Me Time!
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Joule:
nice one bro. yes, i need me time to do exercise too. but sadly at those time of the night/wee hours, cant really exercise outside. I scared dark.
thumbs up, pops
not really sure how you can me time
what do you like to do?
I take walks, jog (when I feel like it) and sometimes cycle to the town centre after kids have slept
once in a while....really once in a while on Fri nights I will play action packed computer games and wife plays with me
Me time is impt to all of us. be it hubby or wife. it let us recharge and relax so that we can tke it more stress. without it, we will blow our top very soon.sleepy:
wkdays are too hectic....wkends maybe? yes agree...everyone needs me time...and in moderation too.
Yes, by taking turns.SBKS:
can my situation squeeze anymore ME time?
Ask your wife to take care of both kids on a day you both agreed on, for a couple of hours.
You can use that 2 hours to chill out somewhere (not too far away from home so that you can react quickly if you need to rush home)
And you can do the same for your wife on a separate day that both of you agreed on. She needs ME time too.
Start with once a week. See if manageable.
i dun socialise much....aka dun go out wif frens type...so maybe use that time for exercising. ok i will suggest that to wife. thanks alot.happy to be mum:
yes you should too.....enjoy your ME time.Whoa! hearing all your ME time makes me feel I have to plan too for my ME time!
for my ME time, there is no structure, more of impromptu...weekdays very difficult to squeeze in any ME time unless if mean I go back home later....like today..I will go back late..cause just want to go and work out in the gym after work and also to have ME time...since CA just over
it is good and important to have ME time...and I should plan properly
janet, Happy Anniversay to you! -
Funz:
yes well said. its takes planning and squeezing. and its something that we have to do in order to achieve good health be it mental or physical.I am fortunate to have almost daily me time on weekdays. After I send the kids off to school, I will have 2 whole hours to myself before I head off to work. I will usually take 1 hour for my morning run, thereafter read the papers while cooling off, shower, breakfast and off to work. Kids are packed off to bed at 9pm, DD still needs me to accompany her till she sleeps so from about 9.30pm onwards, I have another pocket of me time/couple time.
I am content to spend 'me time' at home pottering around thus it is easy to find 'me time'. For those who need to get out, it will be a little more challenging. 'Me time' need not be a daily thing. Work a schedule out with our spouse. When you plan, you will definitely be able to carve out some time.smartmummy:
yes at times we are all bogged down by too many things to do...i recently replan the me time....cos maybe too ambitious.This year,I have two hours of me time in the afternoon(2-4).I use that time for reading/nap/self reflection/talk with a friend over the phone/Grocery shopping cum window shopping.If I finish my chores on time then I can enjoy my ME Time fully,whole two hrs.
My DH ME time jogging,surf net(news,news,news....).
given up facebook recently...used to be hooked on it...either games on it or status updates. actually not just facebook, given up on twitter and google + too. just off social media....see if it helps in recovering some me time. -
fable:
oh yes, i did tot of getting them to slp earlier. but by the time I reach home with them is ard 7+. go eat come back is 8+. bathe settle down is 9+... couldnt be earlier although i wish i could. and worse if it rains and no cab comes. call heaven no come call earth no taxi...
Can you get them to sleep earlier? At ages 2.5 and 5, it would be good for them to be able to get close to 11-12 hours sleep. If they go to bed at about 8, you'll have time to go for a night time run, or open a bottle of sake (smaller than a bottle of wine!) to share with your wife.
It'll get easier when they're both in primary school - then you may be able to squeeze some time after they go to school and before you go to work.
But what kind of ME activities do you want to do? Exercise? Meet friends? Date your wife?
My me activity is yoga. After I drop by son at school, and if I'm not teaching that day, I'll go for yoga followed by kopi with my friends.
pardon me but I heard that once they go primary, it be worse as you had to check on their homework. so more time consumed?
yes i seem to forgot to mentioned what i want to do in ME time. basically want to find some relaxing stuff to do.
I mean other than listening to fave music or read a light book and exercising, I want to know what other relaxing stuff can be done to relax myself. stress and tension has been rather high so need to find more relaxing ways to relax oneself so as to accept more stress. like emptying the stress bin in order to take more stress. -
SBKS:
Lol. I am just always amazed that he can multi task. And he does not miss out on the details of our conversation despite being occupied with his stuff. :boogie:
:rotflmao: the way u put it is so funny...abt ur hubby playing everything at once.jedamum:
Oh, SBKS is a daddy.
Daddy wants what sort of me time?
My husband 'me time' starts straight from after dinner as I am a sahm to ensure kids don't need to dad's time unless for play. His me time is usually spent on games, surf net,he can play computer and handheld games at the same time. After kids sleep, we retire to the room for drinks, I watch tv, he play some more games or surf with his phone and watch tv with me and we chat random stuff that pops up. Then bedtime for him while I go prepare for next day stuff. He enjoys hearty lunch alone as part of his me time. Weekends, we head off different places to send different kids to enrichment .that is me time for us although we prefer it to be couple time. It helps that I have free SMS so just update each other. He used that time to surf net or play games.....again. :faint:
It gets better when your younger goes to primary school if you can establish routine and independence. After dinner and homework, my primary one boy will have his free time till bedtime. He can entertain himself with a book or drawings. So hang on for another four years!
i also duno wat sort of me time that i need. Tink just time for myself?
wkends before and after their enrichments are more like chores time. otherwise its like kids time. -
I find it really not easy to get proper me time. I have students smsing me their homework after 11pm and parents smsing me to checking on their kids progress consistently. This week CA1, I barely have time to breathe, sit down and do my own thing. I just hope things get better next week. Fingers crossed, time to receive results.
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SBKS:
This is a demanding age, but they will also never be this cute again.
oh yes, i did tot of getting them to slp earlier. but by the time I reach home with them is ard 7+. go eat come back is 8+. bathe settle down is 9+... couldnt be earlier although i wish i could. and worse if it rains and no cab comes. call heaven no come call earth no taxi...
pardon me but I heard that once they go primary, it be worse as you had to check on their homework. so more time consumed?
yes i seem to forgot to mentioned what i want to do in ME time. basically want to find some relaxing stuff to do.
I mean other than listening to fave music or read a light book and exercising, I want to know what other relaxing stuff can be done to relax myself. stress and tension has been rather high so need to find more relaxing ways to relax oneself so as to accept more stress. like emptying the stress bin in order to take more stress. you can find pockets of me time during your lunch breaks and after they sleep. Or do things that you enjoy with them over the weekend. Not quite \"me\" time, but still good.
Other relaxing stuff - watch comedies (cable or rent), foot massage (buy machines if no time to go) , keep fish or plants (childproof, but kids will also learn a lot from this activity).
Dh kept crayfishes, borrowed his parents' foot massage machine (thrilling ds1, then 5), went to the gym after work, and we borrowed lots of videos to watch after they slept even though we kept falling asleep at the most exciting parts.
Outsource whatever you can if you find yourself reaching your limits. If you must use paper plates for one week because you just can't face the dishes anymore, use paper plates for one week. If there is a problem area in the house, fix it so you can stop wasting energies over it (eg shower doors instead of curtains, leaking windows etc).
Primary school is a different ballgame. Once the child kinda get into the groove, it is quite relaxing as long as you have taught the child to be independent and don't knock yourself over with too many extra classes (travelling time is very tiring). Accept that kids are kids, it is a learning curve, and don't expect them to get everything right immediately. Including doing homework and passing you the right papers to sign. Their school day is pretty long, so you can squeeze some me time in after sending them to school. -
Oh ya, not exactly healthy, but crunching on potato crisps was very relaxing for dh too. I prefer chocolate cakes.
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[quote]by the time I reach home with them is ard 7+. go eat come back is 8+. bathe settle down is 9+... couldnt be earlier although i wish i could.[/quote]
Sounds like you get your kids home, then go out to eat and return home again? One thing that would save time (and possibly money) is catering your dinners - you can order tingkat meals with rice and a few dishes, so you can come home, eat, then settle them for bed.
We sit down for dinner between 6.45 and 7 every night, and my son's bedtime is 7.45. He usually takes a shower before dinner, then after eating he'll chill with us for 20 - 30 min before brushing his teeth. Then its book and lullabye time. Its all about creating a routine - there will be an initial stage of adjustment, but things will settle down as long as you stay firm. -
SBKS:
yes it does help....
given up facebook recently...used to be hooked on it...either games on it or status updates. actually not just facebook, given up on twitter and google + too. just off social media....see if it helps in recovering some me time.
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Good points on social media and not eating out. These two make a lot f difference too.
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