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    In-law problems?

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    • K Offline
      Kompressor
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      funkymonkey:
      Kompressor:

      My mother in law stays with us and also SLEEPS WITH US IN THE SAME ROOM!


      Told my DW I was not too comfortable with her sleeping in the same room however she feels its nothing wrong.

      I mean I just dont feel comfortable sleeping with someone else, kids ok, but not MIL rite?

      Perhaps any gals out there can tell me how they feel? Its it ok? As in am I being unreasonable?

      :yikes: :yikes: :yikes:
      OMG..and i thought we had it bad with sleeping with our 3 kids..poor u.....i think you are NOT being unreasonable...we all need couple time right???

      I am totally ok with sleeping with my kids, but NOT MIL!

      Anyway me and DW don't ML, so I am ok with it. I am just not comfortable sleeping with MIL in the same room EVERYDAY... I just need some \"ME time\" without restrictions.

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        BeContented
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        DW wants her mum to stay over, what can I say rite?[/quote] :yikes: Personally, I would not agree to such an arrangement, even if it's my own mother cos we all need some form of privacy, dun we ?!?! Discuss with your wife on a better arrangement.

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          ningning
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          racoon12:
          Din log in to read the posting for few months due to FY closing and audit. How is everyone?

          10 more days to CNY, a period where I am longed to disappear to unhabitat island to spend it rather than facing the troublemaker... 🙂
          totally agrreed. trouble maker..... unreasonable PILs, SILs........its just an ordinary holiday to me, i only visit my mum and sisters.......rather spend the festive with them then go back and see those \"evil\" ppl faces. CNY suppose to be happy mood, but after see them liao, think i will be \"sway\" for that year......so i void them. I rather spend my CNY quiently but happy with those that love me , thats enough for me. Life is short, i dun want to waste my time spending with those that dun love me at all..........

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            ningning
            last edited by

            Kompressor:
            My mother in law stays with us and also SLEEPS WITH US IN THE SAME ROOM!


            Told my DW I was not too comfortable with her sleeping in the same room however she feels its nothing wrong.

            I mean I just dont feel comfortable sleeping with someone else, kids ok, but not MIL rite?

            Perhaps any gals out there can tell me how they feel? Its it ok? As in am I being unreasonable?
            I cant imagine to have my inlaw or my parent to sleep in the same room with me and DH. Unless if theres a special situation, maybe feel unwell or so.......even it is my own mum coz i can imagine the scenerio. its odd, isnt it? kids is ok when they are junior. Maybe your spouse is very close to her mum...........

            i can fully understand why you feel uncomfortable to have someone else in the same bedroom.

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              Kompressor
              last edited by

              ningning:
              Kompressor:

              My mother in law stays with us and also SLEEPS WITH US IN THE SAME ROOM!


              Told my DW I was not too comfortable with her sleeping in the same room however she feels its nothing wrong.

              I mean I just dont feel comfortable sleeping with someone else, kids ok, but not MIL rite?

              Perhaps any gals out there can tell me how they feel? Its it ok? As in am I being unreasonable?

              I cant imagine to have my inlaw or my parent to sleep in the same room with me and DH. Unless if theres a special situation, maybe feel unwell or so.......even it is my own mum coz i can imagine the scenerio. its odd, isnt it? kids is ok when they are junior. Maybe your spouse is very close to her mum...........

              i can fully understand why you feel uncomfortable to have someone else in the same bedroom.

              I share the same feeling as you. I am totally ok with my kids, but not parents or PIL.

              Its like I wanna sleep in some unglam position or what also cannot...

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                pacetone
                last edited by

                [quote="Kompressor]

                DW wants her mum to stay over, what can I say rite?[/quote]

                Stay over and staying in the same room is 2 different things. Did you talk to your wife about it? What’s her view? Solve it as soon as possible as it is very bad in a long run.

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                  cherrygal
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                  If your MIL is only here to stay for a few days, then you sleep with the kids lah! So weird to sleep with wife and MIL. Think your wife wanna sleep with her mommy to reminisce her childhood. You give them some time together lor…

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                    Kompressor
                    last edited by

                    pacetone:
                    [quote=\"Kompressor]

                    DW wants her mum to stay over, what can I say rite?
                    Stay over and staying in the same room is 2 different things. Did you talk to your wife about it? What's her view? Solve it as soon as possible as it is very bad in a long run.[/quote][/quote]


                    Not in 2 different rooms, same room! She feels its ok anyway we are not going to ML

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                      Kompressor
                      last edited by

                      cherrygal:
                      If your MIL is only here to stay for a few days, then you sleep with the kids lah! So weird to sleep with wife and MIL. Think your wife wanna sleep with her mommy to reminisce her childhood. You give them some time together lor...

                      Its not a few days, it was after my son was born, then she stayed over to help \"take care\" and then was like permanently here!

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                        racoon12
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                        Kompressor,

                        Doesn’t u hv guest room for ur mil to sleep? I noe some elderly need her own room/own space, like my mil wanted her own room in my house.

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