All About Teaching Values

[PSLEmom]

As heard from the expat parents :

In Singapore parents do not have time to teach even values to their kids, hence the Govt. takes initiative to teach them through various campaigns!!!

In public transports, it is very RARE to find youngsters getting up to offer place for the elderly, expectant mothers, disabled etc...not only that, we can find them even using the reserved seats for these \"special categories\".

Whom to blame? :?

[Jworld]

PSLEmom:

As heard from the expat parents :

In Singapore parents do not have time to teach even values to their kids, hence the Govt. takes initiative to teach them through various campaigns!!!

In public transports, it is very RARE to find youngsters getting up to offer place for the elderly, expectant mothers, disabled etc...not only that, we can find them even using the reserved seats for these \"special categories\".

Whom to blame? :?

Govt take initiatives to teach? I won't count on that.

MOE only wants provide a strong academic foundation for the new generations. Take a look at the MOE website and you can tell.

The Govt focuses too much on nurturing genuises to keep our society going. But what's the point of producing great talents and/or leaders for our society but their characters are corrupted?

I agree that it is very RARE to find youngsters getting up to offer place for the elderly, expectant mothers, disabled. When I was a kid, I used to see kids of my age or older and young people very readily giving up seats to elderly. These days, we have less than 50% chance of seeing ppl doing that anymore. Some seated young people can literally stare blankly into the air and look totally oblivious to the elderly person standing in front.

Sometimes I really wonder whether when I grow up to be a granny, will I get bullied this way by the young people?

[Jworld]

tamarind:

parangtor:

any values lacking or missing in today's society?

which ones?
do parents have it themselves?
or most do not?

The core values of Chinese culture :
忠孝仁义 礼仪廉耻Loyalty, filial piety, benevolence , righteousness
Courtesy, attention to one's appearance, honesty and integrity, sense of shame

I feel that many young Singaporeans lack these values.

忠孝仁义 礼仪廉耻
well said.

The schools should incorporate this into the education for our kids.

[jtoh]

insider:

My 16 years old son shared something with me that overall I feel proud of him.


While walking along a path after alighting from an MRT station on the way to his grandma's house, he saw two maids with an old lady who was walking with a hunch back and a stick.

He walked past them and sort of hearing one of the maids scolding that old lady. He couldn't figure out her language but from her tone, it seemed like she was scolding that old lady. He continued to walk as he also wasn't sure whether the maid was talking loudly to her friend (the other maid).

He walked away from them but kept turning back to look at the three of them. Then, he confirmed that the maid was scolding that old lady. He turned and walked towards them and the maids were not aware of this KPO boy coming their way. Next, he ran towards them when he saw the maid pushed that old lady.

At the moment of fury, he approached the maid...and well...didn't really do something right... He pushed the maid on her shoulder and told her, \"You cannot do that to an old lady!\".

All maids and old lady kept quiet. He was sort of lost of his speech.

On his way to grandma's house, he asked himself whether he should accompany that old lady home and inform her family members about the maid's behaviour. He dismissed that idea after thinking maybe the family members may think that he should mind his own business. But that probable plight of that old lady continue to disturb him.

Upon reaching grand parents' house, he asked his grandma whether they were being bullied by anyone and if yes, have to tell us and he recounted the incidence of that old lady.

I actually didn't get the first hand news from him but from his grandparents who called me to tell me what a brave boy he is. When I asked him for the full details, he asked me back whether he was wrong in not accompanying that old lady home and his worry about old lady having indifferent family members.

I told him if I were him, I will accompany that old lady home. If her family members turn up to be someones indifferent, and so be it. In life, we have to be upright and with 正气 and we do things if they are right and for all elements that are beyond our control, we just have to let them be with a peace of mind. I praised him for his guts and couraged and told him as a 16 years old, what he did was sufficient and he will improve further in his 'crisis management skills' when he matures further and asked him not to be so guilty about not accompanying that old lady home. Basically, telling him to give himself time to be as stable and fearless as mummy...

PS: He was especially furious to read the news about that man who killed the dog by throwing it against the wall. He was angrier with the public who witnessed the incidence but didn't stand up to stop him. He further cannot understand if the public was worrying about personal safety and therefore not stepping forward, then why can't any of them to stand up as a witness? He asked me about social responsibility, he wonders about human's heart...

Out of fun, I asked him whether he could remember when he was younger and I asked him to tell two young men to give up their seats for a pregnant woman and he refused (out of shyness). He said vaguely can remember. Then I asked further what was the question he asked me after I returned to him when he refused and I stepped up to ask the young men to give their seats up. He said he couldn't remember. I told him, the first question he asked me was, \"Mummy, you are not afraid of those men beat you up for being busybody?\" He laughed. I used this to illustrate that he will continue to mature and hopefully well into a brave man...

Insider, you have a very fine young man there. You must be so proud of him.

[sall]

Teaching of values is the job of parents. But some parents are so focused on academic results of their children, they forget about other non- academic but extremely important values their children are lacking. My sister is one such example. My niece is in an elite sch, but when we go to her house, she would not even come out of her room to greet me, not a word of ‘Hello, aunty’. During Chinese New yr, not a greeting, not a word of thanks after collecting angpow. And my sister did not even correct this. No basic manners, no respect for elders…

When I visited her sch’s open house, I was also very disappointed to see that the students there are very aloof and unhelpful, maybe it’s the sch’s fault too.

[LLK]

Many schools do emphasize the importance of moral education and values. But parents and family members still play the most vital roles, i.e they must be the good role model for the young.

[wapobs]

LLK:

Many schools do emphasize the importance of moral education and values. ....

where got? nowdays many teachers also donoo head and tail. ang mo values maybe la.

LLK:

... But parents and family members still play the most vital roles, i.e they must be the good role model for the young.

yes, if parents can. but if like those teachers, no hope liao!

[LLK]

wapobs:

LLK:

Many schools do emphasize the importance of moral education and values. ....

where got? nowdays many teachers also donoo head and tail. ang mo values maybe la.

LLK:

... But parents and family members still play the most vital roles, i.e they must be the good role model for the young.

yes, if parents can. but if like those teachers, no hope liao!

My DD's primary and Sec schools did that in Chinese moral education lesson. May be not all schools do that

If we want our children to learn those values, we parents must of course try our very best to be their first teacher to show and teach them all that. That should be one of our responsibilies:)

[Nebbermind]

While I agree that teaching shd come from parents, it is not utmost important!


"Practise what you preach" is! The kids these days have a great sense of awareness and they r watching us all the time!

[Jennifer]

Nebbermind:

While I agree that teaching shd come from parents, it is not utmost important!


\"Practise what you preach\" is! The kids these days have a great sense of awareness and they r watching us all the time!

I think I am a good citizen who give way to the needy when boarding the bus. My elder boy who seldom takes public bus with me is able to do the same too. My P4 boy whom I always take bus with DOES NOT :oops: Why? I thought I hv bn setting good examples with my behaviour and verbal teachings.