Club SAHM

[dearzen]

Lock:

Hi there, I am A SAHM of 4 years with 2 children. DD is in P2 and DS in K2. I homeschool my DS this year and it is the best decision I have made. I have regretted not having done that when my DD was in her presch age.


In my opinion, the presch stage is so crucial. It is the formative stage where kids form habits, values and other behavourial traits. For me, I want to be directly responsible in how my kids turn out in future.

As an ex-sch teacher, I witnessed so many parents who decided to be SAHM when their kids started to have problems in sch; whether social, academic or behaviourial. More often than not, it is too late. They can't do much to turn their wayward kids around as their habits and values are already firmly formed.

So for those who are thinking of becoming a SAHM, if there are no financial constraints, I wld strongly encourage you to go for it. The job as a SAHM is not easy but then which job is. And I think most SAHM will agree that the bond shared between us and our kids are worth the hardships we go thru.

Pardon my ignorance, homeschool mean u teach ur DS @ home without sending her 2 any Nursery or Kindy?

[Mum_2Gals]

Wow, new Club SAHM :celebrate:

buds:

Really aah?

Hokay, time to update those threads liao.
More followers coming in wor... :shock:

Btw, are you with us already in the http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/forum/viewtopic.php?t=2724&start=465

Hi Buds,

Yes, more updates pls :thankyou:
maybe you can publish a book. I'm sure many parents here will pre-order

Wild Wild West Club? No yet. Hopping over now

[buds]

Mum_2Gals:

Wow, new Club SAHM :celebrate:

Special for you all mah..

buds:

Really aah?

Hokay, time to update those threads liao.
More followers coming in wor... :shock:

Mum_2Gals:

Hi Buds,

Yes, more updates pls :thankyou:
maybe you can publish a book. I'm sure many parents here will pre-order

Serious arh..
Can make it is it, you think? :lol:

buds:

Btw, are you with us already in the http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/forum/viewtopic.php?t=2724&start=465

Mum_2Gals:

Wild Wild West Club? No yet. Hopping over now

Good girl.

[Mum_2Gals]

sleepy:

Mum_2Gals:

Everyone has different priorities, I do enjoy my job but I'm not career-minded. I work for my family--more $, better standard of living??? So if the quality of living is affected when I work, I'll rather quit my job!

My sentiment too!

I still have people telling me 'so wasteful not to work' even though I stopped working donkey years ago.
To most people, it seems kind of wasted if we do not generate any income from our prior investment in education

Hi sleepy,

Agree, my dad was not supportive initially too. But now he's glad that I'm a SAHM, because he really doubt my mum can handle 4 kids (plus sis's 2kids):shock: As much as I try not to mind what other people says, still gets very defensive when pple says\" you not working? Tai tai ah, very free right? :stupid:

[Mum_2Gals]

dearzen:

Oh yes! when I oni hv #1 in yr 08 & due 2 NO experience in taking care of newborns, i prefer 2 go back 2 work! I still rem i asked my bb sitter 2 tk care of my #1 earlier than the agreed date. :oops:

But nw wif abit of experience, i reali wan 2 try 2 tk care of my kids myself minus off the maid. BUT i scare i cant. :roll:

Hi dearzen,

Don't worry. It won't be an easy job. But the \"difficult and crazy periods\" will pass and you'll only have fond memories of the time spent with your kids. When we plan for no2, we forgot all about the difficulties faced when no1 still a baby, all the crankiness, plus middle of the night feeds up till 2+yrs old! Now we still think babies are very CUTE!

I'm a SAHM for 3 years already, sometimes still barely coping, sometimes almost went crazy, now still learning......but no regrets

[Mum_2Gals]

dearzen:

Hi smurf!


Tat's pretty scary! :!:

Yes if given a choice, i rather my kids go playgrp or Kindy. I always tink tat CCs is 4 parents who hv no choice but 2 send. Sorry if i offend any1.

4 me, actually i dun hv a choice aso. No 1 2 help but i still reluctant 2 put my #1 in CC.

Hi smurf,
Sounds serious :shock: For me, I'm glad that my dd enjoys going to CC, cos when I enrol her at 3yrs, not much choices, nearby kindy all full

Hi dearzen,
No worries. Personal preference

My no1 attends half-day CC instead of kindy cos I need DH to send her in the morning. For CC, timing more flexible, when DH has early meetings, he will send dd to CC at 7plusAM, if no meetings, just need to send her there before 9am.

Dearzen, It's true to say that CCs are more for working parents so one concern is that when the child is sick, he/she might still go for class.

[dearzen]

HI Mummies!


Jz back 2 work 2day after 4mths ML.. Reali miss my 2 kiddos!

Cant wait 2 go home!!!

[Lock]

dearzen:

Pardon my ignorance, homeschool mean u teach ur DS @ home without sending her 2 any Nursery or Kindy?

Yes. dearzen, My DS did not go to any Kindy. I do the coaching at home.

Hi Sleepy,
I dun have the same problem as yours. On the normal schooldays, P2 will be in school in the morning and that's when I coach my K2 on his work. When P2 comes back from school, I coach her on her work and K2 is free to play. They will both have their free time in the evening till bedtime.

During hols, I will coach on subjects that will interest both of them like Geography, History and Art, so both will be discussing and working on the topics together.

But both will still have their regular desk work where they work on assessment books of their level. They usually will do their assessment books on their own without disturbing each other. Maybe that's because from the start, I have stressed on best quality work that requires much focus. When they hand in slip-slop work, their play time will be cut and they got to re-do all their assessments. So far, they have gotten into a routine and coaching them is quite a joy.

[Mum_2Gals]

sleepy:

Maybe we can re-introduce ourselves here


Me SAHM for 6 years+. Most likely a permanent role until the day I become grandma, can promote to SAHG then.

2 girls 7 yo & 5yo.

Hee, I'm actually hoping that 25yrs down the road, I can enjoy my retirement with DH. Don't mind once a while helping out , but not SAHG pls....No round two of daily diaper-changing, middle of night feeds, etc etc pls :shock:

sleepy:

Hi

How do you manage the coaching part when both kids are at home?
When you are coaching your P2, how do you keep your K2 occupied? & vice versa

For me, that's a constant struggle as my girls love to chit chat with each other, started giggling in the middle of their homework. Despites my effort to place them in separate rooms, they are quite inseparable, always end up together again. During exam period, I have to dispatch my younger one to my mom's house. The moment they are together, it's PLAYTIME. That's my biggest set back in homeschooling so far.

Me too Need help to manage the coaching part when both kids are at home. :?: My K1 cannot concentrate on her work if N1 is playing nearby. But N1 cannot play on her own in the living room if I work with K1 in the room. K1 will take forever to finish her work if she's alone in the room. And when K1 reads to me, N1 will take a book and ask me to read to her. :?:

Hi Lock,
how did you manage when your kids are younger? N1 & K1? My N1 not attending school yet, not exactly doing work, more coloring, puzzles, etc, but not for long.

Lock:

So for those who are thinking of becoming a SAHM, if there are no financial constraints, I wld strongly encourage you to go for it. The job as a SAHM is not easy but then which job is. And I think most SAHM will agree that the bond shared between us and our kids are worth the hardships we go thru.

Agree with you, Lock. Family bonding is what money cannot buy. No regrets for me too No one will think they have too much money, it's always \" Money Not Enough\"... Single or Dual Income makes a great difference to most families--imagine halved the family income :shock: It's very important to consider carefully, it must be a \"Family\" decision--100% support from DH. Else it'll just lead to quarrels and arguments....

*SAHM 3yrs, K1 & N1*

[Lock]

Mum_2Gals:

Hi Lock,
how did you manage when your kids are younger? N1 & K1? My N1 not attending school yet, not exactly doing work, more coloring, puzzles, etc, but not for long.

When my kids were younger, we did very little desk work. We played more games together. The only desk work we did was art and craft. When the younger one took his naps, I would spend 1-1 with my older one who did not need long naps. Usually we wld be reading storybooks. I also remembered spending alot of time at the playground and parks.