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    In-law problems?

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      sleepy
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      Have you gals thought of the scenario when your .MIL become weak and need to be taken care of intensively? Can’t just leave to maid without supervision at all. So what are you gonna do if such a situation arise?


      Assuming you are not living together.

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          janet88
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          sleepy:
          Have you gals thought of the scenario when your .MIL become weak and need to be taken care of intensively? Can't just leave to maid without supervision at all. So what are you gonna do if such a situation arise?


          Assuming you are not living together.
          I dread to think of that...bcos it could happen. But if that scenario happens, I think they have to chip in to get a maid. My grandmother is in that scenario now. When I visited her at the hospital yesterday, it pains me to see her weak and incapable of looking after herself...but she is still very fierce.

          Which daughter-in-law is willing to look after her?

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            sleepy
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            Thinking of worst case scenario. Hopefully won't 🙏


            MIL has two sons. Besides sharing cost of maid, I think dh & his brother can take turn to move back to live with their mum & also supervise the maid.

            Maybe each taking 3.5 days of the week. Have to work out something, I don't think it's prudent to leave MIL completely alone with maid.

            Won't be easy for the DILs either. Have to run things at home entirely on their own in the meantime.

            Sound feasible?

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              Imami
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              sleepy:
              Have you gals thought of the scenario when your .MIL become weak and need to be taken care of intensively? Can't just leave to maid without supervision at all. So what are you gonna do if such a situation arise?


              Assuming you are not living together.
              That's why cny, her bday and mothers day I always wish her 身体健康 🕺

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                TheAnswer
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                sleepy:
                Have you gals thought of the scenario when your .MIL become weak and need to be taken care of intensively? Can't just leave to maid without supervision at all. So what are you gonna do if such a situation arise?


                Assuming you are not living together.
                My DH is the only son in his family. He has a married sister, with medical condition. My mil has cancer twice, now in remission. My fil has high blood pressue and also other conditions.

                My dad has heart problems. Mum just had an operation last year due to medical condition. Brother still has slight depression.

                Honestly if anything happen to anyone of them, seriously I will be the next one having depression. What do u suggest I do if things become worse?

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                  sleepy
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                  TheAnswer:
                  My DH is the only son in his family. He has a married sister, with medical condition. My mil has cancer twice, now in remission. My fil has high blood pressue and also other conditions.


                  My dad has heart problems. Mum just had an operation last year due to medical condition. Brother still has slight depression.

                  Honestly if anything happen to anyone of them, seriously I will be the next one having depression. What do u suggest I do if things become worse?

                  In that case, they are definitely your responsiblities, no other way

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                    TheAnswer
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                    sleepy:
                    TheAnswer:

                    My DH is the only son in his family. He has a married sister, with medical condition. My mil has cancer twice, now in remission. My fil has high blood pressue and also other conditions.


                    My dad has heart problems. Mum just had an operation last year due to medical condition. Brother still has slight depression.

                    Honestly if anything happen to anyone of them, seriously I will be the next one having depression. What do u suggest I do if things become worse?


                    In that case, they are definitely your responsiblities, no other way

                    Exactly, everything falls on me and DH. Now you all know why I work so hard, try to save. The thoughts of all these things scares me enough.

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                      vinegar
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                      TheAnswer:
                      sleepy:

                      Have you gals thought of the scenario when your .MIL become weak and need to be taken care of intensively? Can't just leave to maid without supervision at all. So what are you gonna do if such a situation arise?


                      Assuming you are not living together.

                      My DH is the only son in his family. He has a married sister, with medical condition. My mil has cancer twice, now in remission. My fil has high blood pressue and also other conditions.

                      My dad has heart problems. Mum just had an operation last year due to medical condition. Brother still has slight depression.

                      Honestly if anything happen to anyone of them, seriously I will be the next one having depression. What do u suggest I do if things become worse?

                      don't think too much....is ur dh the one who running errands for ur PIL?I mean send them to see doctor,etc??

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                        sleepy
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                        Imami:
                        That's why cny, her bday and mothers day I always wish her 身体健康 🕺

                        Same same 😉

                        When FIL was bedridden for several months, MIL & maid took care of him. However, if MIL became weak, then it's only right that her children should take care of her with the help of maid.

                        However, I strongly suspect BIL & his 精打细算 wife confirm will :siam: As it is, they already kick MIL out after she ran out of usefulness to them and MIL had no choice but to move back to her own house. So sad. Before that she was babysitting BIL's two kids ever since they were born.

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