Alternative use for tuition

[Chenonceau]

Mychildren:

This is true (those in blue). Chen, did your book mention anything about this too? Then, I'll be interested to get hold of one too.

Sweet... I dun dare answer questions about my book here. People might get mad at me. How about you pop by here - http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/forum/viewtopic.php?f=23&t=36240&p=848087#p848087?

[janet88]

Mr HSK has been landed a ‘hot project’. Education has always been a sticky issue and it’s even hotter now. I believe MOE is not aware of things happening on ground level…for eg, teachers who encourage their students to go for tuition.

Since school is mandatory, why then do our kids need tuition? Why not keep them from school and send them for tuition instead? This way, kids get to sleep later.

[beanbear]

Chenonceau:

SAHM_TAN:

I was reading the write-up on tuition in the ST today. There were 2 sec level students who are doing well in their studies but opt for tuition so that they will be disciplined to study.


The article does not state if both had tuition when they were in primary school.

I was scared. I immediately worked with dd1 to get her set a schedule to learn her spelling and tingxie and let her take responsibility. I think to start small and gradually move on to bigger stuff like her many mini tests.

I am with you on this SAHM_TAN. My first reaction when I read that these 2 Sec 2 students need tutors to discipline them to study was same as yours. If by their teens, children have so little self-discipline that they cannot carry out one of their primary responsibilities without CLOSE supervision... it is worrisome. These Sec 2 students are probably NOT destined for top management positions. When you come out to work and will only do your primary job because someone is watching you, no one will promote you.

In the short term, you get the good grades. In the long-term, life will play you out because you lack an important life skill.

I was talking with some HR managers about what they are noticing about young Singapore executives (ie in their 20s) who are in the workplace and they shared they see this lack of resilience, spoon-feeding mentality and not being able to articulate their own opinions. They are opinionated but can't articulate positions with clarity. I'm worried about our next lot of Singapore kids who in 10+ years are going out to the workforce. They've been smothered by tuition and parental spoon-feeding.

I told my P6 DS that he will not get any tuition at Secondary school. We could not depend on the primary school teachers for good teaching but at Secondary school, I feel it's critical for him to self-study and depend on himself. I'm glad that in the last 2 months, I got him to be more self-accountable for his own PSLE revision and to monitor his own progress. Even at this critical juncture, I want to him to feel that his success/lack of it is due to his own efforts & not his mother hand-holding him.

[Mychildren]

Chenonceau:

Mychildren:

This is true (those in blue). Chen, did your book mention anything about this too? Then, I'll be interested to get hold of one too.

Sweet... I dun dare answer questions about my book here. People might get mad at me.

Why be mad??? I don't understand.
They should be curious instead of mad??? :?

[Chenonceau]

beanbear:

I'm glad that in the last 2 months, I got him to be more self-accountable for his own PSLE revision and to monitor his own progress. Even at this critical juncture, I want to him to feel that his success/lack of it is due to his own efforts & not his mother hand-holding him.

A partial result of reading... something?

[Mychildren]

beanbear:

Chenonceau:

[quote=\"SAHM_TAN\"]I was reading the write-up on tuition in the ST today. There were 2 sec level students who are doing well in their studies but opt for tuition so that they will be disciplined to study.


The article does not state if both had tuition when they were in primary school.

I was scared. I immediately worked with dd1 to get her set a schedule to learn her spelling and tingxie and let her take responsibility. I think to start small and gradually move on to bigger stuff like her many mini tests.

I am with you on this SAHM_TAN. My first reaction when I read that these 2 Sec 2 students need tutors to discipline them to study was same as yours. If by their teens, children have so little self-discipline that they cannot carry out one of their primary responsibilities without CLOSE supervision... it is worrisome. These Sec 2 students are probably NOT destined for top management positions. When you come out to work and will only do your primary job because someone is watching you, no one will promote you.

In the short term, you get the good grades. In the long-term, life will play you out because you lack an important life skill.

I was talking with some HR managers about what they are noticing about young Singapore executives (ie in their 20s) who are in the workplace and they shared they see this lack of resilience, spoon-feeding mentality and not being able to articulate their own opinions. They are opinionated but can't articulate positions with clarity. I'm worried about our next lot of Singapore kids who in 10+ years are going out to the workforce. They've been smothered by tuition and parental spoon-feeding.

I told my P6 DS that he will not get any tuition at Secondary school. We could not depend on the primary school teachers for good teaching but at Secondary school, I feel it's critical for him to self-study and depend on himself. I'm glad that in the last 2 months, I got him to be more self-accountable for his own PSLE revision and to monitor his own progress. Even at this critical juncture, I want to him to feel that his success/lack of it is due to his own efforts & not his mother hand-holding him.[/quote]I'm impressed. Hope I can be like u when the time comes.
My DS2 still need some spoonfeeding, need to teach him to hold his spoon soon. :sick:

[Chenonceau]

Mychildren:

Chenonceau:

[quote=\"Mychildren\"]
This is true (those in blue). Chen, did your book mention anything about this too? Then, I'll be interested to get hold of one too.

Sweet... I dun dare answer questions about my book here. People might get mad at me.

Why be mad??? I don't understand.
They should be curious instead of mad??? :?[/quote]There all sorts of different perspectives on this forum. Some mind. Others don't understand why some mind. I need to honor everyone and be suitably sensitive to how some may perceive words and comments about the book.

[Mychildren]

Chen,

Ok, understand, not everyone can take & swallow what u said in that book. Won’t ask now.

[beanbear]

Chenonceau:

beanbear:

I'm glad that in the last 2 months, I got him to be more self-accountable for his own PSLE revision and to monitor his own progress. Even at this critical juncture, I want to him to feel that his success/lack of it is due to his own efforts & not his mother hand-holding him.

A partial result of reading... something?

Yes, yes my dear. Your book certainly inspired me to self reflect and made more conscious choices. Still struggling to be more joyful & encouraging. By the way, my favourite thing I'm using right now is Structured choice from your book. Works great with adults too!!

[janet88]

beanbear:

I told my P6 DS that he will not get any tuition at Secondary school. We could not depend on the primary school teachers for good teaching but at Secondary school, I feel it's critical for him to self-study and depend on himself. I'm glad that in the last 2 months, I got him to be more self-accountable for his own PSLE revision and to monitor his own progress. Even at this critical juncture, I want to him to feel that his success/lack of it is due to his own efforts & not his mother hand-holding him.

My hubby told P6 son that he has to learn to be independent when he goes to Sec school. Fine, since primary 6 teachers cannot be depended upon for reliable teaching, we will tighten our belts for this year for tuition. From next year, son has to learn to manage his own timing. Time management is crucial next year with 9 subjects and CCAs. His mother, yours truly :evil: will not be holding his hand when he goes to secondary school, letting go slowly from Jan.