Lunch

[Jennifer]

Imami:

Jennifer:

I do not think so. Very stressful for me. I guess I am not a person born to cook


I told my boys: when you move out, please do not come back here to ask me to cook dinner for you, ok?

Guess wat, I think I am not a born domestic goddess too.but for some reason the environment shapes and nurture me into what I am today. My boys like my cooking and we seldom eat out.

Seeing my little one slurp everything into his little mouth is definitely rewarding and worth every discomfort being in the kitchen.

My boys do not like to eat out either. Hubby likes to eat at home too.

BUT for these reasons:

1. I should be quite old by then, dun think I want to sweat it out in the kitchen.

2. Judging by hubby's working hours, I do not want to be on standby mode for my boys to come back home for dinner. What if the hours are not the same? I doubt I can be like the Kdrama hsewife, can whip up sth for anyone who comes home for dinner but not at the regular dinner hour.

3. After reading the in-law problem thread, I must admit I am scared of cooking for my children's spouses.

[Imami]

Jennifer, u do read insider’s 桃花 thread right? Remember what she mention about planting a seed iby having a thought?


Not all dil will bash mil like that.

[Nebbermind]

I believe that when you are new to each other, try to avoid too-frequent interaction.


Sometimes it can be a cultural shock for each other. I believe the warming up part needs at least 2~3 yrs…unless you are already a regular with the other family since bf/gf time.

[Jennifer]

Imami:

Jennifer, u do read insider's 桃花 thread right? Remember what she mention about planting a seed iby having a thought?


Not all dil will bash mil like that.

I understand. Just want to let my children know that it is not compulsory for their spouses to eat what I cook.

I do not like my MIL's cooking but hv to go to her place to eat bcos hubby says so. Used to be everyday when my children were younger, then cut to 2 weekends, then cut to once a weekend.

It had not been easy to request to cut down the frequency. She expected all of us to like her cooking.

I do not wish for my children to go through the unpleasant process with their spouses.

[Jennifer]

Nebbermind:

I believe that when you are new to each other, try to avoid too-frequent interaction.


Sometimes it can be a cultural shock for each other. I believe the warming up part needs at least 2~3 yrs...unless you are already a regular with the other family since bf/gf time.

相见好,相处难

[Imami]

Nebbermind:

I believe that when you are new to each other, try to avoid too-frequent interaction.


Sometimes it can be a cultural shock for each other. I believe the warming up part needs at least 2~3 yrs...unless you are already a regular with the other family since bf/gf time.

Yup agree. I think my in law family came too close for comfort in the initial years when we were dating. My sil even want to organize a bday party for me with then bf now hubby's whole family. I was like,\" eh common la, I only want to spend the time with your brother only.\"

[Imami]

Jennifer:

Imami:

Jennifer, u do read insider's 桃花 thread right? Remember what she mention about planting a seed iby having a thought?


Not all dil will bash mil like that.

I understand. Just want to let my children know that it is not compulsory for their spouses to eat what I cook.

I do not like my MIL's cooking but hv to go to her place to eat bcos hubby says so. Used to be everyday when my children were younger, then cut to 2 weekends, then cut to once a weekend.

It had not been easy to request to cut down the frequency. She expected all of us to like her cooking.

I do not wish for my children to go through the unpleasant process with their spouses.

Jennifer, u are a nice mum and I think you will be a nice and reasonable mil in time to come. Having the idea that some space and \"freedom\" for the dil is a great start and shows your thoughtfulness and sensitivity.

Having little or no expectation is a great start. Too many mils have too high expectation (my mil included) of their dils and that resulted in a lot of friction and unhappiness. If my mil was less critical about me back then, I think I would have lived and breathed happier

But if \"suffering\" for 10 years mean she would respect me more as an equal person, someone worthy of her son, or mean less tension between hubby and me, I would gladly \"suffer\" my due.

[Jennifer]

Imami:

But if \"suffering\" for 10 years mean she would respect me more as an equal person, someone worthy of her son, or mean less tension between hubby and me, I would gladly \"suffer\" my due.

[Jennifer]

Has anyone pickled ginger before? the type commonly found in Japanese food?

[Jennifer]

I am looking for recipes for century eggs.


Could only find porridge, cold tofu to go with this egg.

Does anyone have other recipes? Pls share :please: