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[vinegar]

TheAnswer:

Vinegar,

Your DH is similar to mine. But I think mine worse. Lousy temper and every little thing think of changing job. Luckily I do not depend on him, if not I can't imagine. Have to continue working. No choice. I always have to say pleasing things to him. Had a quarrel last night over some stupid complain. Just can't bring myself to talk to him.

same la.....my DH also change job quite frequently.

i also don't bother to talk to him...i find my own joys by watching tv,surf nets n chatting wf frds.

[janet88]

TheAnswer:

My DH also has horrible temper. Yesterday I was quite stressed with work, so I complained a little. He just snapped and scolded me just because he felt useless in his job. His boss threw out his proposal and boss did it himself. He felt useless and wanted to quit because of it.


Increasingly, I see no point and also cannot share my stress with DH. Many times I want to share, I step on time bomb. As if my job is not stressful. He just simply cannot talk calmly even if I'm not complaining or I am in a good mood. DH totally can't handle stress well.

Sorry for the rant. I have already tried to be understanding. I just dunno how long more will he remain like this.

It's ok...we all need a listening ear.
Ok lah...if hubby has bad day, then we lend listening ear.
But if we wives have lousy day, only fair that they listen too right?
Stay at home all day and face 4 walls Mondays to Fridays can go :siao:
He knows I cannot go out as and when bcos kids come back after school for lunch...besides, they need to rest and get hw done. So when tests are over, I will try to get out.

[TheAnswer]

janet_lee88:

TheAnswer:

My DH also has horrible temper. Yesterday I was quite stressed with work, so I complained a little. He just snapped and scolded me just because he felt useless in his job. His boss threw out his proposal and boss did it himself. He felt useless and wanted to quit because of it.


Increasingly, I see no point and also cannot share my stress with DH. Many times I want to share, I step on time bomb. As if my job is not stressful. He just simply cannot talk calmly even if I'm not complaining or I am in a good mood. DH totally can't handle stress well.

Sorry for the rant. I have already tried to be understanding. I just dunno how long more will he remain like this.

It's ok...we all need a listening ear.
Ok lah...if hubby has bad day, then we lend listening ear.
But if we wives have lousy day, only fair that they listen too right?
Stay at home all day and face 4 walls Mondays to Fridays can go :siao:
He knows I cannot go out as and when bcos kids come back after school for lunch...besides, they need to rest and get hw done. So when tests are over, I will try to get out.

I work. I teach. I cook. I do housework. He only work and he dare to complain. If want to complain, I got a long list. Sometimes I just feel that he feels inferior cos he is earning so much lesser than me.

[buds]

janet_lee88, you have good window time in btwn the kids' school timing so still got chance to get out daily if you want. Just ensure what needs to be done, basic cleaning and what nots are done. I bring the kids out for lunch on days i feel like and that saves me time off my mornings. There will also be times they request for Maggi cos i cook most days they don't have that many opportunities to eat Maggi. My only condition is - don't spill the beans to gramma. :rotflmao:

[vinegar]

somehow,when i think of my mum,i think i deserve it to be treated this way by my DH.


I remember my mum ever told me tat u don’t think working is big shark,SAHM also has lots of things to do.I nvr realise it till i married.I apologised to my mum.

[TheAnswer]

vinegar:

TheAnswer:

Vinegar,

Your DH is similar to mine. But I think mine worse. Lousy temper and every little thing think of changing job. Luckily I do not depend on him, if not I can't imagine. Have to continue working. No choice. I always have to say pleasing things to him. Had a quarrel last night over some stupid complain. Just can't bring myself to talk to him.

same la.....my DH also change job quite frequently.

i also don't bother to talk to him...i find my own joys by watching tv,surf nets n chatting wf frds.

Sometimes DH change job and he takes a pay cut. I never for once even complained about it. Yet he can slack. Sometimes I feel he is totally same pattern as my brother. My married brother literally stayed home for most of last year. Now wife screaming divorce --> lousy attitude, poor finance, bad attitude..
Argh. Just want to shut DH out this weekend. I'm still feeling the annoyance from last night. Today went to teach my students, enjoyed my lessons, happy with their CA1 marks. My students are really lovable. Feel at peace with them

[TheAnswer]

vinegar:

somehow,when i think of my mum,i think i deserve it to be treated this way by my DH.


I remember my mum ever told me tat u don't think working is big shark,SAHM also has lots of things to do.I nvr realise it till i married.I apologised to my mum.

Glad you reconciled with your mum. Heart warming. I also love my mummy more now.

[TheAnswer]

buds:

janet_lee88, you have good window time in btwn the kids' school timing so still got chance to get out daily if you want. Just ensure what needs to be done, basic cleaning and what nots are done. I bring the kids out for lunch on days i feel like and that saves me time off my mornings. There will also be times they request for Maggi cos i cook most days they don't have that many opportunities to eat Maggi. My only condition is - don't spill the beans to gramma. :rotflmao:

I also crave for Maggi mee but I eat it secretly. DH will :nunchuk: if he sees me eating such unhealthy MSG food but he on the other hand loves to eat fast food. How ironic! :siao:

[buds]

TheAnswer, i used to earn slightly more than hubs too. I try not to engage in any rants pertaining to job fulfillment (I loved my job tremendously!) or of any pay raise/appraisal if i can help it. I offer to pay for meals out during outings.. belanja his and my families out for family makans.. and also arrange for our family hols. It's like indirectly saying if we got more, we can splurge a bit more.... on everyone. Good things must share. Whether or not they appreciate, it was my sincere contribution.


So i don't let any http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys.php get to me. Just brush everything aside as http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys.php.

[janet88]

buds:

janet_lee88, you have good window time in btwn the kids' school timing so still got chance to get out daily if you want. Just ensure what needs to be done, basic cleaning and what nots are done. I bring the kids out for lunch on days i feel like and that saves me time off my mornings. There will also be times they request for Maggi cos i cook most days they don't have that many opportunities to eat Maggi. My only condition is - don't spill the beans to gramma. :rotflmao:

Early part of week are busy days...come Thur/Fridays, I will ask mum if she is keen to go out before picking daughter...bringing daughter along means she wants to shop shop and refuse to come home. I do not like to bring dd out as she has quite a bit of work to be done everyday...so going out till late afternoon means no work can be accomplished as she would be flat at 7.