All About Autism
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nugget:
Nugget
Double E,Double E:
So now for work that I think he can manage, I try not to sit beside him to watch him do. I will ask him to do it himself while I do my housework. When he is done, he is to bring his work and show me. Actually, I am the one who finds it hard to let go because I have a tendency of wanting to check what he is doing and see if he is day-dreaming. And I can't help it but go to him to bring him back from his la la land when he gets distracted and doing other things other than his piece of work
That is very good. My son needs a lot of prompting and encouragement. He will do one question, want me to acknowledge to tell him its correct, then he will move on to another question.
My next task is to get him to worksheets independently. And also to teach him is okay to get 1-2 questions wrong. Only when he is unsure then ask me. Otherwise do finish then I will mark it.
He seem to have a problem to \"Always must get all answers correct\".
Double E, Can you share how much is your tutor? Which area do you live? Not too sure where can I get special needs tutor.
Her charges is $100 to $120 for an hour. Very expensive in my opinion. But what to do? If my boy needs it, then I try to provide as much as I can. But she is good so is well worth the money. I stay in central area. However, she has stopped taking new cases as she claims she is too busy. But if you are interested, I think she can recommend her friend who is also a special needs teacher.
My boy too will seek affirmation from me after doing one question. He will look at me before proceeding to the next one. But I guess is my fault, cos if he does it wrongly, I tend to correct him immediately. Perhaps I should follow your style, ok to make mistake just let him try and be independent. -
nugget:
nugget, my doter has a educational therapist. In essence, she is like a tutor that coaches on literacy skills. She is trained in special needs and only coaches special needs children.ImMeeMee,
You gal has come a long way...
Just sharing my thoughts..
I am finding it hard to teach my son english. Dare not venture into chinese yet. Also partly because my chinese is not good as well. But he does recognize some of the simple chinese characters.
Those grammar concepts is so hard to teach. I am thinking of hiring a tuition teacher for him. But should I share my son's condition with the tuition teacher? Or should let the tuition teacher just teach him? I really don't know as well.
Once I tell the tuition teacher my son has ASD, maybe the price of the tuition fee will goes up too...
Tuition teachers who coach NT children may not know how to specifically deal with our children, so I think it is better to get someone trained in this area.
One thing I have learnt though is that sometimes therapists tend to over-teach. So I have slowed things down by putting my doter on a handwriting program and deferred the literacy program for a while. Its also to help her catch up on her handwriting cos its still not coming through. And since I am targeting for a deferment program next year, I reckon that there is still some time where I can pace things a bit. -
Double E,
Gosh.. Its very expensive :shock:
Unfortunately, I cannot afford that now. Sigh. Maybe I should try a regular tutor first. He is quite receptive to 1-1 teaching. If really cannot work out then decide what else to do.
My boy gets very upset to see a \"X\" (cross) on his worksheets. Wants me to erase away. I think he has some ego issues to deal with. Its okay to make mistake.. But I dun want to brush it off like its no big deal.. then it might have a adverse effect..worse if he start to anyhow do everything wrongly cos mummy say \"its okay to make mistakes\". I havent thought of how is the best to bring it across.
You are right about so many things to teach. Lately I have been busy with work, once at home need to tend to 3 kids. So many things to deal with.. I really need external help to teach my son academics. -
ImMeeMee:
ImMeeMee,
nugget, my doter has a educational therapist. In essence, she is like a tutor that coaches on literacy skills. She is trained in special needs and only coaches special needs children.
Tuition teachers who coach NT children may not know how to specifically deal with our children, so I think it is better to get someone trained in this area.
One thing I have learnt though is that sometimes therapists tend to over-teach. So I have slowed things down by putting my doter on a handwriting program and deferred the literacy program for a while. Its also to help her catch up on her handwriting cos its still not coming through. And since I am targeting for a deferment program next year, I reckon that there is still some time where I can pace things a bit.
Is it a 1-1 lesson? does this educational therapist come to your home to teach?
I just started my son for a group therapy with a educational psychologist. To prep him for P1.. So far only went for 1 lesson. He feels very awkward in the classroom setting. Sit close to teacher, everyone takes turn to answer, when it comes to his turn.. He refuse to talk. Kept very quiet. Even when the rest of the classmates tell him the answer, he also kept quiet.
I am starting to get worry as well.
Sigh. Social setting, acaedmics... -
slmkhoo:
Another thought - with HFMD and various other sicknesses around, it's probably also safer to teach kids to limit such close contact with others.[/quote]agreed and fully noted, thanks.
Your son is still young, and the girls in his class may not have developed a sense of personal space yet. However, as he grows older, you may need to specifically teach him how to respect other people's space as some kids may not be able to pick up such social cues without instruction. You certainly don't want him hugging and kissing his classmates when he's 13yo!slmkhoo:
[quote=\"helplessmum3\"]oh no. i always encourage my son to hug friends & give kisses :P...
but usually he just hug... them to acknowledge them..
he like some pretty girls in class too, but he jus playful w them by keep their toys and make them look for him to find them ahaah.. -
nugget:
nugget, its one-to-one but center based. Each session is one and half hours but the last 15 min is briefing with parents on follow up.
ImMeeMee,
Is it a 1-1 lesson? does this educational therapist come to your home to teach?
I just started my son for a group therapy with a educational psychologist. To prep him for P1.. So far only went for 1 lesson. He feels very awkward in the classroom setting. Sit close to teacher, everyone takes turn to answer, when it comes to his turn.. He refuse to talk. Kept very quiet. Even when the rest of the classmates tell him the answer, he also kept quiet.
I am starting to get worry as well.
Sigh. Social setting, acaedmics...
I can understand your worry, but your son has just gone for one lesson ... give it some more time. Our children need more time to understand the cues and warm up to the environment. Think of it this way - its good to start now so that by next year, he will be more ready. -
nugget:
My son is the opposite, talks too much. When is not his turn, he also talk and sometimes talk nonsense or things not related to the topic.
ImMeeMee,ImMeeMee:
nugget, my doter has a educational therapist. In essence, she is like a tutor that coaches on literacy skills. She is trained in special needs and only coaches special needs children.
Tuition teachers who coach NT children may not know how to specifically deal with our children, so I think it is better to get someone trained in this area.
One thing I have learnt though is that sometimes therapists tend to over-teach. So I have slowed things down by putting my doter on a handwriting program and deferred the literacy program for a while. Its also to help her catch up on her handwriting cos its still not coming through. And since I am targeting for a deferment program next year, I reckon that there is still some time where I can pace things a bit.
Is it a 1-1 lesson? does this educational therapist come to your home to teach?
I just started my son for a group therapy with a educational psychologist. To prep him for P1.. So far only went for 1 lesson. He feels very awkward in the classroom setting. Sit close to teacher, everyone takes turn to answer, when it comes to his turn.. He refuse to talk. Kept very quiet. Even when the rest of the classmates tell him the answer, he also kept quiet.
I am starting to get worry as well.
Sigh. Social setting, acaedmics... -
BTW, forgot to mention that MOE and KKH have just organized a talk on mainstream schooling for parents with age-appropriate special needs children. The first run has just gone by and I think there is a second run coming up soon. Do check it out with CDU.
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ImMeeMee,
Thanks. I didnt expect him to fair so badly even when someone tell him the answer, he still refuse to talk. ANyway like you say, good that i am starting now. Its better late than never.
Double E,
My son at home super talkative. But only when outside with strangers, he very quiet. I know he knows the answer, but he just dun want to say.
I am so glad the IQ test is over. Cos they also test him on his response.
Thanks for all your tips, I will go find a normal tutor first. Hopefully I can find a kind person who is willing to teach my son. -
ImMeeMee,
Just to share, I have recently attended a course at pathlight. I met this parent whose dd is already P4 there. She lives in Jurong (if I recalled correctly).
SHe told me she first put her dd into mainstream too… But shortly after, her dd get bullied and was crying. She in the end sign up for pathlight.
She said pathlight helped her dd a lot. Its a very good school. Class room size is about 20 students but will have at least 2-4 teachers helping out.
Some are assistance teachers, some are special needs teachers to help to deal with sensory etc issues. Her dd is very well supported.
During the break, I went to the canteen and toilets… I like the school environment too. There are lots of signs and picture display everywhere to help the students.
They are also very high tech. Teachers are using iMacs and IPads to conduct their lessons. I am super impressed.
If my son really cant adapt into mainstream. I will enroll him for pathlight next year.
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