All About Autism

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slmkhoo:

Maybe you need to expand on your statement? I tell my kids \"mistakes are OK if they help you learn something from them\". I feel that takes away the 'disgrace' (I think some kids feel it that way) and puts the focus back on learning. I also try not to correct mistakes I see as my kids are working. When they were young, I would tell them to show me their work at a stated interval - after 5 questions, after 10 lines or whatever - then point out their errors then. Rather make an X on the mistake, I will circle or underline - somehow it looks better! You can try using a colour other than red too.

Slmkhoo,

I think you are right. Using Circle might be better than putting a cross. Will tell him mistakes are okay if he learn from it and don't make the same mistake next time. Also will tell him is also okay to say don't know.

Working independently is something I am working on right now with him.

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ImMeeMee:

BTW, forgot to mention that MOE and KKH have just organized a talk on mainstream schooling for parents with age-appropriate special needs children. The first run has just gone by and I think there is a second run coming up soon. Do check it out with CDU.

ImMeeMee,

Did you attend the talk? The one they sent me is on special school options in Singapore for kids enrolling into primary 1.

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slmkhoo:

My older daughter is also Asperger's, and she had the same problem! How we coped was that we told her that she should go to the toilet before classes started, during recess, and after school. That way, she didn't need to ask for permission. As for not asking for help, I don't really know how to advise because my daughter is still that way, and she's 16yo! Some teachers were more watchful and would keep an eye on her and ask her if she needed help. If not, I would check with her when she came home. As she got older, she learned to cope more by herself and may even ask for help sometimes, but it's still mainly in response to my questions.

Thanks slmkhoo! Your daughter goes to mainstream school yes? Did you contact the teachers or AEDs before she started school, to explain her condition and what they should expect?

[ImMeeMee]

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ImMeeMee,

Did you attend the talk? The one they sent me is on special school options in Singapore for kids enrolling into primary 1.

yes, I attended the one on mainstream schooling. But I didnt receive any invite on talk relating to special school. :scratchhead:

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ImMeeMee:

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ImMeeMee,

Did you attend the talk? The one they sent me is on special school options in Singapore for kids enrolling into primary 1.

yes, I attended the one on mainstream schooling. But I didnt receive any invite on talk relating to special school. :scratchhead:

ImMeeMee,

Can share what they cover in the talk?

Hb and I remembered the one they invited us is for seeing what options are there for special need kids. How ready are they, what kind of sped schools available? Cos since we are not putting into sped school, so we didnt attend.

If I received the one on mainstream schooling, I would have attended.

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Double E:

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Actually I feel our kids can adapt in mainstream better if there are no bullies around although I know it is impossible. Even NT kids, the more timid ones will be bullied. I was bullied in school before so that feeling really sucks! I can't imagine how heartache I will be if my son comes crying to me next time. I am also planning for him to go mainstream, hope I made the right decision too.

Double E,

I really hope so. I am crossing my fingers and toes... :xedfingers:

[ImMeeMee]

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ImMeeMee,

Can share what they cover in the talk?

Hb and I remembered the one they invited us is for seeing what options are there for special need kids. How ready are they, what kind of sped schools available? Cos since we are not putting into sped school, so we didnt attend.

If I received the one on mainstream schooling, I would have attended.

Its about the same - how to assess whether the child is ready for mainstream school setting, what mainstream school environment entails, school registration, AED support. They also touched on SPED schools but focus is on mainstream schools.

May not be too late to enquire with KKH CDU.

[Double E]

I just want to share that my son was super cooperative yesterday when I ask him to do his homework. He was able to sit down and work independently and after he was done, he brought the book to me. I tell my husband how I wish he is like that all the time then I wouldn’t need to scold or scream at him.


And I realised some changes in his speech. Eg, yesterday he was doing his big biz in the toilet so I helped him to close the door. He then requested me to open the door for him so I said "OK I will open for you but just half ok? because your poo poo is smelly". And he replied me with a "yah!" Just like how we adults respond sometimes. And today, I flushed the toilet for him after he peed but I didn’t flush properly and had to press the button again, then he said to me "press harder".

Last night and this morning were good. I hope I have more such good testimonies to share.

And on his social skills, I tried writing down a list of people that he can hug and touch, follow by a list of pple that he can only do hi-five. Basically, he can only hug and touch his family members but to friends, he can only do hi-five. I have this on the white board and will go through this with him every day till it sinks in.
Today he saw the girl and tries to get close to her again, but his time, he tried to get her to do hi-five to him. So he remembered what i told him but he still doesn’t understand that it has to come naturally, and not to have to pester someone to give u a hi-five. Sigh!! I think it will really take sometime to teach him.

[sharonkhoo]

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slmkhoo:

My older daughter is also Asperger's, and she had the same problem! How we coped was that we told her that she should go to the toilet before classes started, during recess, and after school. That way, she didn't need to ask for permission. As for not asking for help, I don't really know how to advise because my daughter is still that way, and she's 16yo! Some teachers were more watchful and would keep an eye on her and ask her if she needed help. If not, I would check with her when she came home. As she got older, she learned to cope more by herself and may even ask for help sometimes, but it's still mainly in response to my questions.

Thanks slmkhoo! Your daughter goes to mainstream school yes? Did you contact the teachers or AEDs before she started school, to explain her condition and what they should expect?

My daughter has always been in mainstream kindy and school. In fact, we didn't get her diagnosed until she was 14yo although we were reasonably sure she was Asperger's by the time she was about 7yo. We just didn't see the need to do it and we taught and trained her ourselves. So although I did speak to her teachers before each school year (and often in between!), I didn't have a name to put on it. I usually told the teachers that she was introverted, not very socially skilled, had motor difficulties (to get them to go easy on handwriting and PE), poor organisational skills etc. We have lived overseas most of the time so I haven't had much experience with Singapore school. My daughter has been fortunate to mostly have teachers who don't pressure her too much, though there have been one or two I have had to speak to repeatedly. I think Singapore teachers are less accommodating without a formal diagnosis, and the reason we sent her for formal testing at 14yo was that we are returning to Singapore this year, and she will be finishing her education in Singapore. This will be the first time I will be informing a school of a named condition and probably asking for some accommodations.

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Double E,


So happy for you. You must be glad. Hope he continue to be in this manner. Keep repeating to them… so he will keep remember to respect personal space.

Is your boy fully potty train? Able to wipe his bottom by himself?
My 5 year old + only able to do that recently. Few months ago he keep staining his underwear cos unable to go in time.