote]
Hi,
You may wish to check out Chiltern House which has a Learning Support team that works with the child and teachers.
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