Me Time!

[sharonkhoo]

sleepy:

I'm still yelling about socks on the floor once a week. Honestly this should be zero occurrence!

Don't yell? Just leave the socks there until they run out? Or if you really can stand the sight, put them in a bag or container in a corner? Or put them on their beds - that should attract their attention without your needing to shout.

[ImMeeMee]

slmkhoo:

I know what you mean - I went through and am still going through the process too. It's good to intentionally step back gradually - partly to let them learn, and also to avoid some of the inevitable clashes if you are too involved. You can still watch from a distance and step in if you see they get seriously out of their depth. They will make mistakes, and sometimes blame you for not helping (you may feel a bit guilty too!), but it's all part of the learning process. You just want to prevent the worst or irrepairable consequences, but a few knocks and small failures are good for them. My husband has been the one who tells me when I should step back as I'm usually too close to see. Over the years, I have gradually increased the volunteer stuff I do, gone out with friends more, and recently took on freelance/PT work too. The benefit is that we also get to reclaim our selves (and our marriages) which have taken more of a back seat when the kids were small.

Well said slmkhoo. Especially the blame part.

On a side note, I have been telling DH that its about time we start to cultivate our other interests. Both of us have been very involved with the kids that a lot of other things take a back seat. So we better prepare ourselves eventually for Empty Nest Syndrome one day when it hits.

[sleepy]

Socks at entrance of the house. Buay tahan leh.


I threaten to throw their dirty socks on their bed. Then I get this calm come back line if I can bring dirty socks to their room why not bring dirty socks directly to the laundry basket instead.

[Funz]

Waahh, you kids can get away with this kind of sass?


For me, I will not threaten, I will just do. Their socks will either end up on their study table, on their bed or in the dustbin.

[starlight1968sg]

We leave the shoes and socks outside our main door. So I don’t bother

[Porky Pig]

sleepy:

I'm still yelling about socks on the floor once a week. Honestly this should be zero occurrence!

I have zero tolerance for mess. I have set up a proper designated place for most items eg, dirty socks should be in a designated pail at my balcony area. That way I will be able to toss them in when I am doing my laundry. If they are not there, then it will not be washed. DS learnt it the hard way cos he went to school without his school socks as they were lying somewhere else and he has no clean socks to wear. I will not pick up after him. Nowadays all's well. Thank God.

[starlight1968sg]

PP

Your WM is in your balcony?

[Porky Pig]

starlight1968sg:

PP

Your WM is in your balcony?

My balcony sits at the end of my kitchen. There I have my beloved washing machine, dryer all neatly stacked on top of each other plus my laundry baskets. I have some pails for designated items.

[Joyymum]

Not sure where to post this …


May I know how long did you allow your children to play games with their phones or game station?

Actually we have a rule to follow I.e if that child do not perform up to our expectations for that particular exam they will not be allowed to play any games. Cannot have access to the phone for games for 1 to 2 months. However, I think it’s peer pressure for them to need to play a certain game with their classmates in order to maintain the good relationship ?! I think I can understand but does it make sense to break our rules for this ?

Hence I need to know how long do u let your children play games after school or only during weekends despite them not doing well or not up to your expectations ?

[Imp75]

I see that Me-Time has become a place for complaints against our kids lolol

Yesterday after a long, emotionally and physically draining day in school, when DD1 came back at 6pm, I asked her if there were any hw. She said no and since MYE was over, I thought my question was perhaps perfunctory. I asked again after dinner (I think I must be so used to it). Still said no. Then while 3/4 into the 小三 show, she shouted "omg, I forgot I got this hw to do"…(her bedtime is usually by 10pm). So she ran to the room to try to do. Obviously being physically and mentally drained, she couldn’t do the HCL comprehension question on character analysis. Her default was to ask me. Of course, I didn’t know how to b/c this was a certain format taught to them to identify certain character traits and to label as such. So she made a big fuss that I was not helping and disgruntledly did it, with sobbings in between writing. At the back of my mind, I could feel myself screaming "f**k off…served you right for not being on top of things, yet still had the cheek to blame me for not knowing…" Knowing she had a bad day, I just left her to her own device b/c 本小姐的脾气也好不到哪里去。