In-law problems?

[janet88]

My parents were already looking after the kids…yet I’m expected to accompany hubby OVERNIGHT at the hospital. Who should be looking after the children then ? Shouldn’t it be the paternal grandmother then ?

The daughters-in-law always get the blame when the husbands don’t buy mooncake or whatever for their mothers. Sons never get the blame for anything.
If she claims to be so concerned about her son, then she should go to the hospital and visit him…don’t say that she doesn’t know where SGH is. :x It’s not me she is visiting but her OWN precious son.

[minnie2004]

Sadly it's usually the maternal grandparents who care about their daughter's children, not the paternal grandparents. The only thing we can do is accept this is the fact and don't take it seriously.

[janet88]

Minnie,

Maternal grandparents will know what the grandchildren like/don’t like to eat. Paternal grandmother only knows what HER children like to eat.
When my son had his operation for cleft, the paternal grandparents came to the hospital like GUESTS.

[corneyAmber]

buds:

Andaiz:

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Me too please... :please:... oh dear guru.
Pwweease PM me too... i enjoy the process too.
Anything for better control. The longer the better.
Hmmm... :idea: ... or are we talking about a different
kind of control here. :siam: Oops. Did i say that out loud??

PM! PM! :siam:

Hey ladies, from the sound of it, both of don't need to know more la......you are both too happy to need anything more .......... :love: :celebrate:

[minnie2004]

janet_lee88:

Minnie,

Maternal grandparents will know what the grandchildren like/don't like to eat. Paternal grandmother only knows what HER children like to eat.
When my son had his operation for cleft, the paternal grandparents came to the hospital like GUESTS.

There's in fact some scientific backing for this phenomenon. Paternal parents do not naturally love their grandchildren b/c there's always a slight possiblity they are not the offsprings of their sons. Whereas for maternal grandparents, they are 100% sure they are their daughter's babies. Hence the love on day 1.

Besides, as mothers are the primary care-taker of their babies, maternal grandparents, out of love for their daughter, will try to help with the babies. On the contrary, the paternal grandparents could care less about the well-being of DILs and expect them to shoulder all the burden alone.

There're of course good paternal grandparents out there but at least this is my observation and applies to me. My MIL would travel all the way to Asia (Beijing, Huang San, Taiwan, Japan etc) from US for sightseeing but too troublesome to come to Singapore to see her grandkids.

[auntieM]

Well said minnie2004 :salute:

[autumnbronze]

I guess I am the exception then ...


Happy to say that my ILs are the ones who look out for my DS, while my mom would (don't even want to go on lah) .... haiz, thats the sad part

But then again, she was like that to all her grandkids....

[buds]

Aaw sista... :hugs:

[minnie2004]

After not talking to each other for 2 years, MIL suddenly asked to talk to me on the phone earlier, asking me to stay at her place when we visit LA in June.


Just a little recap: MIL is a widow living alone in LA. She's very bitter as both sons are away. She's also an extremely demanding and untrusting person. We are planning a trip to the U.S. this summer. The plan was we'll visit her in LA before flying back but I'll leave early, leaving the kids and DH w/ her. After being kicked out of her house the last time we stayed there 5 years ago I swear I'll never step into her house again. Now she said she has forgetten everything and asked me to stay there. I don't think it's true as she still made reference to that incident during our CNY family holiday 2 years ago and treated me like hell. But I'll still give her another chance. The good thing is I already booked the airtix so my return date is fixed. Only need to spend 2 nites at her place. So hope nothing dramatic happens I'll try to spend as much time as possible outside, Disney, Legoland, whatever.

[autumnbronze]

Thanks sista, :hugs: back to you too.


ps: I am assuming the post was meant for me