Do U care about AWARE?
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Hey, thanks for the info. Good news! At least something positive came out of this AWARE saga. Parents now are more informed of what had been taught in schools. I always believe that there must be a value system in place for sex education and that parents play an important role in this.
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sunflower:
..Parents now are more informed of what had been taught in schools. ..
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Well, certainly a lot of bad things but also some good things have come out of this. Just 2 observations:
1) There is no such thing as values-free sex education
The old AWARE exco made it a point to emphasise that the CSE was neutral on values, and made no judgment (and therefore neutral) on words like homosexuality, virginity etc. That simply does not cut it in my book. If I am teaching sex-ed to my kids, I want a good clear consistent message all the way. MOE has clearly decided that a pluralistic approach, (as sexy as the word is in supposedly denoting 'progression, open-mindedness', blah blah blah), is simply inappropriate, and I quote \"\"MOE's framework for sexuality education reflects the mainstream views and values of Singapore society, where the social norm consists of the married heterosexual family unit.\"\". I cannot agree more.
2) You can tell a lot of things about a person by the friends they keep.
If AWARE were not previously seen as a vehicle for promoting alternative lifestyles, then how does one explain the groundswell of support from those who seek to do exactly that, or push the rights of those who practice it? Why does NMP Siew Kum Hong volunteer (or was he asked?) his services, the very public face of anti-377a? You read some of the letters to the Forum?
Nobody will ever look at AWARE the same again, they cannot hide behind an ambiguous facade any more. -
On further investigation, I am trawling the we-are-aware site, and up this comes; \"Josie Lau, was in charge of the DBS Charity Drive in support of Focus On The Family, US-based Christian organisation that is opposed to abortion and equal rights for sexual minorities. This created a controversy last year which was well-documented.\"
So, who's doing the hate-mongering now? They decide to take the fight to James Dobson and FOTF? If you listened to James Dobson you will know its nothing like they have put it.
Apologies if I sound like I am fuming :x over this. Such were the things that were going on, and those of us trying to ensure a safe learning environment for our children are being hauled over the coals for being non-progressive? -
kiasu_pig:
Err…the CSE materials were exposed due to this incident…sunflower:
..Parents now are more informed of what had been taught in schools. ..
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insider:
Way to go insider :ugogirl: ... As both of my kids are boys... My wife is so glad to be able to wash her hands off this topic :siam: ... So I am definitely the one they have to come to for things related to the male anatomy :?:
My son is closer to me (more open to me) and so far, I have taught him what cause wet dreams and how to handle his wet dreams (such as prepare tissue paper near his bed for cleaning up himself first if it happens). Yet to talk to him about masturbation. Not easy… (but my hubby finds it awkward to share though I think he should be a better person than me). Sigh…don’t think the new CSE will be in time for him… (to at least ‘lessen’ my load).
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insider:
Wow you certainly are thinking way too far ahead??!! Btw how old is your boy? Still in primary school?ZacK:
Way to go insider :ugogirl: ...
kakaka...really way to go! (but I think the most important point that I must get into his head is not to have sex with girls under 16 as I feel many teenage boys just don't know it is of dire consequences when really they can be actually ignorant of the law. I printed out the clause of the law and let him read to me and then we discuss those words of 'statutory rape' and those penalities).
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insider:
Hahaha I'm sure many parents would be glad cos it shows ur boy is fineZacK:
Wow you certainly are thinking way too far ahead??!! Btw how old is your boy? Still in primary school?
My eldest son is coming 16.
When he had his first wet dream at around 14+, he apologised and told me he 'wetted' his bed (asking me to change his bedsheet 'secretly' for fear my maid and his sister would tease him for bedwetting). I checked and then was giggling in my heart...
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insider:
\"Teach about condoms\" is different from \"teach how to wear condoms\" which the workshop is teaching. I believe your \"teach\" refers to the latter that you feel it is a need to learn.
I am glad my daughter had been through hers and I don’t need to ‘teach’ her about condoms......
Honestly, having been there done that, there is no rocket science to using condoms to warrant a demo session by an instructor in a workshop. Some things in life, the discovery process is also part of the fun. I always believe if people want to do things responsibly, they will find out the means to do it. So it starts with responsibility which is a value, then the rest will follow in place.
In any case, condoms are not full proof, too many cases I know children are born even with condoms on, case in point closer to family, 2 of little my cousins were born in this way....it has worked most of the times and only need to fail 2 times to bring both of them on board the family. JMHO.
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ks2me:
In any case, condoms are not full proof, too many cases I know children are born even with condoms on, case in point closer to family, 2 of little my cousins were born in this way....it has worked most of the times and only need to fail 2 times to bring both of them on board the family.
JMHO.
Erm, i think thats why need to teach method of wearing it correctly. To the best of my knowledge, it is all about fit as well as timing. Years ago attended a workshop on sex and sexuality, there were lots of questions asked and from that, I had gathered that more than half of the men are not using it in the proper way.
It is not 100%, no method will say its 100% cos no insurance company will cover them should there be a lawsuit and have to work out compensation. It is one of the most effective and it is not only as a form of contraceptive, it is also use as prevention measure against STDs and AIDs. In my opinion, if want a foolproof contraceptive, got to be Kiasu and uses both condom with spermicide and another method for the girls as well.
Insider:[quote](but I think the most important point that I must get into his head is not to have sex with girls under 16 as I feel many teenage boys just don't know it is of dire consequences when really they can be actually ignorant of the law. I printed out the clause of the law and let him read to me and then we discuss those words of 'statutory rape' and those penalities). [/quote]Well said, it is about responsibility. The parents' responsibility to educate and enforce the sense of morality in their child/children.
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