In-law problems?

[ningning]

Really these days old folks have to very careful about whether to sell or not to sell their flats. Coz my granny who lives with my unmarried aunt had sold their three room HDB flats inorder to live with one of my cousins and also gave more than half of the sale amount to that cousin. Before they made their decision, i have advised them not to do so. The story goes like this, now my granny lives in the nursing home now, while my aunt still lives with my cousin but spend most of her day cocoon in her bedroom and also have to help fetch the cousin’s children to and fro school . My aunt dare not complaint to us, coz its her decision to sell the flat and gave away big sum of money so easily then. Sigh…we also asked to chip in for my granny’s expenses for the nursing home…we thought that cousin had pocket so much of sale money, shouldnt they pay for…

[LOLMum]

thing is most parents have faith in their kids. they dont believe their kids would do such things to them. unfortunately...............



i heard that one of my aunts has to shift house every few months. my dad told her not to sell her flat (convenient and good location) but she did and moved in with her son. though there was no ill-treatment that sort of stuff, she was left alone all the times cos' the son and wife busy with their work and social networking and the grandkids busy with school and dont have much to talk to her about. worse unlike her former place, the son's house is quite a distance away from the main road. stuck at home all day with no one to talk to and nothing to do..........going :siao: . she also has to share a room with the granddaughter. now she will stay with son for a few months, then move to another daughter's house etc.

to them, this is good arrangement but i prefer to keep own house so that i can 横行霸道 there.

[janet88]

It’s very impt to have a place of your own…bcos that’s where you can call the shots. No matter how valuable the flat is, cannot give in to greed and sell it off thinking of bunking in with son. This weekend, I will instill the idea into hubby’s head that their 3 room cannot be sold.


But if they stupidly believe that selling it and staying with that useless brat is a good idea, then good luck to them. That brat is capable of doing anything, partially thanks to his upbringing, and brainwashing by his wife.

If they need money, fine. Stay with the brat and rent out.

[mummy of 2]

I think it’s impt to forewarn them that if the worst happens ie they sell the flat and get thrown out by son later you will not be able to give them a roof over their head.

[hquek]

mummy of 2:

I think it's impt to forewarn them that if the worst happens ie they sell the flat and get thrown out by son later you will not be able to give them a roof over their head.

warn all you like, it's not wrong. just that when sh** hits the roof, janet and her DH may still have to clear up the mess.

Totally agree, I'm opposed to anyone (my parents, IL alike) to sell their flats. Can stay with children, but must NEVER ever sell the flat. Once the money is gone, who knows what will happen.

[mummy of 2]

It’s impt to teach our own kids not to be like that - selfish and ungrateful!!

[janet88]

mummy of 2:

I think it's impt to forewarn them that if the worst happens ie they sell the flat and get thrown out by son later you will not be able to give them a roof over their head.

This weekend, i have to remind hubby that if they really sell off their flat and get thrown out, I will not take them in. Nothing to do with being cold hearted. It's their naive mentality that THAT son will house them. If spoilt brat wants the flat, he has to take the 'package' as well. For good.

[Flowermonaster]

hquek:

mummy of 2:

I think it's impt to forewarn them that if the worst happens ie they sell the flat and get thrown out by son later you will not be able to give them a roof over their head.

warn all you like, it's not wrong. just that when sh** hits the roof, janet and her DH may still have to clear up the mess.
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I totally agreed with you, hquek on this point.

[Chenonceau]

Flowermonaster:

hquek:

[quote=\"mummy of 2\"]I think it's impt to forewarn them that if the worst happens ie they sell the flat and get thrown out by son later you will not be able to give them a roof over their head.

warn all you like, it's not wrong. just that when sh** hits the roof, janet and her DH may still have to clear up the mess.
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I totally agreed with you, hquek on this point.[/quote]Yup! I also concur. When the ahem hits the roof... it'll be hard for Janet to say \"No\", despite every warning now. And even then, against all reason, the favoured son will REMAIN favoured. These are matters of the heart... logic flies out the window.

[hquek]

So very true Chen…so very true - esp with the part on favoured child.