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[jedamum]

with the exception of broccoli, the kids cannot don't eat their veggies. ds2 is quite cooperative and try to mask the veg in other tasty sidedishes. ds1 will leave his veg til the last bit...trying to delay the unavoidable


but when my cooking is not to their liking,

ds2, will eat very slow and chat and get distracted else he usually finishes his food in less than 15min.
ds1 will eat slow as usual, but with plenty of leftovers and comments.
dh, will ask if have suppery stuff....

so now when i try out new recipe, i will sms dh to buy supper on his way home.

[vinegar]

jedamum:

with the exception of broccoli, the kids cannot don't eat their veggies. ds2 is quite cooperative and try to mask the veg in other tasty sidedishes. ds1 will leave his veg til the last bit...trying to delay the unavoidable


but when my cooking is not to their liking,

ds2, will eat very slow and chat and get distracted else he usually finishes his food in less than 15min.
ds1 will eat slow as usual, but with plenty of leftovers and comments.
dh, will ask if have suppery stuff....

so now when i try out new recipe, i will sms dh to buy supper on his way home.

same...my son eats brocolli,cabbage,cucumbers,cauliflowers,potato.

he takes at least 1 hour to finish his meal,irregardless whether there is any food of his liking.

[smartmummy]

vinegar:

I've talked to DC many times,even told them in advance what i will be cooking.I usually give n take,sometx make their fav dishes such as baked chicken,sometx not.I always tell them hv to eat variety of food to get right nutrient.I try to make the dishes innovative.For e.g. they hate spinach,so i mix the spinach into mashed potato.When they found out,they made a fuss n refused to eat...Few times i got fed up n took the food away.

For my DH,he is quite easy going when comes to food.The only thing is the portion i give to him.Normally,I'll cook dinner when i cook lunch for DC. To ease him fr. washing up,i portion out the food for him,meaning making as like \"dinner-box\"(in disposable container).So I just heat up when he's back.
I do the washing for big pots n pans.While he helps to wash his own plate/bowl(for soup).

Sometx,he complains on the portion given,so i've to tell him if cannot finish,leave it there,in advance.If not,he keeps complaining while eating.

my DH doesn't like to do hsework.Though now he slowly changes n willing to help more(due to my back prob),he doesn't like to be told what to do.So I nid help to carry heavy things or any thing that nid to be fixed at home,I'll do it when he is ard(if he's good mood,he helps) or i'll ask him how to replace lightbulb,etc....

I am not sure if i do the right things....the reason i try to do as much as i could..so he could spend more time wf the DC,but end up he spends more time in other things,like watch tv or surf nets.

Hi vinegar,
Here's my :snuggles: :hugs:
You are doing a wonderful job!BTW how old is ur child?

[buds]

sleepy:

buds:

Some of us were never the domesticated cats type.. some of us are.. Others may thrive under pressure and there will be others who can't multi-task.. A few may be able to take it easy close one or two eyes but some seek daily perfection.. We may have some amongst us who are selfless and all sacrificial but like it that way.. Even if there are amongst us as well who don't want to do it all because we don't see it as our way of life in the long run... it is all ay okay.. No right and wrong. We do what we do in whatever ways we can and if we have tried our best. Our best should be good enough.


Your household your rules.. own time.. own target.

As for the lazy ones... well, you know who you are too.

:goodpost:
How come I got the feeling you're referring to me :rotflmao:

The nail didn't just hit hard uh?
It hit home. :rotflmao:

You're not lazy. Just very fortunate to be pampered. :please:

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[sharonkhoo]

jedamum:

so now when i try out new recipe, i will sms dh to buy supper on his way home.

I would never do this - this way, you teach kids that even if they are fussy, they will get something else to eat later. My way is to let them go hungry (usually they will still have eaten something) or tell them to eat plain bread/crackers. So they learn not to be fussy. But I'm 'nice' enough not to make a whole meal out of something that I think they may not like (eg. even if 1 ingredient is new, the rest of the dish will be familiar, or if the sauce is new, they can 'drip-dry' the food), so at least they will get something to eat.

[sharonkhoo]

vinegar:

same...my son eats brocolli,cabbage,cucumbers,cauliflowers,potato.


he takes at least 1 hour to finish his meal,irregardless whether there is any food of his liking.

I have no such patience. From the time my kids were toddlers, I threw away meals that weren't eaten in 30mins (and no snacks or milk till the next meal). I only did that once or twice per child and it never happened again.

[vinegar]

i don’t hv the heart to do that…But i feel i am running out of patience.As what Buds & smartmummy advice,i’ve to start somewhere,if not,this things will keep going on.

[sharonkhoo]

vinegar:

i don't hv the heart to do that.....But i feel i am running out of patience.As what Buds & smartmummy advice,i've to start somewhere,if not,this things will keep going on.

I had to steel myself to be hard-hearted in those early years, but I told myself that the earlier I start the better, and missed meal or 2 has no impact on their overall health. In the event, it only took a couple of times (and not consecutive meals) to teach them, and I've had trouble-free years since. If my kids pick at their food, I know that they are genuinely not hungry for whatever reason.

[janet88]

During meal times, they are supposed to sit at the table and finish their meal before they can walk away…once they do so, I assume they are done and will clear dishes. So even if there is a phone call or SMS, they are not allowed to take. I set the example by doing the same.


The other thing…no in-between meals esp b4 lunch and dinner. No tea break nor supper. 3 square meals. My house, my rules.