Club SAHM
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My kids have passed the bb/toddler stage. We have moved from the physically tiring stage to the present ie mentally demanding stage - education. The past 14 years seemed to have zoomed past…hubby said we were lucky to have started family early…so now we have proceeded to the next stage. My brother started family late…7 years to be exact. So now, we can enjoy a little freedom from clingy babies.
When the kids grow up a little more, hubby and I can enjoy some privacy when they stay back longer hours in school.
My sincere apologies for the ranting earlier. -
Mawar:
We have our share of ups and downs. I attribute most downs to growing pains because we were growing up and finding ourselves. We are fortunate because we only have each other the first decade of our lives together. We were overseas for school and for work. Those early years gave us a strong foundation to withstand our downs.
Dh and I studied overseas for a period of time too. Indeed the amount of time we spend together (practially all our waking moments) laid a strong foundation for our relationship. And it also gave me the opportunity to see dh in other context eg. how he handles stress, how he interacts with other classmates. We were still dating then
We started a family immediately after we got married. Can't wait too long because age catching up la
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TheAnswer:
It hasn't been smooth sailing for me either. Read about my low point.DH will never give me such high marks. Haiz. I feel lousy looking at all the near perfect scores.
Despite that, I'm thankful that he we still go on dates once a week. Either DH or I will initiate.
It really depends on how old are your kids now. Young kids drain a lot of energy from parents, very hard to be lovey dovey. It will get better for you when your kids grow up
Dh & I didn't fix any day for dates. More like ad hoc basis, whenever we can squeeze time to. Even if no time to leave the house, I will snuggle close to him and hold his hands while watching tv. -
sleepy:
Young kids (below 7) will drain a lot of energy both physically and mentally.TheAnswer:
Despite that, I'm thankful that he we still go on dates once a week. Either DH or I will initiate.
It really depends on how old are your kids now. Young kids drain a lot of energy from parents, very hard to be lovey dovey. It will get better for you when your kids grow up
Hubby & I have 2 hours every Sunday...when both go for tuition.
A date at NTUC since we have to go shopping for grocery but at least we can have a little space to look at our own stuff...he pushes the trolley while I get what we need for the weekdays. -
janet_lee88:
A date at NTUC since we have to go shopping for grocery but at least we can have a little space to look at our own stuff...he pushes the trolley while I get what we need for the weekdays.
Even a date at NTUC can be all steamy too.
When you're choosing canned food, your dh can carelessly caress your arm or draw small circles on your back. When going down the travellator, he can blow air at the nape of your neck :evil: -
Though, I am a SAHM but i seldom check in into this thread, but i feel a need to now.
Firefly38
I thought your words about Janet was way too harsh and quite unnecessary, well meaning or not. I agree that name calling our husbands or anyone else is downright disrespectful but I think you also indirectly name call with your MCQ question (no 2 ans). That wasn't nice. There is a better and nicer way to put your thoughts across.
Though I don't agree with Janet's expression of anger, but I understand we all have different coping mechanism to handle stress & anger. Under stress & anger, most of us would do or say things we don't actually mean. Just like your furious post about her. Some of our ways are not right for certain, but I guess, an apology & forgiveness would clear the way.
I think we all want to be good role models for our children, so let's refrain from being mean to one another and give fellow mothers good support & wise advice.
Just my honest opinion, hope you will not get offended.
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sleepy:
Steamy at NTUC ? :?janet_lee88:
A date at NTUC since we have to go shopping for grocery but at least we can have a little space to look at our own stuff...he pushes the trolley while I get what we need for the weekdays.
Even a date at NTUC can be all steamy too.
When you're choosing canned food, your dh can carelessly caress your arm or draw small circles on your back. When going down the travellator, he can blow air at the nape of your neck :evil:
My hair is standing just reading this :rotflmao: Maybe placing my hands on his shoulders when going down escalator or holding his elbows, I do that. -
sleepy:
:rotflmao: Sleepy, I love your sense of humour. My kind of friend. Where's the Like button again?janet_lee88:
A date at NTUC since we have to go shopping for grocery but at least we can have a little space to look at our own stuff...he pushes the trolley while I get what we need for the weekdays.
Even a date at NTUC can be all steamy too.
When you're choosing canned food, your dh can carelessly caress your arm or draw small circles on your back. When going down the travellator, he can blow air at the nape of your neck :evil:
My DH hates to grocery shop. He stays away from the maddening crowd if he can. We do our quiet time together over Kopi or strolling hand in hand around the neighbourhood. He tries to telecommute some days so we can lunch together. -
I was angry...I was really angry.
I lost myself and my senses when he blasted over a Math test...which I think was :siao: this guy is normally mild-mannered. What happened to him that night? My anger took over but never once did I wish anything awful would happen to him...other than calling him mad. -
vinegar:
Wah, I can't imagine my DH doing that. He will never dare to scold me. I used to be a very very mild person, but after an almost office EMA, he made me so angry I took an aluminium frying pan and hit him until the pan was out of shape. That incident has forever changed the balance of power in the house.
what if we keep quiet n DH keeps scolding n accusing us non-stop?Mawar:
Janet, your DH must have been angry over something else if he was acting out of character since you dont know why he blasted. Likely it was something that has been bothering him, and the Math test was the trigger.
Sometimes we all need to let off steam. Many things we say at the heat of the moment can be hurtful. It helps if the other party keeps his cool. Deal with the underlying issue at a separate time. You want to resolve the issue. You don't want to be caught up in the heated emotional exchange of hurtful words. It's a lose lose for all.
(not that I am recommending it, it's best never to reach such a point because it scars everyone.)
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