DSA Appeal 2011

[zeemimi]

Snow Crystal:

zeemimi:

In 100% honesty, i would not go back on a CO should my kid score higher because it goes against my conviction that one should always honour his words / agreement. That's why i believe scholarship holders should always fulfill their bond before they pursue their own further interest.
For analysis, most of these who want to reverse their CO already have a CO from a reputable IP school, not that it is so kooching-kurak sch. Can my kid not get a equally good education from this DSA school? Are there invisible tiers that we create even among IP schools? Is there therefore any surprise some of our kids are behaving like elitist?
Sorry to say, but ultimately it boils down to face and self.

I applaud your strong conviction. Every parent has their own reason or stand when making decisions. So no parent is totally right or wrong. Face and self do not seem to be the main considerations for the parents I know whose kids managed to DSA appealed successfully in past years. Very simple reason actually- hope the kid get into his dream school, a very simple dream.

Ha ha ... nothing to applaud about because this is basic and fundamental.

Actually it is dangerous to teach that it's ok to reverse a CO to fulfill one's dream. We are hence teaching that the ends justify the means, which should never be the case. Now is just a simple dream of a dream school. In future it may be a more ambitious dream of getting rich, powerful, influential, etc. There is no bounds.

I also hv no vested interest in 2011 PSLE. I hv kids who hv finished PSLE and going to take PSLE in years in come. And normally i just snoop around various threads in this forum reading for fun and talking abit here and there to try and get a higher belt. :rotflmao: But just hv to speak out this time and risk getting :spank:

Not my intention to stone anyone la ....

[Ms tay]

Snow Crystal:

zeemimi:

In 100% honesty, i would not go back on a CO should my kid score higher because it goes against my conviction that one should always honour his words / agreement. That's why i believe scholarship holders should always fulfill their bond before they pursue their own further interest.
For analysis, most of these who want to reverse their CO already have a CO from a reputable IP school, not that it is so kooching-kurak sch. Can my kid not get a equally good education from this DSA school? Are there invisible tiers that we create even among IP schools? Is there therefore any surprise some of our kids are behaving like elitist?
Sorry to say, but ultimately it boils down to face and self.

I applaud your strong conviction. Every parent has their own reason or stand when making decisions. So no parent is totally right or wrong. Face and self do not seem to be the main considerations for the parents I know whose kids managed to DSA appealed successfully in past years. Very simple reason actually- hope the kid get into his dream school, a very simple dream.

:goodpost: well said snow crystal :imcool:
There is no right or wrong , it depends on which angle u see it from .

[verykiasu2010]

I used to advocate no transfer, until the fact that the schools themselves made it very convenient to transfer because, as they used to say, no point keeping the students whose hearts is not there and really wanted out, and they facilitated the transfer seamlessly amongst the principals with their namelists, so that the vacancies could be filled quickly by those waiting to get in. Water finding its own level.


But if the MOE enforces strictly the "rule" this year, then so be it. Loop holes closed. Too bad if you have taken a chance hoping to transfer.

DSA to the school you won’t mind to stay for 6 years if you can’t transfer.

[phankao]

Snow Crystal:

ycpang:

It is morally wrong not to honour the DSA offered. If u don't apprecaite it, why accept it at the first place???

Most parents and students appreciate each CO. They also discuss like crazy and deliberate before making that decision to accept a CO that is 2nd choice. :nailbite:

We never discussed at length with our boy about this issue. But he himself was asked during his DSA interview about this particular issue, and he promised to put the school as 1st preference. When I asked him about it later if he would want to consider another school if he did very well, he said \"cannot - I promised already\". In a way, I am proud of him for that. On the other hand, he actually is not in the situation to choose in the end. *haha*

[WeiHan]

People who know what they want and can make up their mind early usually do better in whatever endeavor they embark on. Congrats to the kid that know how to make up their mind and stock with their promise.

[carebear]

Actually it is the system that is at fault.


If right from the beginning, the child and parents are told that they are not supposed to change their minds once they have accept the DSA school of their choice, and later the school that they appeal to also rejects them outright, then nobody will dare to accept the initial offer if they are unsure of their decision, and also not apply thru DSA as a back up plan.

[phankao]

carebear:

Actually it is the system that is at fault.


If right from the beginning, the child and parents are told that they are not supposed to change their minds once they have accept the DSA school of their choice, and later the school that they appeal to also rejects them outright, then nobody will dare to accept the initial offer if they are unsure of their decision, and also not apply thru DSA as a back up plan.

But it is mentioned, wat.

[SAHM_TAN]

phankao:

We never discussed at length with our boy about this issue. But he himself was asked during his DSA interview about this particular issue, and he promised to put the school as 1st preference. When I asked him about it later if he would want to consider another school if he did very well, he said \"cannot - I promised already\". In a way, I am proud of him for that. On the other hand, he actually is not in the situation to choose in the end. *haha*

I smiled when I read your DS's answer. At that pt, it was not known whether he is in a position to choose or not.

I'm unable to express clearly what touches me.

[Bbee]

phankao:

carebear:

Actually it is the system that is at fault.


If right from the beginning, the child and parents are told that they are not supposed to change their minds once they have accept the DSA school of their choice, and later the school that they appeal to also rejects them outright, then nobody will dare to accept the initial offer if they are unsure of their decision, and also not apply thru DSA as a back up plan.

But it is mentioned, wat.

Problem is MOE was slack about this and suddenly this year want to stand firm and caught many parents off guard. :slapshead:
Anyway this doesn't concern me also because we were not offered dsa
But being a parent myself, I do understand we want the best for our kids
Well whatever the outcome, let's all move on and make the best of whatever we've got :rahrah:

[Bbee]

phankao:

Snow Crystal:

[quote=\"ycpang\"]It is morally wrong not to honour the DSA offered. If u don't apprecaite it, why accept it at the first place???

Most parents and students appreciate each CO. They also discuss like crazy and deliberate before making that decision to accept a CO that is 2nd choice. :nailbite:

We never discussed at length with our boy about this issue. But he himself was asked during his DSA interview about this particular issue, and he promised to put the school as 1st preference. When I asked him about it later if he would want to consider another school if he did very well, he said \"cannot - I promised already\". In a way, I am proud of him for that. On the other hand, he actually is not in the situation to choose in the end. *haha*[/quote]Very sensible kid you have phankao, congrats!