All About Teaching Values

[LLK]

kiddo:

insider:

friend forwarded me the below. source unknown.


我們的教育能否教育出這種小孩呢？(這種媽媽呢？)
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這事發生在普吉島的 ClubMed 渡假村，那時我在那裡擔任中英文的翻譯公關。

有一天，我在大廳裡，突然看見一位滿臉歉意的日本工作人員，安 慰著一位大 約四歲的西方小孩，飽受驚嚇的小孩已經哭得精疲力盡了。

問明原因之後，我才知道，原來這位日本工作人員，因為那天小孩 較多，一時疏忽，在兒童網球課結束後，少算了一位，將這位澳洲小孩留在網球場。

等到她發現人數不對時，才趕快跑到網球場，將這位小孩帶回來， 小孩因為一個人在偏遠的網球場，飽受驚嚇，哭得浠浬嘩啦的。

現在澳洲媽媽出現了，看著自己的小孩哭得慘兮兮的。如果你是這 位媽媽，你會怎麼做？是痛罵那位工作人員一頓？還是直接向主管抗議？或是很生氣的將小孩帶離開，再也不參加『兒童俱樂部』了？

都不是！請看--
我親眼看見這位媽媽，蹲下來安慰四歲的小孩，並且很理性的告訴 他：『已經沒事了，那位日本姊姊因為找不到妳而非常的緊張難過，她不是故意的，現在你必須親親那位日本姊姊的臉頰，安慰她一下！』

當下我只見那位四歲的小孩，墊起腳跟，親親蹲在他身旁的日本工 作人員的臉頰，並且輕輕的告訴她：『不要害怕，已經沒事了！』

就是要這樣的教育，才能養出寬容、體貼的孩子吧！ 體貼別人，也等於體貼了自己的心。

Bravo :hi5: ..........a must read for parents :goodpost:

That's clearly show how much the parents can affect their children's behavior, attitude, values and many more....................

[smartmummy]

Why some parents never teach to their kids what is right and wrong? How to respect to elders.Why some children being naughty/bully at school?

[LLK]

smartmummy:

Why some parents never teach to their kids what is right and wrong? How to respect to elders.Why some children being naughty/bully at school?

Some parents don't bother how their kids behave and prefer to let their kids behave and do what they like as long they are happy. That's sometimes ended up having spolit kids and would create more problems to themselves (parents and kids) and others.

[Picolo]

LLK:

kiddo:

[quote=\"insider\"]friend forwarded me the below. source unknown.


我們的教育能否教育出這種小孩呢？(這種媽媽呢？)
---------
這事發生在普吉島的 ClubMed 渡假村，那時我在那裡擔任中英文的翻譯公關。

有一天，我在大廳裡，突然看見一位滿臉歉意的日本工作人員，安 慰著一位大 約四歲的西方小孩，飽受驚嚇的小孩已經哭得精疲力盡了。

問明原因之後，我才知道，原來這位日本工作人員，因為那天小孩 較多，一時疏忽，在兒童網球課結束後，少算了一位，將這位澳洲小孩留在網球場。

等到她發現人數不對時，才趕快跑到網球場，將這位小孩帶回來， 小孩因為一個人在偏遠的網球場，飽受驚嚇，哭得浠浬嘩啦的。

現在澳洲媽媽出現了，看著自己的小孩哭得慘兮兮的。如果你是這 位媽媽，你會怎麼做？是痛罵那位工作人員一頓？還是直接向主管抗議？或是很生氣的將小孩帶離開，再也不參加『兒童俱樂部』了？

都不是！請看--
我親眼看見這位媽媽，蹲下來安慰四歲的小孩，並且很理性的告訴 他：『已經沒事了，那位日本姊姊因為找不到妳而非常的緊張難過，她不是故意的，現在你必須親親那位日本姊姊的臉頰，安慰她一下！』

當下我只見那位四歲的小孩，墊起腳跟，親親蹲在他身旁的日本工 作人員的臉頰，並且輕輕的告訴她：『不要害怕，已經沒事了！』

就是要這樣的教育，才能養出寬容、體貼的孩子吧！ 體貼別人，也等於體貼了自己的心。

Bravo :hi5: ..........a must read for parents :goodpost:

That's clearly show how much the parents can affect their children's behavior, attitude, values and many more....................[/quote]
This Chinese story is so similar to the one compre passage in Chinese P3 Higher Chinese Workbook 3A, the main difference is the setting and the people involved. In the workbook the setting is the school and the apologetic one is a teacher who left a 'missing' girl in class.

[ramgee]

I teach part time to young adults from early this year. I am appalled by their casual language. Using foul language (in class) is not considered disrespectful. I am pretty sure they carry this language back home as well. Swearing is habitual for many they are quite casual about using or listening to it. Laziness to find a more appropriate word combined with wanting to be "hep" has reduced many youngsters to swearing and uncouth individuals. When I say “Watch your language”, they usually quieten up in class. But I wonder why the society has become so accepting of foul language. It is not so in many homes and I hope many schools. The recent NTU valedictorian video has left me more worried about my two young boys.

Do we need a “Need some shame” campaign?

[mommasays]

I’ve heard from my son’s school mate about this tuition centre in the West where foul language is used generously, not only by the students but by the tutors themselves. It’s disappointing that even the educators themselves are not setting good examples. I say, try to keep your kids in good company, get to know their friends, invite them over for meals etc. You know the works. That way, you get to see for yourselves and advice your kids on who he ought to stay away from.

[davidchatman]

I am not a parent. But I think infancy is the best time to shape the babies behaviour and character, you have to carry the baby through that sort of situation in which he/she can learn the value of honesty and other good valuable lessons.

[ChiefKiasu]

It’s an excellent piece indeed, insider! I feel ashamed, myself, when I think about my own mother giving us, her 7 children, the best of whatever is available. As a child, I have always thought that was what parents are supposed to do.


Now, as I parent, I understood that my mother has not always liked to eat the leftovers, the stale rice, or go hungry just to ensure that her precious children do not suffer. And each time when I finish up whatever my own children cannot finish, I would remember my mother.

While the article seems to be saying that we should need to look after our own needs too, I think there are not many Asian parents who can actually do that, because of the way we have been brought up by our own parents.

[MIB]

Chuan chuan wrote: talking about value…



This morning we were at the HDB Hub car park. While walking towards the lift, a car suddenly cut infront of us just to get to a lot , almost knock us down(they were anti direction according to the road sign).

After they got off their car with their 2 kids (going for Shichida Method), they pretended that nothing had happened.
What is the point of training their kids brains when they don’t even have the basic courtesy themselv"

Yup I agreed with Chuan chuan. I think sometimes we ourselves are rude and inconsiderate. We forgot that we are supposed to be role models ourselves and with kids seeing us, I just couldn’t imagine what we are teaching them…Bad examples. No wonder our kids nowadays most of them are behaving like us adults…need to do soul-searching sigh…

[sleepy]

insider:

我另一位朋友母亲的做法，则恰恰与王婆婆是南辕北辙，家里一切好吃、好用的，都是由他们做父母、长辈的先享用，才再轮到小孩，所以至今他们做孩子的虽都已为人父母，甚至有做了阿公阿妈的，但当一得到什么好东西，还是会「习惯性」地先去「进贡」给父母。


Source: http://mandarincounsellingsg.blogspot.com/2011/08/blog-post.html

I practise method 2. But dh isn't quite agreeable. Why 妈妈和孩子抢东西吃?
I told him to wait 20 years and he will know I'm right