In-law problems?
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vinegar:
Omg... 12x? :slapshead:
my mum also doesn't call me often. She is very \"zhi tong\",she won't call me during exam/test period.My MIL is bo zhi tong.....she doesn't give people opportunity to call back...she'll call until u pick up...once i've had 12 missed calls from heratrecord:
my mother had never called me or talked to me much, so i'm actually really surprised to hear such things... But i guess the bond must be quite good to warrant such contacts, and sadly i'm maybe not so close to my mother...
if the mother has more things to do, maybe she will not have so much time to make such calls.
and if there are other siblings, can maybe ask them to help to tell the mother to cut down on such calls, and the duration of each call - if it is not so easy to tell her directly.
if happened to me, i'll tell her straight too busy to talk... -
atrecord:
not urgent....it is her character.when she wanna something to be done,she wanna it now.
12 missed calls? Urgent or not?? If not, sure kanna scolding from me...vinegar:
my mum also doesn't call me often. She is very \"zhi tong\",she won't call me during exam/test period.My MIL is bo zhi tong.....she doesn't give people opportunity to call back...she'll call until u pick up...once i've had 12 missed calls from her
The only time when I had a lot of missed calls was my bad mistake: forgot to bring handphone when went out of office, and DS was having fever at childcare and DW was in China...
ended up childcare called numerous times, DW called numerous times, my parents called numerous times...
my dh forever won't reject her call.....also will not tell her that he is busy...my dh is best frd to Bud's dh=submissive son :imcool: -
my dh has this problem…he doesn’t know how to prioritize.He must answer every calls.He doesn’t know how to be assertive…
i don’t know how to teach him…he just couldn’t get it -
atrecord:
my mother had never called me or talked to me much, so i'm actually really surprised to hear such things... But i guess the bond must be quite good to warrant such contacts, and sadly i'm maybe not so close to my mother...
Yes,their bonds r very closed....MIL treats him like daughter.He doesn't hv mind on his own....
if the mother has more things to do, maybe she will not have so much time to make such calls.
Yes,she is very free.......a tai tai.Another reason...she is control-freak
and if there are other siblings, can maybe ask them to help to tell the mother to cut down on such calls, and the duration of each call - if it is not so easy to tell her directly.
no use.....the more u ask her not to call,the more she would callif happened to me, i'll tell her straight too busy to talk... -
vinegar:
Is your DH working or have his own business? If working for a company, how to answer his mother's call during a meeting? Isn't it very disruptive?atrecord:
my mother had never called me or talked to me much, so i'm actually really surprised to hear such things... But i guess the bond must be quite good to warrant such contacts, and sadly i'm maybe not so close to my mother...
Yes,their bonds r very closed....MIL treats him like daughter.He doesn't hv mind on his own....
if the mother has more things to do, maybe she will not have so much time to make such calls.
Yes,she is very free.......a tai tai.Another reason...she is control-freak
and if there are other siblings, can maybe ask them to help to tell the mother to cut down on such calls, and the duration of each call - if it is not so easy to tell her directly.
no use.....the more u ask her not to call,the more she would callif happened to me, i'll tell her straight too busy to talk... -
ngl2010:
yes,indeed.I think he'll still pick up her call. His mother is his priority..forever...
Is your DH working or have his own business? If working for a company, how to answer his mother's call during a meeting? Isn't it very disruptive? -
if i am busy attending my kiddo,i’ll ask caller that i’ll call bk later.
i told him why can’t u call her back when u r free? Coz we’ve hv very limited to run errands,sometx,the situation really doesn’t allow him to talk more,for e.g. when we r in the mid of medical chkup.
Last night,we’ve hv huge quarrels.I told him in this case,i’ll run errands myself n go for chkup myself. I’ve medical condition which nid regular chkup,most of the times i go myself,sometx,i nid him to be ard when doc explains.
i really half hearted.
He said he wanna quit his job but still holding on.We’ve plan to migrate so a lot of things to settle.I couldn’t help him coz i oredi overloaded wf hsehold chores,cooking n take care of kiddo.
i asked him to stay focus n prioritize.In order to gain something,he has to give up certain thing.His parents oso nid lots of attn.I asked him not to neglect his health.
I don’t know what his parents thinking…to me,what’s most impt r my children happiness n health.My PIL seem only tink abt themselves. -
I feel so neglected.....
....and I'm actually happy about it!!!
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janet_lee88:
Hubby used to go for exercise on Sundays...not anymore bcos he has to buy breakfast for them. I can't say anything...and since I don't have to put up with them, I don't care.
maybe i shld adopt ur mentality.Let him continue to \"serve\" his parents till his health shows red light.Then don't expect me to take care of him,ask his mum to take care of him -
vinegar:
My MIL loves to come over early mornings in the weekends (has a key, walks straight in... go figure!). I am usually awake by 7 plus so end up entertaining her... :siao: :siao: I kept on telling hubby it is ridiculous (and I even latched my door!) but it doesn't bother hubby cos he sleeps till 10am! But last couple of years I got smart - the moment she walks in I would tell my kids to go tell papa grandma is here. And we do that again and again until he leaves the bed. So he finally started telling his mom that it is too early, too early... so now the timing is about 9am.janet_lee88:
Hubby used to go for exercise on Sundays...not anymore bcos he has to buy breakfast for them. I can't say anything...and since I don't have to put up with them, I don't care.
maybe i shld adopt ur mentality.Let him continue to \"serve\" his parents till his health shows red light.Then don't expect me to take care of him,ask his mum to take care of him
But still... we just kick him out of bed the moment MIL walks in. :boogie: :boogie: Anyway, that also prevents MIL from going to my room and sitting on my bed and having pillow talk with my hubby :mad: :mad:
Oh... and I am usually blessedly ignored by MIL (when she visits)... and when she calls she doesn't even address me \"XX at home?\". That gets a yes or a no and then end of my part. In the past she tried calling me at work but I would tell her to call DH. DH is very busy at work so ....
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