Club SAHM

[janet88]

auntieM:

My DS is in single session and I'm happy with the arrangements too.. ..

Can KO till late :razz: .. At least on weekdays can still attend wushu classes held in the early evening. For those in the afternoon session, no choice but to wait weekend..

It's indeed a torture for those in afternoon session. Time is so tight in the mornings...have to wake up early (maybe 8am)...take LIGHT breakfast and do some revision etc etc. After school, bath and dinner, child is so tired...how to do homework which requires \"more thinking\" like compo and Math and so have to leave for next day.

[MummyThreeStreams]

Angelight:

:welcome: to the club, MummyThreeStreams! I know how you feel. I am definitely happier now than when I was working full-time. Being a 24/7 SAHM is no mean feat. The stress is no less than a full-time job, but at least there is no office politics.


Like you, some relatives also feel my degree has gone to waste. But I know best. I know what will make me most happy, and that is nurturing my DD and marking her development milestones.

You are lucky. You have a good boss. No wonder you are torn between work and family. Just enjoy your kids full time now while you can, before you decide whether to go back to work later.

Thank you Angelight! It's nice to talk to people who 'get' it. My best friends are all FTWMs. So they don't quite know the challenges SAHMs face...

My boss's wife is a SAHM too! That's why he can understand!

[gardener]

Hi, I’m new to this club. I’ve been SAHM for almost 17 years, no regrets at all. I’m now looking for a kindergarten or a half day prog for my DS. Does anyone have any feedback on Early Years Montessori and Buttercups Pasir Panjang? Thanks!

[SAHM_TAN]

gardener:

Hi, I'm new to this club. I've been SAHM for almost 17 years, no regrets at all. I'm now looking for a kindergarten or a half day prog for my DS. Does anyone have any feedback on Early Years Montessori and Buttercups Pasir Panjang? Thanks!

:welcome:

You might get more response on your question if you post it under the Thread heading Enrichment, sub-heading Child Care, Kindergarten....

I don't live in your area so can't help with your query.

[MummyThreeStreams]

Happy Mama:

:goodpost: MummyThreeStreams and welcome to the club! :rahrah:

I was like you 8 months ago, torn between career and family. I was very reluctant to give up my very attractive salary but once the decision's been made, there's no looking back, and I'm enjoying every bit of my time focusing on my child. Work can wait, but the joy of watching our kids grow and being there for them when they need us most, is something money cannot buy. :love:

Thank you Happy Mama! Work can definitely wait! Although sometimes I wonder too, if I want to return to work one day, will they still want me? Will I be able to work? My mum quit her job to be a SAHM but after being out of the workforce for so long, she couldn't get back in. It's ok if you don't want to get back into the workforce, but what if you do want to work again? I'm not too worried about it now, but it's at the back of my mind.

[linden2000]

MummyThreeStreams:

I sometimes get very frustrated at home too! I yell too much...but it has been getting better. I'm still learning. The one thing I try to do is to try to spend some me time. It helps with the stress and frustrations! Being with the kids all the time can drive one crazy...so we need our 'off' too. DH helps a lot too when he's off work, but he works long hours so it's mostly me managing the household during the week.

Hi. Totally agree abt the need to have me time away from the children to de-stress. I yell a lot when i am frustrated sometimes so loud that I think neighbors can hear me. :p. Those are my down days when really driven up the wall and start to doubt that I do not have the right temperament to be SAHM. I have been switching between FTWM n SAHM over the years and this round may be SAHM for a longer period until the kids are grown up maybe. But still feel I am at the crossroads somehow and still not fully settled down.

I've also gotten similar comments about wasting degree, etc but my DH also feels that the children will still benefit somehow.

[MummyThreeStreams]

terry:

im gonna switch sch for my K1 boy. since im not working nw, i intend to mv him to a kindy near my plc. he attends a kindy near my parent's when i was working last time..he is still there in fact.


many have told me not to shift him since he is used to the sch and teachers in his current sch since preN. and nw only left 1yr mre to go b4 P1.

aw, i gg to visit the new sch next wk...wondering shd i bring my boy along?

We had to consider changing DS1's kindy after K1 too coz we moved house. My friend who is a pre-school teacher strongly advised me not to do it just for K2 because it could disrupt preparation for P1. She said it's because each school has their own curriculum and when you switch, the new school may have already covered something your previous school hasn't. In her experience, there have been kids transferring into her school who had a tough time.

I'm not sure i agree fully with her that it is so critical. coz even if they miss some stuff, it won't be a lot and you can always catch up in P1. of course, it's better to stick to the same school (assuming the school is doing a decent job), coz the kids will know each other, and the teachers will know the kids and their learning styles, developmental progress etc.

Ultimately, we chose to stick with the school as my son takes a long long time to warm up and had only started opening up to his teachers after a year in K1 (the form teacher moves up with them to K2). He's not very adaptable to new situations and I didn't want to stress him with a new home and new school for K2 and again a new school in P1 and a new brother. Too much change for my boy to adjust to over two years.

I think you just need to make the decision based on what works for you and your child. For some kids, the change may be too stressful; for others, it's no big deal.

[gardener]

Hi SAHM Tan, thanks. I’ll look up that thread!

[MummyThreeStreams]

linden2000:

Hi. Totally agree abt the need to have me time away from the children to de-stress. I yell a lot when i am frustrated sometimes so loud that I think neighbors can hear me. :p.

Oh, my neighbors definitely could hear me!!! They must have thought I was the mum from hell! :oops:

[gardener]

Hi SAHM Tan, thanks. I’ll look up that thread!