In-law problems?
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Wow…
Thank goodness I’m not the only one in this kind of situation.
I’m staying with my PIL and BIL currently.
Have tried to live together peacefully but it is seriously very tough to do so.
BIL is hopeless. MIL also gave me so much problems until my relationship with DH is falling apart.
Maybe because I was brought up differently, that why I cannot stand their way of living. Not greeting each other, using the common toilet with doors opened, eating loudly with one leg up on the chair, shouting all the time and using vulgarities frequently. FIL still not too bad, just that he drinks everyday which I’m ok.
And that’s just the tip of the iceberg.
Countless quarrels had happened and I’m really exhausted.
I can’t wait for my own place to be ready!!! -
PILs are not rude. Sarcastic and says things that you can obviously read between lines but at the same time like so friendly and innocent. Backstabs and tells lies behind you. Presents you with gifts on big occassions…
Poisonous snakes! -
In-laws will always side with their child (your spouse), regardless of how good a relationship you have with them.
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fifiyeo:
They are so nice infront of others but yet you know they are not treating you nice from the bottom of their hearts. :torchme:PILs are not rude. Sarcastic and says things that you can obviously read between lines but at the same time like so friendly and innocent. Backstabs and tells lies behind you. Presents you with gifts on big occassions...
Poisonous snakes! -
fifiyeo:
mmm, yes thats what they always do to me then, abused me and yes pretend it never happen or worse \"black face \" at me as if i am the one that was wrong.Yah ning ning, some PILs are like that. They think they can abuse you by saying whatever they want. Then pretend they never did anything wrong.
Anway, so many quarrels recently over at my side. So sian!
SIL somemore used to tell my DH do not believe me coz i am a \"Big Liar\" .....Me and my DH work together daily then oh..i lie to backstab her ...how? with my DH with me all the time and i manage to lie? i got better things to do then to take \"revenge\" on her. Crazy! As usual My DH ignored and told her not to be so “无聊”。Then we countdown, coz less than 15 minutes, the FIL would call first and followed closely by MIL's call separately to \"bomb\" us for \"bullying\" their princess. And if we defend ourselves, MIL will go into a crazy state, she will yell ,curse viciously over our life and cry loudly over phone. As usual, At this crazy stage, We do not need to reason with her anymore but remain silent, coz she will just continue to yell and cry without listening to you. If we chose to hang off silently first, she will complaint we rude. All these , all these all becoz of just only a single lie from that SIL to smear us.
Well, now i no longer have to go through all those \"yelling and cursing\" anymore. But even without me now, siblings still quarrel. The point is before our marriage, they also often quarrel.
But i have to confess here \"i will forever hate that SIL\", the hatred is so deep that i forever will not want to see her \"face\" for my remaining years. -
My MIL and SIL popped by sometime around my birthday (waiting to be included for some outing / treats?)... but instead, my daughter chided them for not bringing me presents and cakes, and always come empty handed, blah blah blah where is the present for my mommy birthday??? I would agree that my daughter can be very rude with them - but since they let her get away with murder, why do I bother being the bad guy? :imanangel:
So anyway, the following day, my SIL came bearing half a dozen of those sugar cream decorated cup cakes! :rotflmao: -
Ningning: Don’t hate and don’t be angry (not for too long, at least). Those two takes up a lot of space in our minds and hearts, and unfortunately, they are difficult to be contained - so it radiates and affects people that we love and care for. I will never like my MIL or SIL, but sometimes I just pity their behaviour and state. Hate is too strong, and hate will only eat into myself and make me unable to be the true person I am. So I put them in one corner… but they are not worth me compromising my true self. I try very hard to be positive and happy.
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straffan23:
Ningning: Don't hate and don't be angry (not for too long, at least). Those two takes up a lot of space in our minds and hearts, and unfortunately, they are difficult to be contained - so it radiates and affects people that we love and care for. I will never like my MIL or SIL, but sometimes I just pity their behaviour and state. Hate is too strong, and hate will only eat into myself and make me unable to be the true person I am. So I put them in one corner... but they are not worth me compromising my true self. I try very hard to be positive and happy.
Dear straffan23,
Unfortunately, till now i still hate them coz at one point they had made my life so misery then i was so tired that i told my DH let me go. At point of my life then, i just badly wanted to be alone. But also at the same time god has blessed me a girl too. So i was determined to stay put then. I set up my own tiny business when my girl can attend childcare thus breaking away from the evils.
I wish i can be like you.... but i cannot coz there is too much tears, fear(coz our main income comes from that family business) and very humiliating, heartaching moments. I can never forget the \"winner look\" of my SIL when ever we took scoldings from PILs coz of her. All those fightings that involve umbrellas, cane , throwings of things at us, curse our baby dead, scold me slut and so much more........ throughout my this life, i can never forget.
I fought hard and now i have my peaceful life with my girl and hubby. As long as i do not see anyone of them, i am happy enough.
Thanks......yes..Be happy....
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Whinypooh:
The way she sides HER kids is unbearable. In front of her, I will not say anything. Don't want to waste my time listening to her crap. Double head snake...behind hubby's back, her HORNS appear. In front of him, she acts like an angel.
They are so nice infront of others but yet you know they are not treating you nice from the bottom of their hearts. :torchme:fifiyeo:
PILs are not rude. Sarcastic and says things that you can obviously read between lines but at the same time like so friendly and innocent. Backstabs and tells lies behind you. Presents you with gifts on big occassions...
Poisonous snakes! -
janet_lee88:
The way she sides HER kids is unbearable. In front of her, I will not say anything. Don't want to waste my time listening to her crap. Double head snake...behind hubby's back, her HORNS appear. In front of him, she acts like an angel.[/quote] :udawoman:
They are so nice infront of others but yet you know they are not treating you nice from the bottom of their hearts. :torchme:Whinypooh:
[quote=\"fifiyeo\"]PILs are not rude. Sarcastic and says things that you can obviously read between lines but at the same time like so friendly and innocent. Backstabs and tells lies behind you. Presents you with gifts on big occassions...
Poisonous snakes!
I didnt really read all the prev posts so not sure what exactly happened.
But if yr PILs really ever tried to hit u or harm u, and worse, curse your baby, then you have made a wise choice to draw a line with them.
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