dunno is im not a good wife or he just wan to find fault

[mamago]

知己知彼, 百戰百勝. 老公也包括在內…

[Dreamaurora]

bunnievivi:

I appreciate all the helps and solution given by everyone here.... i have take note alog of things... maybe to the very last resort... get professional to solve.. meanwhile i shall try to solve within myself... but e losing of confidence... does have big impact towafds me for sometimes already... im backing out from my friends..


Cos e only solution given was... divorce..

I truly symphatize with you as I can see from the way you wrote this has impacted you greatly emotionally and mentally. And for your friends to even consider telling you to divorce tells much of the gravity of the situation.

You need to get out of this victim mentality and take charge of the situation. I would suggest you get professional help immediately; at the very least you will have a real listening ear to vent your frustrations and emotions. You have done the first step of posting this thread and sharing what you feel and I applaud your boldness. Now you just need to take that next step and acknowledge that you need an external help. Bottling up your feeling and trying to salvage the situation by yourself even though you have tried will just lead to further anguish. Whether you can salvage your marriage I would not know, but at least if you try, even if the worst happen you can walk out of this holding your head up high.

[Baby39]

go for marriage counselling before it is too late and when he’s still receptive. but it needs to take two hands to clap. i tried before. he was asked to be less prescriptive. he returned home n told me counseller meant i make my own decisions and suffer. whatever case it is, always make sure you TRY for the sake of your kid. & if you eventually made any decision, you made it with no thoughts of "what if".

[ammonite]

Is money a major stress point for both of you? You mentioned that your husband’s attitude changed after your first child was born. Did financial priorities change after the arrival of the child, or you are in disagreement over it? It is very painful for a spender to become a saver.

[ammonite]

mamago:

知己知彼, 百戰百勝. 老公也包括在內....

受教受教...

[Funz]

bunnievivi:

I appreciate all the helps and solution given by everyone here.... i have take note alog of things... maybe to the very last resort... get professional to solve.. meanwhile i shall try to solve within myself... but e losing of confidence... does have big impact towafds me for sometimes already... im backing out from my friends..


Cos e only solution given was... divorce..

:hugs:

Do consider counselling for yourself first. He need not go with you if you are not ready for that and I am pretty sure he will not agree if you ask now. But it helps to talk to someone objective.

[cfan]

Nobody should tell you what to do

You are the only one wearing those shoes
You know best
I know it hurts when he doesn't appreciate what you do but you cannot force him to \"appreciate\" neither can you force him to \"change\"
What you can do is manage your own expectations.
If you don't expect him to do anything, then you won't \"feel\" disappointed.
I do have my down days but I always pray to God and ask Him to help me with my situation now. It helps.
I am only totally focusing on my children.
My kids are very happy. I am trying my best to teach them all I can, while I can. If one day, it turns out that I do have to go separate ways with him, so be it. At least I tried my best.

But never give up on yourself. Remember if you do not think the person is worth it his opinions does not matter. Only those who cares for you does. Nurture your boys to not do what he has done

Remember your vows, \"For better or for worse...\"

If this is the worst, then you would already have gone through it. If you know what I mean...

:hugs: :hugs:

[mamago]

mamago:

知己知彼, 百戰百勝. 老公也包括在內....

先知己
后知彼

不知己 只知彼 徒劳
只知己 不知彼 枉费


----共勉之

[kiddo]

bunnievivi,


jia you :hugs: jia you :hugs:
Don't give up not until you exhauted every help and try...
You still have 2 young boys to take care of...

Not sure if your DH have financial problem, stress at work,
or he just lost his bearing and need to find himself back on track...
need lot of patience on your side to buffer this kind of treatment.
Vent if you need be here but do get help from others ..it will
help in making your thinking clear and
help your emotion 'stand\" above the situation..

:snuggles:

[Mychildren]

ammonite:

mamago:

知己知彼, 百戰百勝. 老公也包括在內....

受教受教...

好利害！学着学着!