Teck Ghee Primary

[concern_mum]

i hope it materialize. Then i can put my DD there as i intend to go without maid next year.

[Ninjago]

rejoice137:

Yes, black shoes really a big benefit for mums like us. I think all schools should just use black shoes since white shoes will turn black eventually anyway, haha. Besides black shoes, I secretly wish that all schools will use collared polo shirt as uniform instead of cotton shirt. It is more comfortable in our hot weather plus it is iron-free, haha. I like TGPS pants as it does not require ironing. But the uniform still require some ironing. Being white, it is very easy to get dirty and my DS' uniform is no longer just white. It has blue and red spots all over now :-(.

Actually some schools are wearing collared dri-fit T for all ocassions. It is neat-looking when wore in class n same time is a sports T. And Hong Wen primary has a special Chinese knot on the collared T which is their uniform. I was hoping to see such change as I hate ironing. But kinda disappointed when saw TGPS changed their PE shirts to the colourful ones ... Cos no way there will be changes for another 5 to 6 years.

[rejoice137]

concern_mum:

i hope it materialize. Then i can put my DD there as i intend to go without maid next year.

Hi concern_mum,

I went without a maid middle of last year after my maid terminated the contract earlier. After much consideration, we decided not to get another helper. It was really hard to juggle between house work, taking care of the kids and working at the same time. I worked half day at home for the 2nd half year last year so that I could cook lunch and took care of my kids after their schools. This year I put them in student care so that I could go back to work in the office in the afternoon. Now finally started to get used of the routine except for the daily packed lunch as I have to wake up very early in the morning to prepare breakfast and lunch for them. It is very hard for me to stay awake in the evening to enjoy family time and couple time :-(. So I really hope that the school can revert back to the normal dismissal hours so that I don't have to do the packed lunch again next year and my boys have ample of time to have their lunch daily. If you gonna go without maid next year, do be prepared for a time when you need to adjust to the change in routine and workload. Having support from the family and spouse is very important to tide through the difficult time. But after more than 1 year without maid, I never regretted. Now my boys are more independent and spouse is more helpful. So I think it is a good move but a hard one. All the best to you.

[concern_mum]

Thanks Rejoice


I tried going without maid 2 years ago when my DD was only 4. It was very trying. I don’t like to have maid as my kids tend to rely on her a lot and end up not knowing how to tidy their own room and looking after each other. I recalled those few months when i went without maid, my sons could help to fetch my DD from the childcare centre. They were only 7 and 9 yrs old then, they could even help to put the laundry into the washer and cook rice before i returned from work. Now with maid, it is so difficult for me to ask them to help to care for the sister and do some basic tidying.

[Astee Foo]

Hi concern_mum,


Usually for a Fulltime working mom, a maid is really a godsend (especially if you have a good & reliable one.) as she help to ease you off all the domestic affairs and focus on quality time with your children. Speaking from my own experieneced when my children were younger.

Now that they are older and more independent, i can do without one but somedays still wish i have that extra pair of hands to help me as housework is a never ending stories.

You have 2 older boys to help and it's good that they learn to look after the younger sister. They can even cook rice, i am truely impressed! :salute: Which school is your boys attending? Judging by your statement, they should be 9 and 11 now. So i can say you are a Guru in the parents forum too... looking for some old as old as me...i meant has a child as old as mine...:P

Regards,
Astee

concern_mum:

Thanks Rejoice

I tried going without maid 2 years ago when my DD was only 4. It was very trying. I don't like to have maid as my kids tend to rely on her a lot and end up not knowing how to tidy their own room and looking after each other. I recalled those few months when i went without maid, my sons could help to fetch my DD from the childcare centre. They were only 7 and 9 yrs old then, they could even help to put the laundry into the washer and cook rice before i returned from work. Now with maid, it is so difficult for me to ask them to help to care for the sister and do some basic tidying.

[concern_mum]

hi rejoice


My boys are ‘out of no choice’ trained by the dad to cook rice as i always reach home @7pm. They are now 10 & 12 at AMK Pr School. I do agree with you that it is always good to have an extra hand to help but to think of the additional cost with the maid so expensive these days and some of the disadvantage and side effect, it really give me a second thought if i want another maid. My current maid is only willing to extend her contact for another 9 months provided i give her 2 weeks leave in March. It is like neither here nor there and i need to pay for her new insurance, airticket + renew passport and WP just to extend her for another 9 months.

[rejoice137]

Hi concern_mum,


I completely understand what you mean. Kids grow up with maid can become too relying on them. I also don’t fancy the idea that my boys get too attached with the helper knowing the helper will leave very soon. After more than a year, my boys still ask me about their kakak from time to time. It is good that you have the option to stop having a maid. Hope things will go well with you. With support from your family, I am sure you can make it.

[beauty79]

Hi mummies, it’s so encouraging to hear that you are coping well with chores, cooking, coaching, etc. I will be sending my helper away this December and changed my job to part time for more time with the family. As a FTWM, I don’t and can’t cook. Hopefully I’m able to cope like Rejoice and Concernmum. Just attending to the routines of cooking, bathing, feeding, getting them ready for school, sending them, fetching them, etc. takes 4/5 of the time. Must pray hard I still have energy left to coach them.

[rejoice137]

beauty79:

Hi mummies, it's so encouraging to hear that you are coping well with chores, cooking, coaching, etc. I will be sending my helper away this December and changed my job to part time for more time with the family. As a FTWM, I don't and can't cook. Hopefully I'm able to cope like Rejoice and Concernmum. Just attending to the routines of cooking, bathing, feeding, getting them ready for school, sending them, fetching them, etc. takes 4/5 of the time. Must pray hard I still have energy left to coach them.

Hi Beauty,

It is encouraging to hear that you are seeking more time with your kid. It is not an easy journey. But you won't be alone in the journey. So just persist and press on. One of the biggest rewards I get from all these hardwork is when my DSs told me they love my cooking and want me to cook for them all the time. Though they are small, they will appreciate your effort. However, don't let the daily chores stress you and tire you out. The main thing is to spend quality time with your kid. Washing dishes, doing laundary and cleanign the floor can all wait or skip sometime, haha.

[beauty79]

Thks Rejoice, I am not a neat freak but my youngest just turned 2. So still need to mop and put things away daily. As I’ve decided the arrangement next year, I know that somehow things will work out. I also look forward to the day my children will even ask for second helpings because they like my cooking…