Club SAHM
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MummyThreeStreams:
MummyThreeStreams,
You'll find with more than one child, the older ones can be a great source of help. my 6 yo bathes my 3.5yo and brushes his teeth. I get them to help out in light household chores. For the heavy chores, I have a part-time cleaner coz otherwise, I'll only have time to clean the house once a month! The kids entertain each other, so I can get stuff done. Of course this often breaks out into wars, so that's when mummy yells...
The grandparents will take turns to come over to cook and play with the kids. DH will help with the kids when he's home. But I also let a lot of things slide. My home is clean, thanks to the cleaner, but it's still a big mess coz I don't have time to organize stuff...and as I said before, I don't do academic stuff with the kids! I know some of you mums teach your kids to read etc. I read to them, but I dunno why, I can't find the time to teach them to read...
I fully agree. My 9yo bath my 5yo and help change him if we are on the rush to leave the house. He helps supervises his work and checks his bag when i request. Sometimes I get him to put his extra work (ie assessment bks) aside to play with his didi so that i can get some cooking done. I go to my ILs house once a week and my MIL packed precooked food to tide me over another day. I visit my mum once a week and dine (and unwind) there. Cooked about 3x a week and other days pack (mostly when ds1 needs to stay back and I need to fetch him).
I cook 1 dish meals and pack food during pre-exam period because need to spend time revising with ds1. My free time is between 11am to sometime after noon when both kids are in school. Have to decide whether want to surf net (so tempting), clean the house (tiring!), go marketing (usually) and replenish kids' library books (at lease twice a week). Kids after school/homework time, i spend time playing with them (monopoly deal, uno, scrabble, lego etc). sometimes my dh asked me where have i spend all the time :pokeeye: (usually when he finds the house still in the same state of mess
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terry:
[/quote] :rotflmao: I will still keep an eye on him and tell him if he waste water, there will be no money to buy toy cars. That usually works :evil:[quote]
wah! cant imagine my PUB bills if i let my boy bathe himself.
my hb is Not hands on type..must push then he will move.
my MIL? sigh...her social life is mre busy than a minister.
but i have a maid..very very slow maid..
bb come out sure she cant manage..then my turn to :rant:
I dare not hire a maid. It would be another person for me to manage and I need all my energy on the kids :lol: Instead I have a part-time helper who comes once a wk to clean the house and iron the clothes -
jedamum:
sometimes my dh asked me where have i spend all the time :pokeeye: (usually when he finds the house still in the same state of mess
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DH knows NEVER to ask me that question! He knows he will be courting disaster if he does! :nunchuk: :spank: :stompfeet: -
MummyThreeStreams:
haha...i always tell my dh that my threshold of tolerance for messiness is very high. despite the messiness, i can locate whatever needs to be located so that is good enough for me. he calls it 'organised chaos' :boogie: . i also tell him that i don't have incentive to clean the house because he always eventually helps out (to vaccuum/mop) when he cannot tahan anymore. :laugh:jedamum:
sometimes my dh asked me where have i spend all the time :pokeeye: (usually when he finds the house still in the same state of mess
).
DH knows NEVER to ask me that question! He knows he will be courting disaster if he does! :nunchuk: :spank: :stompfeet: -
hi!
yes agree that more than 1 kid is easier cos they play together and thus won't keep needing me to entertain them. Also so true tt older ones are great help. I can manage much better on trips n outings alone with the 3 cos the boys help me lug barang, push stroller, pack things, open doors, press lift buttons...
In fact when out with dd alone, if she falls asleep in stroller, i don't dare to move her n can't go toilet. but with the boys, i don't hv to worry abt drinking big cup of bubble tea, need to go toilet can go, they will jaga meimei in stroller n watch my bags. :lol:
abt messiness, my house would easily be the worst cos even dh himself is a super messy person. and seems like all 5 of us are hoarders too. terrible habits... n ours is a 4room flat! -
MummyThreeStreams:
Same here :rotflmao: I tell him, I have 3 year kids, if you complain, I will leave them with you for a whole day by YOURSELF.jedamum:
sometimes my dh asked me where have i spend all the time :pokeeye: (usually when he finds the house still in the same state of mess
).
DH knows NEVER to ask me that question! He knows he will be courting disaster if he does! :nunchuk: :spank: :stompfeet: -
kabalevsky:
My kids are still very young, so dare not leave them alone without adult supervision. I'm very paraniod about this. Lucky my bladder control very good.hi!
yes agree that more than 1 kid is easier cos they play together and thus won't keep needing me to entertain them. Also so true tt older ones are great help. I can manage much better on trips n outings alone with the 3 cos the boys help me lug barang, push stroller, pack things, open doors, press lift buttons...
In fact when out with dd alone, if she falls asleep in stroller, i don't dare to move her n can't go toilet. but with the boys, i don't hv to worry abt drinking big cup of bubble tea, need to go toilet can go, they will jaga meimei in stroller n watch my bags. :lol:
My kids like to open door and press the button on lifts, so I just let them :rotflmao: Less one thing to worry. -
SAHM_TAN:
hahaha, good for you your bladder very strong!
My kids are still very young, so dare not leave them alone without adult supervision. I'm very paraniod about this. Lucky my bladder control very good.kabalevsky:
hi!
yes agree that more than 1 kid is easier cos they play together and thus won't keep needing me to entertain them. Also so true tt older ones are great help. I can manage much better on trips n outings alone with the 3 cos the boys help me lug barang, push stroller, pack things, open doors, press lift buttons...
In fact when out with dd alone, if she falls asleep in stroller, i don't dare to move her n can't go toilet. but with the boys, i don't hv to worry abt drinking big cup of bubble tea, need to go toilet can go, they will jaga meimei in stroller n watch my bags. :lol:
My kids like to open door and press the button on lifts, so I just let them :rotflmao: Less one thing to worry.
unfortunately tea and coffee are diuretics, after drinking, the urge to pee will be v strong, and will want to do so more frequently. if i bring them to the zoo or to the museum, which is downtown and very far from JW, then i cannot hold so long for sure. (and ya, i usually will drink tea or coffee- ice blended or some variation- if there is a long outing)
My boys are older, and ever since they were about 6, if I brought them into the ladies toilet, pp would stare. So I have let them go to the gents alone since they were around 6. I would of course be waiting right outside.
I used to be quite ok and relaxed abt them going themselves, until I read about this case in the newspapers where a boy around their age was molested in the gents at a library!
I think that's really sad. At a library, you wouldn't usually expect such things to happen, plus, in the gents, with a kid! -
kabalevsky:
hahaha, good for you your bladder very strong!
My kids are still very young, so dare not leave them alone without adult supervision. I'm very paraniod about this. Lucky my bladder control very good.SAHM_TAN:
[quote=\"kabalevsky\"]hi!
yes agree that more than 1 kid is easier cos they play together and thus won't keep needing me to entertain them. Also so true tt older ones are great help. I can manage much better on trips n outings alone with the 3 cos the boys help me lug barang, push stroller, pack things, open doors, press lift buttons...
In fact when out with dd alone, if she falls asleep in stroller, i don't dare to move her n can't go toilet. but with the boys, i don't hv to worry abt drinking big cup of bubble tea, need to go toilet can go, they will jaga meimei in stroller n watch my bags. :lol:
My kids like to open door and press the button on lifts, so I just let them :rotflmao: Less one thing to worry.
unfortunately tea and coffee are diuretics, after drinking, the urge to pee will be v strong, and will want to do so more frequently. if i bring them to the zoo or to the museum, which is downtown and very far from JW, then i cannot hold so long for sure. (and ya, i usually will drink tea or coffee- ice blended or some variation- if there is a long outing)
My boys are older, and ever since they were about 6, if I brought them into the ladies toilet, pp would stare. So I have let them go to the gents alone since they were around 6. I would of course be waiting right outside.
I used to be quite ok and relaxed abt them going themselves, until I read about this case in the newspapers where a boy around their age was molested in the gents at a library!
I think that's really sad. At a library, you wouldn't usually expect such things to happen, plus, in the gents, with a kid![/quote]Perverts visit library too. That's why even in the library, I would not let my kids wonder in the children's section by themselves. I always keep an eye on them. As long as it's a public place, low crime does not mean no crime. -
OMG! After reading through some of the exchange here, i feel that i have been the most overworked SAHM then. :laugh: I cook everyday. Unless if hubs or i decide on the day itself that we're sian or tired and just wanna go out to eat and chill with the kiddies. Not cooking means not having to wash up after everyone and also not having to wipe & mop the kitchen. Both girls and hubs wash after their own dishes so these days, they dun really pile up. To think that MIL used to chide me for getting the girls to do it. She said poor things, so small do housework. Later heavy will drop and break and then will cut themselves. Small chores like that can leave to the adults *hints of sarcasm in there of course since it's loud & clear waaat..* :roll: I'm very happy i insisted with that small chore practice with the girls. Sometimes these days, they help to wash more than just their own. I get a happy surprise at times when the sink is empty. :love:
When the ILs used to be under one roof with us, i had to cook for 7. I shall not go into the part where it was not appreciated, but due to the training i received and the darn fussy customers i had at home... it kinda spruced up my guts to do even better and prove them wrong. These days i can cook for a party.. okay that's a wee exaggerated.. i can cook for my friends if i am hosting a play-date or just a catch-up with my girlfriends or cousins and still don't sweat it. I can manage a few groups of relatives at one go too.. even if they just called in abt 45mins and on the way. Hah! Don't play play! :rotflmao: So, in a way gotta thank those \"customers\" for their fuss-pot training. My mumsie is also one over perfectionista. Cannot tahan really. I get tense each time she samples my cooking. Always got something to say type. But the high is when she does think it's good, while she may not compliment me directly, i suddenly get requests from my aunties or cousins to cook a certain something that mumsie said was really nice when they wanna come over.
Friends who have spent time over my place wud go... :shock: Your place is soo clean! How you manage this with cooking & ILs & jaga-ing the kids plus prepare resources to teach & play with them? Well i guess now after reading thru the last few posts... i really really now know that oh well.. i'm definitely overworked. I'll tell hubs tomorrow that i'm spoiling market liao. Cheh. :politebleah:
The girls can spring clean, sweep & mop their own room and the rest outside too. Fold and hang up on their hangers (colour coded for each girl) and also do up laundry on days they're having a good mood or nothing to do. :lol: This helps too. These days with the baby, they each race to help take care of the baby. :politebleah: Much to the baby's displeasure at being smothered really. :laugh: My DD2 is the most hardworking with chores and she loves watching me cook. She says next time she wants to cook for her family too.. just like mommy. :love:
Hubs is auto and helps out when he can but when he's bummed out from work i'm on my own. So sometimes i get peeved at the mess i just cleaned that i redo it all over again and he'd go, \"Can you just stop for awhile and sit down.. like breathe or rest?\" Other times though he may come back from work early & not tell me & he'd be behind me exclaiming, \"Oh wow, soo nice to come back to a nice clean house feeling nice clean floors and finding the wifey who's bending over in her knick knacks moppin' under the kids bed...\" :evil: Next question following that would sometimes smell like this. \"The house soo quiet, all the kiddies sleeping in our room issit.. :evil:..\" I'm like :roll:.. so sweaty and tired cos wanna gao tim everything quickly before he comes back and there he was excited with sweat? :siao:
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But hey, a compliment is a compliment ain't it? No matter how it gets dished out?
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