Maris Stella High

[Namie]

They will be given a communication book but not yet. The pushing may be due to him being sensitive and the other boy being selfish wanting more space. But the kicking of his back was definitely bullying. Not sure if all happened during form teacher class but one of the pushing incident happened during PE.

[Honey]

Namie, you shouldn’t take the bullying lying down. What class is he in? Why no reaction from the teachers? If I were you, I would bring it up to the teachers & ask for an investigation to be done & get back to me. If the teachers don’t do anything or show no urgency in it, then don’t be afraid to go to higher authorities.


It shouldn’t go on or your son may develop a fear of going to school. It’s not healthy. The agressive boys should be taught to respect others & not be so rough. Sometimes, these boys don’t mean to bully. They may not understand that their agressive behaviour is hurting others. They are still very young & learning but if no one points it out to them that their behaviour is wrong, they keep doing it.

I have friends with sons in other boys’ schools & know enough that this kind of behaviour does not happen only in MSHS. Even the kids from mixed schools are not spared behaviour from their more agressive friends. We just have to keep communicating with our kids & teach them how to handle different situations & if need be, we intervene & seek help from the school to help handle the situation.

Hope things improve for your son soon.

[24hr-mum]

just email to the form teacher directly or PE teacher too.

or ask to transfer class if still like that?

[Namie]

Bullying can take place anywhere even for adults at work. We are thinking it may be more important to teach him how to stand up to the bullies.

[tiredmama]

On the subject of bullying, I suggest that u speak to the form teacher or u can inform the vp/p directly. The sch takes a very serious view on these incidences and usually they will investigate thoroughly.

We have heard of such 1-2 occurrences but I believe been resolved. However, it’s important to highlight so that action can be taken.
Generally, the maris boys r ok and I have also heard of similar stories in other boys schools as well… all the best !!

[Vanilla]

Or maybe you can email to his teacher directly and tell her exactly what happened? You can find the whole list of the staff contacts and their email addresses in the MSHS website. I really don’t blame the boy for retaliating as this is a natural reaction of his self defense! But importantly it should be highlighted and stop or else yr boy will not enjoy going to school, not to talk about learning in school.

[vicki]

Hi Namie,


I went to ask ds if there are any ‘notti’ boys in the class and if there are any boys kenna ‘bullied’ - he say so far the boys are ok and he dont seem to see any naughty boys.

i think you must tell your boy to tell the teacher when it happens… in case if it is a misunderstanding - it can be resolved immediately.

Really gotto nick this prob if it exist!

i will be questioning my boy more often on class situation since we are in same class

[vicki]

24hr-mum:

just email to the form teacher directly or PE teacher too.

or ask to transfer class if still like that?

i think every class/ school will have this prob!

Hence, its more of teaching the boys how to stand up for themselves and handle the bullying when it happens!

[cherrygal]

The boys can be rough when they start playing. One P3 (blue tag) boy accidentally hit my son's ear when he was playing with another boy at the bus stop. I shouted at him to stop running and he sheepishly looked at me but didn't apologise to my son. I was tempted to scold him further but stopped myself as he could later take it out on my son. So we let it go.


Namie, you could inform Mr Cheong or Mr Peh (the discipline masters). I think the teachers don't want to react as they may want the boys to solve their own problems, unless it's serious. Teach your boy to scream in pain the next time he is kicked (like those footballers who get tripped).

I told my boy not to fight back if he was bullied since he is quite small size (sure to lose). He should remember their names and faces, then tell me. I will inform the teacher and discipline masters if needed. It's quite daunting for a P1 kid to go approach Mr Cheong himself (since he looks quite strict).

As for the bus bullies, you could either inform Mr Cheong or approach the bully yourself. My dad went up my school bus to scold the gal who bullied me last time. She stopped after that. More effective than telling the teacher etc. hahaha

[smurf]

cherrygal:

As for the bus bullies, you could either inform Mr Cheong or approach the bully yourself.

I dun think that is advisable. Reason being, they are boys. Sure there will be pushing or whatever. And sometimes, they dun do that on purpose, and they are very young, they may not even know that it is wrong to do that. Maybe the parents didn't teach them, etc.
By approaching the bully yourself, their parents may be upset with you, and war started. The parents may hate each other, blah blah blah. Your boy has just started p1, the best way i think is to approach the teachers or principal to solve the problem.

When ds was in k2, his classmates used to tease him, and said unnice things about him. My boy didn't want to go school during then, but I asked him to just ignore them. I didn't confront them as they probably didnt even know what they are doing/ saying. And there was a time when he got a big scratch when he was taking sch bus, he said his friend scratched him, I told him to stay away from that child, in case, he/ she (can't remember gal or boy) scratched him again. I was thinking, k2 already and you are still scratching your friend??!! Dun you know that it's wrong to do that? But I didn't confront him/her lah.

Whatever it is, the problem should be solve amicably as your boy and the other boys are still classmates, not so nice lah...they have to see each other very often.

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