In-law problems?
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Looking after young kids isn’t easy…ILs usually want to PLAY with them and return to you after that. My parents helped me with my 2 kids these past 10 years & I’m truly grateful and appreciate it.
Hubby & his siblings were brought up eating economy rice from downstairs bcos their mother prefers to have her kitchen spanking clean, and her hair nicely set. She is the ‘hi-and-bye’ sort of grandmother. -
janet_lee88:
Some not even interested in their grandkids except for Kodak moments.. ..Looking after young kids isn't easy...ILs usually want to PLAY with them and return to you after that. My parents helped me with my 2 kids these past 10 years & I'm truly grateful and appreciate it.
Hubby & his siblings were brought up eating economy rice from downstairs bcos their mother prefers to have her kitchen spanking clean, and her hair nicely set. She is the 'hi-and-bye' sort of grandmother.
Look after :shock: .. some dun even look long enough to recognise the kiddo faces..
For those that have nice and helpful PILs.. ..very lucky indeed
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auntieM:
If interested in Kodak moments also good enough lah, my MIL not interested at all. Even DH give up on his own mother.
Some not even interested in their grandkids except for Kodak moments.. ..
Look after :shock: .. some dun even look long enough to recognise the kiddo faces..
For those that have nice and helpful PILs.. ..very lucky indeed
Talking about PIL, anyone else having this kind of problem with PIL? My FIL having financial difficulties as he is not working as is still paying the HDB loan cash every month. Recently, he was diagnosed with severe depression with bouts of scizophrenia. So when DH offered FIL for the hundredth time to stay with us and rent out his house, FIL finally agreed. But the problem is, My SIL & Family is blaming us for the position they are in. They have been living off my FIL for free the past few years since he was retrenched and now blames DH for not contributing financially to the family. They also blame DH for forcing them to look for their own house. :roll:
In the 1st place, we have been telling them this idea since my FIL first got retrenched(5-8 years oredi hor!) till today. We have been very clear on our stand from day One. The relationship with SILs have gone sour but we are still pretending for now. DH is preparing himself for a showdown soon to force them to get their own house soon because he doesn't want FIL to get more depressed. Plus, we have had enough of being blamed for not helping financially. They have no responsibilities but themselves and baby, live there but my PIL still have to pay for their own food and stuff.
Any advice on how we can handle this better? -
hercules:
Mums r WOMEN and most women 'say one thing and mean the other'.
Hi Hercules!
I have learnt through the very hard way with my MIL! Got into so much trouble when we first got marriage all because I got her meaning all WRONG! There seems to be a \"script\" involved and I must know what should be the \"correct answers\" to give!
My mother :love: said I am very goondo dunno how to interpret when my MIL is just being polite and when is real! :?
For example, MIL asked \"Would you like to take this item with you to your new house?\"
My goondu answer: \"No, if possible not because this is very bulky we don't have the space.\" MIL volcano erupted! :x
Correct answer should be \"Yes, thank you very much MIL! It is so nice of you to give us this item!!!\".
Sigh.......interpreting is harder than climbing a mountain. :scared:
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DesertWind:
if that's the answer, then i'll fail terribly
For example, MIL asked \"Would you like to take this item with you to your new house?\"
My goondu answer: \"No, if possible not because this is very bulky we don't have the space.\" MIL volcano erupted! :x
Correct answer should be \"Yes, thank you very much MIL! It is so nice of you to give us this item!!!\".
Sigh.......interpreting is harder than climbing a mountain. :scared:
:celebrate:
Heng!!!....no chance to stay with PIL....as i am the sort who is straightforward with words -
DesertWind,
How about telling your MIL: What do you want to do with 'it'?
Let her reply you and act blur lor....
Well somethings do get broken/missing when you don't move/store them properly... -
This reminded me of some incidents when my hubby and I had out first own house.
My MIL did not even bother to ask...she brought those funny decor stuff right to my house...standing at my doorstep without even telling us she was coming over...
Nightmare...DesertWind:
hercules:
Mums r WOMEN and most women 'say one thing and mean the other'.
Hi Hercules!
I have learnt through the very hard way with my MIL! Got into so much trouble when we first got marriage all because I got her meaning all WRONG! There seems to be a \"script\" involved and I must know what should be the \"correct answers\" to give!
My mother :love: said I am very goondo dunno how to interpret when my MIL is just being polite and when is real! :?
For example, MIL asked \"Would you like to take this item with you to your new house?\"
My goondu answer: \"No, if possible not because this is very bulky we don't have the space.\" MIL volcano erupted! :x
Correct answer should be \"Yes, thank you very much MIL! It is so nice of you to give us this item!!!\".
Sigh.......interpreting is harder than climbing a mountain. :scared:
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Mine did the same when she moved house and brought a miniload to my doorstep.. ...
My DH was around and the load vanished after the garang guni man, didn't even make it into the house.. ..heng ah
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Good for you
The first time my MIL popped over, I did not know she brought extra stuff... I was in the kitchen for about 10min...and when I went back to the living room, I found her roaming about in my house...with an ornament in her hand. And I discovered that she had already hang up and displayed a few around my house!!!
And yes, those things \"disappeared\" after a few weeks...and my HB kept quiet and did not ask me...I was glad he knew when he shd act blur
auntieM:
Mine did the same when she moved house and brought a miniload to my doorstep.. ...
My DH was around and the load vanished after the garang guni man, didn't even make it into the house.. ..heng ah -
KingRascal,
I would do the same if I were you…hubby brought HIS family portrait to our new house, fortunately he had the brains not to hang it up or I would have erupted like a volcano.
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