How to Get Smart Kids

[Lynn2010]

Funz:

Lynn2010:

Hahahaha.....

Btw, 1 yr old can.
At 2 yr old, my dd already can read simple story book, can speak full sentences (i know some are still babbling at this age), shower on her own (with me watching as I'm worried - she was only 2)

Wah so what did you feed her?

Powder milk from 3 wk old leh...... cant remember if it's similac

[beanbear]

Mawar:

I want to know how to get happy kids.

Ps. Don't want spray them with laughing gas type of ideas hor!

Are we as parents happy? Especially happy with our children? I think our kids are happy when we love them unconditionally, when they don't have to prove anything in order to obtain our approval.

When my kids & I enjoy each other's company, just being with each other without thinking about the schedule, just being in the moment, ahh.... I love those moments. It's sheer joy.

[Lynn2010]

Mawar:

I want to know how to get happy kids.

Ps. Don't want spray them with laughing gas type of ideas hor!

Just to share - i try not to stress them too much.... i suppose you are talking about kids younger than 7 yr old (P1). They yearn for parents doing activities with them. Getting involve in their \"lives\". Eg. go to the park, play sports or games, etc. Dont use words like \"stupid\", \"good for nothing\", \"so and so is better than you\" on them, basically dont belittle them. You can scold them when they are not behaving. Every kid has their strengths and weaknesses. Lots of hugs and kisses and reassuring them that you love them.

[Lynn2010]

Also, research has shown (read it before) that kids who are showered with lots of love, care, hugs from parents grow up better and happier compared to those who dont have.


A simple example will be kids who grow up in a challenging environment (orphans or parents in jail) generally turn out differently from those who have a complete loving family.
This is just "in general"

[concern2]

slmkhoo:

My kids are teens, and a few months ago, they told me that their teacher in school asked the class about things they would like to change about their parents. My kids were stumped and couldn't think of anything much (other than maybe to have their parents a bit less strict!).

Wow, that's the best compliment and consolation!

[concern2]

buds:

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Side effect : Hyperactivity which includes talking like a chipmunk in a chipmunk's voice non-stop... except when she sleeps.

You've been warned! :evil:

Ya, buds, we've noticed that we often lose control over them after they finished their Mac meals - they start to behave like monkeys, cannot sit still, must move around and laugh hysterically over little jokes :roll:

[Funz]

Lynn2010:

Funz:

[quote=\"Lynn2010\"]

Hahahaha.....

Btw, 1 yr old can.
At 2 yr old, my dd already can read simple story book, can speak full sentences (i know some are still babbling at this age), shower on her own (with me watching as I'm worried - she was only 2)

Wah so what did you feed her?

Powder milk from 3 wk old leh...... cant remember if it's similac [/quote]Darn! I breastfed my 2 kiddos.

[Mawar]

beanbear:

Mawar:

I want to know how to get happy kids.

Ps. Don't want spray them with laughing gas type of ideas hor!

Are we as parents happy? Especially happy with our children? I think our kids are happy when we love them unconditionally, when they don't have to prove anything in order to obtain our approval.

When my kids & I enjoy each other's company, just being with each other without thinking about the schedule, just being in the moment, ahh.... I love those moments. It's sheer joy.

Thanks a lot for sharing. We have been under the weather recently, and I realize there's a spillover effect on our kids.

Unconditional love, that's difficult. Need to work on that!

[Mawar]

Lynn2010:

Also, research has shown (read it before) that kids who are showered with lots of love, care, hugs from parents grow up better and happier compared to those who dont have.


A simple example will be kids who grow up in a challenging environment (orphans or parents in jail) generally turn out differently from those who have a complete loving family.
This is just \"in general\"

I agree that a well nurtured child is likely to do better. And likely perform better academically and socially.

Giving and spending time is sometimes difficult especially when we wear so many hats. Sometimes I feel I give so much, I have nothing more to give. Need to recharge!

[Mawar]

concern2:

slmkhoo:

My kids are teens, and a few months ago, they told me that their teacher in school asked the class about things they would like to change about their parents. My kids were stumped and couldn't think of anything much (other than maybe to have their parents a bit less strict!).

Wow, that's the best compliment and consolation!

Agree!! Agree!!

As we learn to be 'good' parents, I am still at Parenting for Dummies 101, we need to balance how much to give and how much to keep.