In-law problems?

[smurf]

Sall,


Think you didn’t read my post properly. Dil having full time, do chores, still must give allowance, of course, I didn’t tell you to appreciate her! But if it’s just nagging (old people tend to do that), didn’t observe cleanliness, etc, I think it’s still ok.

If the mil is a clean freak, the dil sure has something to say also. The point is, to what extent?

I think I shan’t say anymore, this in law thing is very sensitive. I know you are saying that its easy for me to say, coz I had a good mil, but there is a different side of story also.

When she was around, I didn’t appreciate her, complained that she nagged. But after she is gone, then, I appreciate her cooking, help to take care of kid even when she was sick.

[Oppsgal]

smurf:

Read that some of you having horrible mils. I was glad my mil was not. In fact, she was one of the nicest mil that I came across.


No, she wasn't educated, she didn't have any education at all (so, I dun think because one doesn't have any education means she would be a horrible mil) not even pr schools. But she can cook, do chores very well.

But she battled with illness and she is gone now.

Actually, I think a lot of you are very fortunate, at least, there is someone to be around should you need help to jaga with kids, just to keep a few hrs look out when u run errands, etc Although you have to bear with plenty of nonsenses, but that's another story. Just hope that you guys appreciate what you have, and cheer up! :xedfingers:

I prefer no body help to jaga if it ends up having a fight on minor things. Plus not sure if will spoil my kid more...

[Oppsgal]

sall:

smurf,

how to appreciate mil if they are really mean, they instigate their sons to go against the dil, some even told the dil not to interfer if their husbands go hanky-panky outside. I heard one mil who forced the dil to wash all the laundry, do housework, cook even though the dil has a full-time job. On top of that, this mil demanded the dil to give her an allowance of $400/mth. Can the dil appreciate such mil?
Easy for you to say, because you had a good mil.

can choose not to do or give money. Is a choice, ya?

[sall]

Oppsgal:

sall:

can choose not to do or give money. Is a choice, ya?

This dil is very timid, and scared of her mil. So mil bullies her more, even makes her hand-wash all the laundry, the useless husband also scared of the mother. So she doesn't dare not to do or give money. And she's a graduate. So stupid, rite?

[Oppsgal]

sall:

Oppsgal:

[quote=\"sall\"]
can choose not to do or give money. Is a choice, ya?

This dil is very timid, and scared of her mil. So mil bullies her more, even makes her hand-wash all the laundry, the useless husband also scared of the mother. So she doesn't dare not to do or give money. And she's a graduate. So stupid, rite?[/quote]Maybe she is not scare, but have to show \"respect\" and don't wish to quarrel over these?

But why cannot use washing machine?

[BeContented]

Oppsgal:

Maybe she is not scare, but have to show \"respect\" and don't wish to quarrel over these?

But why cannot use washing machine?

Actually, my MIL also used to nag nag nag & to the point I felt she even tried to psycho DH on handwashing. But fortunately for me, DH supported me right from the start. Except for some pieces, everything goes into washing machine. Can't imagine if DH were to be unsupportive and MIL were to be even more dominating......

My MIL still insists on handwashing bedsheet, towels, curtains, mattress protector. Was scolded when I put hers into washing machine....so maid wash MIL's while mine are all machine washed.

On why cannot use machine......in my case, claimed clothes spoilt easily

Slightly off, I also know of a MIL who got her son to divorce the wife when the DIL was diagnosed to be infertile. There are people really like this. But of course, cannot all point to the MIL, the son is definitely at fault too for agreeing.

[Chenonceau]

cwc:

sall:

[quote=\"cwc\"]
Actually talking about lizards, one tried to 'ambush' me this morning @ 6am :yikes:
Woke up, walk to kitchen on light and step in.....suddenly, just strike me that cannot step in immediately, must give them time to 'run & hide', so quickly took 1 step back. Next thing, I let out a scream....one just drop from the 'sky' & landed right in front of my feet......as usual, it ran I also ran. Well, my scream woke up the WHOLE family ..... no clock alarm required today.

:rotflmao:
My greatest fear is the roach. Once I saw a baby roach and I run out of insecticide, so I use perfume to spray it. Manage to kill it, but very expensive way.

:rotflmao:
orrr.....you better tell us what brand of perfume is that......can kill roach. strong leh.... [/quote]Firstly, please let us know what perfume. I will make sure not to wear it.

Secondly, I find that pouring one 5 litre kettle of boiling water into every floor trap once a week keeps the cockroaches away. They lay eggs in the pipe bends and boiling water neutralizes the eggs and you don't get babies. It also gets rid of the scent trails cockroaches leave behind to let other cockroaches know that a path is safe. Without these scent trails, cockroaches are wary of roaming about your house. I used to have them when I moved in to my place but now I have zero cockroaches. It helps also to steam clean the floor and kitchen countertops too. Gets rid of scent trails too.

Thirdly, I am freaking out at all your stories. :frustrated: :slapshead: MIL will be moving in with me in 2 months, and I have visions of raw meat on fridge handles and cockroaches everywhere because my PIL leave food out quite often.

[sall]

The perfume is coco chanel

[LOLMum]

sall:

The perfume is coco chanel

coco chanel would turn over in her grave if she knew this.............. :evil:

[Chenonceau]

sall:

The perfume is coco chanel

Phew! That one I don't have!!