Temper Tantrums
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When my boy throws a tantrum and yell, scream his head off, we will try all sorts of distractions ie. TV, humour, music, sing & dance around him etc... If he is fussy and unreasonable (bad mood), my maid will keep very quiet until he gets over it. If it is reasonable ie. he wants something to be done, she will do for him. Other times she will play with him and humor him.
My hubby is also super patient and will talk to him gently and try humor and reasoning on him - at home. Outside, once he started his tantrums, his daddy will carry him like a sack of potatoes or put him on top of his shoulders and walk very quickly! Usually it works to distract him and he will soon stop. If not, we are already at the car and home we go!
Me? At home ignore. I am good at that because I am either concentrating on TV or KSP at the PC (heh...heh...heh)! When I cannot tahan anymore at his unreasonable whining, \"piak piak\" his fat thigh will usually do the trick.
No wise advice here....
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Hi Desertwind,
I wish I can be like you - ignore when DD is throwing tantrums. I'm usually very affected by her screaming and crying especially the unreasonable ones. Usually end up \"piak piak\" her or order her to stand facing the wall. And she would then face the wall and sulk. After a while, when she has calmed down and I have cooled down, I would call her over or go to her and \"sayang\" her. -
\"Piak, piak\", then heart-pain, precious child, then manjar kid. Then tantrum, \"piak piak\" again...the cycle continues.
kee...hee...hee...
Angelight:
...Usually end up \"piak piak\" her or order her to stand facing the wall. And she would then face the wall and sulk. After a while, when she has calmed down and I have cooled down, I would call her over or go to her and \"sayang\" her.
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"Piak, Piak" works wonders. I find if I do it for the major things. Eg. when they dare to scream at grandma and after that explain to them why I had to punish them. They learn and after a while, they also know there is an invisible line that they cannot cross and they know the principles behind why they cannot do it. But at first when they are younger (1 - 3 yrs old), many times, they don’t understand the principle so just have to "piak, piak’ first.
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sorry posted twice :oops:
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concern.mum:
\"Piak, Piak\" works wonders. I find if I do it for the major things. Eg. when they dare to scream at grandma and after that explain to them why I had to punish them. They learn and after a while, they also know there is an invisible line that they cannot cross and they know the principles behind why they cannot do it. But at first when they are younger (1 - 3 yrs old), many times, they don't understand the principle so just have to \"piak, piak' first.
you 'piak piak', you child won't 'piak piak' you back? -
Angelight:
And I thought im a mean mummyHi Desertwind,
I wish I can be like you - ignore when DD is throwing tantrums. I'm usually very affected by her screaming and crying especially the unreasonable ones. Usually end up \"piak piak\" her or order her to stand facing the wall. And she would then face the wall and sulk. After a while, when she has calmed down and I have cooled down, I would call her over or go to her and \"sayang\" her.
I also cannot tolerate too much screaming, yelling n crying..
I will try my best to console them.
If really cannot then too bad..
I have to give it to them.
But after I piak piak him, I told myself never ever to go to them or sayang them.
Coz they might think that..aiyah mummy piak then wait she sayang me..
Come home from a long day at work. Just sat down on the sofa then they start to fight fight each other.
then all the wailing and crying..OMG
I just cannot bear it..lol
The younger kid is sweet mannered but the older one always disturbs him.hence it always end up in kiddy fights..
How to really ignore the cries at home... sigh.. -
When my boy was younger ie. around 2 yo, the tantrums started and we understood it to be the \"terrible twos\" period. We tried not to \"piak, piak\" him but try to pacify him. But found to our horror that the tantrums can really go on - for about 45 mins to almost an hour! My boy is quite a stubborn boy! He would actually cry, yell, scream and fuss non-stop if he wanted something and we did not give in to him. Couple of times, he actually vomitted his milk and dinner after he cried too badly and too long and voice became hoarse in the process. That was when I found that I got no choice but to \"piak, piak\" to make him stop! I was amazed that instead of crying more, he actually made a tremendously effort to stop fussing and ran after me to \"pacify mummy\"!
After that, there was once I saw that he was crying and fussing and already going into almost hysterical. (3 of us adults could not pacify him.) In a panic, I gave a big \"piak\" on his fat thigh and told him to STOP CRYING! Because no joke I tell you if it crosses a certain threshold (you know what I mean)!
Since then, no problem, sometimes you really need to get the message across their young minds and the only way is to \"piak, piak\" together with telling him the reason why it was done. For example, persistently staying in front of the TV screen despite repeat warnings, persistently wanting to climb up the swimming pool slide which is dangerous despite mummy telling him not to do it, persistently spitting Ribena from mouth onto the floor and last straw - spat on the bed! I tell you \"piak, piak\" one time only the spitting stopped! When he was much younger, he was reaching out to touch the electrical socket repeatedly at granny's place. \"Piak, Piak\" without much hesitation in a desperate bid to stop his action! He never did that again too.
During the \"terrible twos\" stage, he did try to hit back ie. he could not believe he was being hit and was angry and cried and used his two baby fists to beat my lap! Then he tried to pull my hair and pull my spectacles off too! If I let him he will probably be scratching my face and bounce on my tummy as well! But I got up and throw him out of my bedroom and locked the door! I let him cry and scream outside for a short while (about 5 to 10 mins. max) refusing to give in during this time. After that, quickly open the door (before he got hysterical) and go do something else in the kitchen, on the TV etc....usually by then after I came out, he would make an effort to stop screaming, ran after me and calm down.
He is now 3 yo and I am thinking the day when my \"piak, piak\" on his fat thigh does not work anymore, it will be time to introduce the cane. My hubby could not bear the thought at all and asked me must I really do it? I say see how first! It is when they are young or never - by then may be too late. :idea: -
DesertWind:
Only cane the palms of the hand or soles of the feet.
He is now 3 yo and I am thinking the day when my \"piak, piak\" on his fat thigh does not work anymore, it will be time to introduce the cane. My hubby could not bear the thought at all and asked me must I really do it? I say see how first! It is when they are young or never - by then may be too late. :idea:
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mrswongtuition:
Ouch! Isn't these 2 areas the most sensitive & painful mrswongtuition? How about the leg below knee, above ankle? This is the area I intend to cane if I finally managed to buy one. I am remembering the time when I got caned by my mother lor and that is the area she always whack!Only cane the palms of the hand or soles of the feet.
Not anywhere else.
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