Me Time!
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MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"2020806\" time=\"1618894003\" user_id=\"43981:
The decisions were all spread out. I gave up the idea of legal practice even while I was studying law (21 yo)- it was interesting, and I have no regrets studying the subjects, but I realised that practising law was not something that attracted me or fitted with my personality. We married and bought our first HDB flat at 23yo. I was working as a librarian when we got married, bought our flat, etc. Leaving to go overseas with my husband was years later (31yo)!
Slmkhoo, I think you are very brave to abandon everything at such young age then. At that age, I remember both dh and I were planning to get our first home and to take care of our parents. I remember you need to relocate to a another country to support your dh's career right. Else you can practice at the same time.
If I can I ask you.. do you sometimes feel a bit wasted? And do you remember need alot of time to take on your new role then?
Wasted? If you count by money, yes, it was a waste. If you count by doing something together as a family, having time to spend with my kids (especially the special needs one), all the experiences of living in different countries, etc - no, I wouldn't choose to do it differently if I had to choose again.
Coming back and re-entering the workforce at 50 was challenging, especially as I would only consider part-time roles (because of the kids). Not a lot of people took my applications seriously, I think! But my library experience helped me land the first PT job for about 18 mths. When that role ended, I decided to try editing, and got my first intro - my academic qualifications must have helped. Over the last 5 years, I have done quite a bit as a freelancer, mostly with 1 publisher. They keep sending me work, so they must be happy with it. The Comms part started as volunteer work, then grew, but as it's with a non-profit, the pay is quite little (freelancing doesn't pay that well either). But I can't complain since I think I could probably have got a better-paying full-time job if I had wanted to earlier, just that I didn't want to. And I intentionally limit my freelance work to keep time for my family.
That's why I don't press my kids to judge jobs in terms of pay - I tell them they have to adjust their lifestyles to suit their income, and that is just one factor to take into considerating when choosing a job. -
slmkhoo\" post_id=\"2020815\" time=\"1618895956\" user_id=\"28674:
Yeah it looks like quite few of us here and around me need to give up our jobs for the kids. I think that could be one of the reasons my thoughts sway to having an alternative to earn some money while staying at home. I rarely picture them as career women somehow haha..guess very naturally I gave my kids such impression too. But the elder will sometimes says she wants to earn more money next time..maybe see the current arrangement of life ba, heartache lor. Yup time spent with kids we shall not think as a waste..
The decisions were all spread out. I gave up the idea of legal practice even while I was studying law (21 yo)- it was interesting, and I have no regrets studying the subjects, but I realised that practising law was not something that attracted me or fitted with my personality. We married and bought our first HDB flat at 23yo. I was working as a librarian when we got married, bought our flat, etc. Leaving to go overseas with my husband was years later (31yo)!MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"2020806\" time=\"1618894003\" user_id=\"43981:
Slmkhoo, I think you are very brave to abandon everything at such young age then. At that age, I remember both dh and I were planning to get our first home and to take care of our parents. I remember you need to relocate to a another country to support your dh's career right. Else you can practice at the same time.
If I can I ask you.. do you sometimes feel a bit wasted? And do you remember need alot of time to take on your new role then?
Wasted? If you count by money, yes, it was a waste. If you count by doing something together as a family, having time to spend with my kids (especially the special needs one), all the experiences of living in different countries, etc - no, I wouldn't choose to do it differently if I had to choose again.
Coming back and re-entering the workforce at 50 was challenging, especially as I would only consider part-time roles (because of the kids). Not a lot of people took my applications seriously, I think! But my library experience helped me land the first PT job for about 18 mths. When that role ended, I decided to try editing, and got my first intro - my academic qualifications must have helped. Over the last 5 years, I have done quite a bit as a freelancer, mostly with 1 publisher. They keep sending me work, so they must be happy with it. The Comms part started as volunteer work, then grew, but as it's with a non-profit, the pay is quite little (freelancing doesn't pay that well either). But I can't complain since I think I could probably have got a better-paying full-time job if I had wanted to earlier, just that I didn't want to. And I intentionally limit my freelance work to keep time for my family.
That's why I don't press my kids to judge jobs in terms of pay - I tell them they have to adjust their lifestyles to suit their income, and that is just one factor to take into considerating when choosing a job. -
Totally agree…not easy to enter into workforce at our age and after so long not in it! There were times I do feel frustrated I feel like applying for a job but then I was thinking possible mah??
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zac's mum\" post_id=\"2020724\" time=\"1618828739\" user_id=\"53606:[quote=\"zac's mum\" post_id=2020724 time=1618828739 user_id=53606]
Hihi!! Our fellow forummers have generously shared their experiences. To add on, I feel that UGs give all students good opportunities to be involved in 'interesting projects', which do not peg on their academic program/ prowess. ['https://www.moe.gov.sg/programmes/gifted-education/special-programmes' sort of projects, like moot parliament, research collaborations with universities, are often restricted to IP...] UG participants may be tasked to take care of their UG's administrative matters, general discipline, welfare, communications... They will learn how to carry themselves in groups, contribute+ group dynamics, consult with teachers/ adults, manage deadlines, responsibilities
Just wondering...do your kids do any interesting projects in secondary school/JC? I mean those that have some real-life applications...which may lead to them having more interest in exploring that field...Sometimes I feel very sad that our kids don’t get to explore hands-on much in school. Mostly just drilling for exams.[/quote]
My dd is in a UG (primary school), & I hope she can continue in a similar UG (with no compulsory HMT) post-primary -
Hi-5 sky! UG = uniform group? My DS is also in a UG and he loves it (more for the group socialization aspect. Other responsibilities are a bonus) Also hope to continue same UG in secondary school!
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MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"2020779\" time=\"1618887840\" user_id=\"43981:
Zeal mummy\" post_id=\"2020759\" time=\"1618852329\" user_id=\"58173:[quote=\"Zeal mummy\" post_id=2020759 time=1618852329 user_id=58173]
I never bring them there! Not sure for the younger during kindy days though, those excursions.Do bring them when you get the chance. I recall my child tried out the many jobs, as an optician as well as many others. Not sure how old is your child but do check it online.
Go away, covid! -
sky minecrafter\" post_id=\"2020831\" time=\"1618902365\" user_id=\"130531:[quote=\"sky minecrafter\" post_id=2020831 time=1618902365 user_id=130531]
Agree with you on many points above. My dd just joined an UG in secondary school, learning the ropes now.. I can relate to the skills u listed.zac's mum\" post_id=\"2020724\" time=\"1618828739\" user_id=\"53606:[quote=\"zac's mum\" post_id=2020724 time=1618828739 user_id=53606]Just wondering...do your kids do any interesting projects in secondary school/JC? I mean those that have some real-life applications...which may lead to them having more interest in exploring that field...Sometimes I feel very sad that our kids don’t get to explore hands-on much in school. Mostly just drilling for exams.[/quote]
Hihi!! Our fellow forummers have generously shared their experiences. To add on, I feel that UGs give all students good opportunities to be involved in 'interesting projects', which do not peg on their academic program/ prowess. ['https://www.moe.gov.sg/programmes/gifted-education/special-programmes' sort of projects, like moot parliament, research collaborations with universities, are often restricted to IP...] UG participants may be tasked to take care of their UG's administrative matters, general discipline, welfare, communications... They will learn how to carry themselves in groups, contribute+ group dynamics, consult with teachers/ adults, manage deadlines, responsibilities
My dd is in a UG (primary school), & I hope she can continue in a similar UG (with no compulsory HMT) post-primary[/quote]
Come to our school! No compulsory HMT and almost all the UG u need. -
One dd is UG and another is not. Good to start UG from pri? She is trying some musicsl thing now.
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MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"2020879\" time=\"1618961774\" user_id=\"43981:
I think choosing CCA should ideally be based on their interests & personality. At Primary school level CCA is quite unimportant & inconsequential I feel...or at least in DS school, the CCAs are treated as such.
One dd is UG and another is not. Good to start UG from pri? She is trying some musicsl thing now.
I let DS join UG becos he’s an extrovert & loves the interaction. However, my friend let her introvert DD join UG becos the girl benefits from having new safe & trustworthy friends in that CCA. Once the kids are introduced to each other in the small teams, they tend to have a very strong bond. So introverts can benefit from UG too. Depends on your perspective & child.
If she likes music more then music CCA is fine too.
Don’t expect to use CCA for DSA. Won’t help much
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zac's mum\" post_id=\"2020882\" time=\"1618963845\" user_id=\"53606:[quote=\"zac's mum\" post_id=2020882 time=1618963845 user_id=53606]
dd aim to go back only..I noticed kept telling her aiyo marks like these how to go back arh during marking of her past year qn last week haha..So far every year change cca. A bit to be soft side in terms of the mind strength looks like Ug may e beneficial to her if she wants to change. She likes those more body movements, also good as right now very much lesser playing around due to covid. Ok, let's go for more enjoyment at this level..MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"2020879\" time=\"1618961774\" user_id=\"43981:I think choosing CCA should ideally be based on their interests & personality. At Primary school level CCA is quite unimportant & inconsequential I feel...or at least in DS school, the CCAs are treated as such.
I let DS join UG becos he’s an extrovert & loves the interaction. However, my friend let her introvert DD join UG becos the girl benefits from having new safe & trustworthy friends in that CCA. Once the kids are introduced to each other in the small teams, they tend to have a very strong bond. So introverts can benefit from UG too. Depends on your perspective & child.
If she likes music more then music CCA is fine too.
Don’t expect to use CCA for DSA. Won’t help much
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