Club SAHM
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Imami:
I hv citibank smrt card, becos I mostly take mrt/bus when I go out for lunch on work days. This card has tie up with shop and save, giant etc. Other than the usual 5%, sometimes they offer promo like $5 virtual coupon if purchase over $30. So I would recommend this lor.sleepy:
[quote=\"Imami\"]Hmm... Looks like you are missing out citibank? Its another one with rebates. But there is a difference between may bank vs citibank and posb everyday card. May bank's rebate will offset against bill amount. Citibank and posb everyday's will chalk up and we need to tell the cashier at participating shops that we want to offset our rebates.
Which citibank card would you recommend?
I have the impression citibank charged annual fees. Is yours free?
I applied POSB everyday card specifically to pump petrol. At point of payment, petrol cashier will always ask if wanna offset. PUB only accepts recurring payment by POSB everyday card so I also 顺便 charge PUB bill since already applied for the card
Dont think it's free but I believe u can always ask for fee waiver.
So u pump at spc? Do u pump at other petrol station? Do u find that spc's petrol like \"no power\"? I prefer shell, so whenever shell has promo on v power, I sure go there to pump![/quote]Uob cc is good for drivers who pumped Shell, rebate can be offset or accumulated at one's wish. -
i prefer to pump at Caltex,ocbc card member has 10% discount.
do u exchange the points gathered fr petrol card(caltex/shell) in exchange to petrol voucher or some other things(such as electrical appliance,etc)? -
firefly38:
I just managed to catch up on all the posts in this thread.. I am overwhelmed with sadness (& anger) by the remarks made by a SAHM of her husband.. And WORSE, getting her children involved to take sides.. And WORST, having other SAHMs cheering for her here, in this and other threads, at KSP..
My hubby is working overseas.. At times, my DSs do ask (not complain) why Daddy never spend as much time with them, as Mummy does with them..
I tell my 2 DSs.. Daddy is working hard out there to bring home the money, so that you can have a nice house to stay in, and nice food to eat every day, and nice places to go to for holidays every year.. Becoz Daddy is working hard out there, Mummy can have the luxury of not working and hence able to spend more time with you all than Daddy does.. So, my 2 DSs adore their Daddy, even though my husband does not spend much time with them.. As they know, their Mummy loves and respects their Daddy so much for the sacrifices he makes for the family..
I have a MCQ question here for SAHMs (like in the Aunties' thread)..
Do you call your husband (the man whom you chose to marry and have children with) a \"Stupid Idiot\", \"Idiotic fellow\", \"Sickening man\", \"Mad Dog\" repeatedly (especially in a Public Forum)?
1. I would rather die.
2. I am not brainless hor.. If I call my husband a \"Mad Dog\", then my children must be \"Puppies\", then what would that make me out to be?!
3. Of course I do, as I need to make my husband shout at me, so that I can be angry and have an excuse to go shopping and spend his money to buy branded stuffs mah.
My answer is (1).. What about yours?
Firefly, I want to choose (1), but then if you really want me to choose between death and name-calling, I'll still of course choose the latter.
On a serious note..if a husband had been one that does not do anything to provide for the family, neglects them (not due to work but vices), is a wife abuser, then being called such derogatory names is perfectly understandable.
However, if a husband has been toiling outside to provide a better life for the family, and still makes effort to help out in the family, then such a man should be duly appreciated. Just as good friends quarrel,squabbles are inevitable in a family ,but the conflict should be handled and resolved within the privacy of the home. Imagine the hurt and pain if the husband discovers he's been called names in public...
Err..Janet , maybe you would like to check out Insider's posts on increasing the positive qi in the family? I'm doing that to remind myself too.
As for Firefly's post , it is a well-meaning one, even if it may not appear to be so.
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To get blasted over a Math test.
I really do not understand why he had to blast that day…not I am finding excuse to push away the blame. Anyway, it’s over…not bcos of a wallet but it sours a relationship if it were to continue. -
janet_lee88:
Janet, your DH must have been angry over something else if he was acting out of character since you dont know why he blasted. Likely it was something that has been bothering him, and the Math test was the trigger.To get blasted over a Math test.
I really do not understand why he had to blast that day...not I am finding excuse to push away the blame. Anyway, it's over...not bcos of a wallet but it sours a relationship if it were to continue.
Sometimes we all need to let off steam. Many things we say at the heat of the moment can be hurtful. It helps if the other party keeps his cool. Deal with the underlying issue at a separate time. You want to resolve the issue. You don't want to be caught up in the heated emotional exchange of hurtful words. It's a lose lose for all. -
Mawar:
what if we keep quiet n DH keeps scolding n accusing us non-stop?
Janet, your DH must have been angry over something else if he was acting out of character since you dont know why he blasted. Likely it was something that has been bothering him, and the Math test was the trigger.
Sometimes we all need to let off steam. Many things we say at the heat of the moment can be hurtful. It helps if the other party keeps his cool. Deal with the underlying issue at a separate time. You want to resolve the issue. You don't want to be caught up in the heated emotional exchange of hurtful words. It's a lose lose for all. -
Mawar:
He was acting out of his usual self...agree with you that the Math test should be a trigger PLUS my stress preparing kids for their CA resulted in a war of words. It's really dumb to get worked up over a test which is just one of many many to come...but guess at that point, we were too stressed to see it.janet_lee88:
Anyway, it's over...not bcos of a wallet but it sours a relationship if it were to continue.
Likely it was something that has been bothering him, and the Math test was the trigger.
Sometimes we all need to let off steam. Many things we say at the heat of the moment can be hurtful. It helps if the other party keeps his cool. Deal with the underlying issue at a separate time. You want to resolve the issue. You don't want to be caught up in the heated emotional exchange of hurtful words. It's a lose lose for all.
I couldn't keep quiet at that point...bcos I was stressed and cooped up...so it was really 火遮眼. -
vinegar:
there were few times i didn't wanna discuss it anymore,yet,he kept talking n yelling.I went to the other room,he still followed n kept talking.Told him stop yelling n talk softly but couldn't stop his anger.
what if we keep quiet n DH keeps scolding n accusing us non-stop?Mawar:
Janet, your DH must have been angry over something else if he was acting out of character since you dont know why he blasted. Likely it was something that has been bothering him, and the Math test was the trigger.
Sometimes we all need to let off steam. Many things we say at the heat of the moment can be hurtful. It helps if the other party keeps his cool. Deal with the underlying issue at a separate time. You want to resolve the issue. You don't want to be caught up in the heated emotional exchange of hurtful words. It's a lose lose for all. -
When the whole thing is over…it’s easier to ask what triggered him to act out of his norm. At that point, I guess we were both uptight and stressed…that Math test was just a trigger to let out all the steam…and definitely I knew it was a chance for me to release it too.
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vinegar:
Maybe it might help to have an agreed conflict resolution protocol? If both of you can agree to a system (discuss when both are cool), then both can adhere to it when angry and it may help. My husband and I both agree not to discuss issues when angry. If one or the other raises a voice at the other, the other will say calmly that he/she feels that it is uncalled for and request for a time to discuss the issue at a later time, usually after the kids have gone to bed or the next day. Of course, if there is something that has to be decided on the spot, one or the other has to give way at that moment, which is a bit harder, but it can't be helped and can be taken into account later. This way, we avoid a shouting match, but also agree to deal with the matter at an agreed time and not sweep it under the carpet. We especially avoid arguing in front of our kids or allowing them to take sides - we usually tell them that occasional disagreements between people are unavoidable, and we will discuss it and tell them our joint decision later (if it concerns them).vinegar:
what if we keep quiet n DH keeps scolding n accusing us non-stop?
there were few times i didn't wanna discuss it anymore,yet,he kept talking n yelling.I went to the other room,he still followed n kept talking.Told him stop yelling n talk softly but couldn't stop his anger.
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