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[linden2000]

Guess it's not easy for her to make such a decision since they have been married so many years. My advice to her is to seek counseling too. Think her hubby is agreeable to that so hope they do work things out. :xedfingers:

[linden2000]

SAHM_TAN:

sleepy:

Just wondering are you ladies 100% happy with your marriage?

Any area you hope to improve on or rectify?

I tend to :imcool: through the marriage. So there's nothing I want to rectify except the way he treats the kids. He's too task oriented. Imagine a regimental sergeant. Looking it positive, it will be setting boundaries, but for kids I think sometimes need to let :imcool: , let them explore while they are completing their tasks.

Most of the things that I will change will be how he relate to the kids rather in relation to me.

Haha my hubby is also very task-oriented. For him, go shopping must have specific thing n place to buy so no window shopping. When I grumble, he will have specific solutions for me. Sometimes I just need a listening ear lah. Not solutions. Hahaha.

[MummyThreeStreams]

linden2000,

DH also responds to my grumbling with solutions! So we hv worked out a system: when I just want to vent, I’ll tell him that it’s venting time, no solutions or opinions allowed. Now he’s very good at nodding his head sympathetically and doling out reassuring hugs.

[SAHM_TAN]

MummyThreeStreams:

linden2000,

DH also responds to my grumbling with solutions! So we hv worked out a system: when I just want to vent, I'll tell him that it's venting time, no solutions or opinions allowed. Now he's very good at nodding his head sympathetically and doling out reassuring hugs.

so sweet

[sleepy]

My dh never offers any solutions, hey I suspect most of the time he's just pretending to listen but 左耳进右耳出. Caught him a number of times when he didn't carry out my specific instructions even when I reminded him the day before. When I asked him why not, he said I'm yaking away about so many things everyday so it's perfectly normal he missed some info :roll:

[MummyThreeStreams]

Haha…but he still leaves his dishes in the kitchen sink for the sink fairy to wash! And the clothes hangers pile up by his bedside waiting for the hanger fairy to magically send them to the washing/ironing area…and he can never find the stuff he needs without wifey’s help. What to do? You win some and you lose some!

[puff]

MummyThreeStreams:

Haha...but he still leaves his dishes in the kitchen sink for the sink fairy to wash! And the clothes hangers pile up by his bedside waiting for the hanger fairy to magically send them to the washing/ironing area...and he can never find the stuff he needs without wifey's help. What to do? You win some and you lose some!

My DH is just like yours. Whenever I tell him off he would say I find fault with him. There was once he said that even if I marry God I would still b able to find fault wif him :mad:

[BeContented]

puff:

MummyThreeStreams:

Haha...but he still leaves his dishes in the kitchen sink for the sink fairy to wash! And the clothes hangers pile up by his bedside waiting for the hanger fairy to magically send them to the washing/ironing area...and he can never find the stuff he needs without wifey's help. What to do? You win some and you lose some!

My DH is just like yours. Whenever I tell him off he would say I find fault with him. There was once he said that even if I marry God I would still b able to find fault wif him :mad:

:rotflmao: but your DH quite humorous lah

[puff]

cwc:

puff:

[quote=\"MummyThreeStreams\"]Haha...but he still leaves his dishes in the kitchen sink for the sink fairy to wash! And the clothes hangers pile up by his bedside waiting for the hanger fairy to magically send them to the washing/ironing area...and he can never find the stuff he needs without wifey's help. What to do? You win some and you lose some!

My DH is just like yours. Whenever I tell him off he would say I find fault with him. There was once he said that even if I marry God I would still b able to find fault wif him :mad:

:rotflmao: but your DH quite humorous lah [/quote]Haha he even put in his pc screen saver \"ever wrong\"

[BeContented]

MummyThreeStreams:

Haha...but he still leaves his dishes in the kitchen sink for the sink fairy to wash! And the clothes hangers pile up by his bedside waiting for the hanger fairy to magically send them to the washing/ironing area...and he can never find the stuff he needs without wifey's help. What to do? You win some and you lose some!

DH likes to just take off his clothings and pants (with wallets, car key etc all in pockets) and leave it in the MIDDLE of the room/pathway, simply refused to hang up what he still wants to wear and put dirtied ones into the laundry basket (also in room) or at least, leave in a corner.

After repeated nags, I pissed.......

First strategy : I kicked all under the bed.....and when he couldn't find, he gotta hunt for them. So started behaving....but only effective until he started taking out the stuff from pockets first.

Second strategy : DH hates to waste resources esp. water. So next I pick up ALL clothings on the floor and have them washed. After a few wash, good boy liao....cos' he heartache unnecessary washing of his pants which he wears 2-3 times before he washes them :rotflmao: