Club FTWM
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Hi lovekidsverymuch,
Sounds great that you are able and allowed to work full-time FROM HOME. Guess you are a mum with perserverance as it’s unimaginable to handle 5 kids, household and full-time work without any maid’s help! Salute to you!
Me a FTWM with 2 gals aged 6 and 5. Thankfully, we managed to handle fairly well w/o help of stay-in maid nor parents. It’s tiring at times though but happy with the decision (used to have stay-in maid for 1.5 yrs). Child-care is our main help, support from hubby (and vice versa) and PT cleaning lady. For sake of kids and family, I’ve put my career advancement (promotion) on hold for many rounds and didn’t regret my decision. Looking fwd to negotiate for PT work schedule when my gal turns 7.
BTW, do you face challenges nurturing your 6 yr old? My 6 yr old is a bright gal but it seems that she nd to be always engaged else she’d start finding things to do and tends to go into over drive mood. She’s a very enjoyable gal to teach and be with except for the mischevious part. Exhausting sometimes esp after a day’s work. -
No wonder woman lah. Just trying to cope with all my resources. I’m indeed blessed to land a full-time job that allows me time with the kids. However, like all mothers here, I did take a big pay cut and a big slowdown in my career move.
I had a bargain with God, and that is, when my kids are all grown up and have no need for my constant attention, I will return to my career in full force. And, by then, my eye sight should not have deteriorated, I should be exactly where I left off…
Meanwhile, just keeping the career ladder on the back burner…
Heh heh… hope that my little wish will come true. -
lovekidsverymuch:
Heh heh, no harm trying my luck right? In any case, quite glad my eye sight is still in tact despite being in my mid 40s. Yep, got another 5 years to go! Faith, faith, faith... :lol:2ppaamm:
I had a bargain with God, and that is, when my kids are all grown up and have no need for my constant attention, I will return to my career in full force. And, by then, my eye sight should not have deteriorated, I should be exactly where I left off...
As we wish that right even I too took sometime off working part time etc but then now came bac full time but definitely we are not the same
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Hi,
Me reporting here...
:udawoman: to 2ppaamm <--- new idol :love: .. I must learn from you...
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Oh, oh new club started.
Reporting :salute: FTWM, PT maid with a 3 yo DS.
Like Luvkid and heyhoe, am stuck in a low pay, no stress/overtime kinda job. It has been great, cos can reach home by 6 pm to cook dinner and be free to do my stuff after DS goes to bed.
After reading thru, felt a little intimidated and also like a lazy bum. DH hv been encouraging me to go for upgrading, but lazy and always giving excuses like tired, no time, too old But did tell him that if can be SAHM, then got possibility to do some courses. He said not for another 5 yrs 
he not making empty promises. -
fussyMummy:
Hi,
Me reporting here...
:udawoman: to 2ppaamm <--- new idol :love: .. I must learn from you...
2ppaamm --- my new idol too!!! :udawoman: -
:oops: what's happening har? :? We learn from each other lah...
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2ppaamm,
Wow! you have 5 kids and no maids!! Of course you deserve our praise and attention. I think you also make the government happy. Many kids and also never rely on foreign workers. High productivity!!! I m very sure you must have a very supportive hubby inorder for you to keep sane. Ha…good for you!
Now, surprisingly my boss did tell me that when actual retirement comes you don’t want to retire. You just want to continue working. Usually we envy but when we reached that stage, we don’t want to retire. I think maybe he might be half right but if you have an objective such as an interest or a goal to pursue, I don’t think you just want to work and work… -
peapot:
I also think so.... hopefully the objective at that time is to pass time rather than earn a living. There is a difference to this.
Now, surprisingly my boss did tell me that when actual retirement comes you don't want to retire. You just want to continue working.
When my fil just retired at 67, he said that \"everyday is sunday\". Luckily he is very much into shares trading so he is occupied from 9-5 and also sometimes in the night. If not, it will be boring...
The same question was \"what would you do if you strike the big sweep?\" I think I will choose to continue to work. Maybe get a part time job or easy job to pass time and at the same time have time for the family. -
peapot:
Hi Peapot,2ppaamm,
Wow! you have 5 kids and no maids!! Of course you deserve our praise and attention. I think you also make the government happy. Many kids and also never rely on foreign workers. High productivity!!! I m very sure you must have a very supportive hubby inorder for you to keep sane. Ha.....good for you!
Now, surprisingly my boss did tell me that when actual retirement comes you don't want to retire. You just want to continue working. Usually we envy but when we reached that stage, we don't want to retire. I think maybe he might be half right but if you have an objective such as an interest or a goal to pursue, I don't think you just want to work and work....
Actually, I find myself happier and freer without a maid, contrary to what I thought I'd be before I took on the challenge of releasing my 2 maids about 6 to 7 months ago. Took a lot of courage and I'm so glad I did. Housework is not that bad, and I actually enjoy the privacy. I'll never have a maid and deal with those nonsense again. They are just nonsense to me, and none of what they do make any sense to me, really. From the way they handle their hygiene to the way they speak to my kids.
I had a few opportunities to retire. After I come back from post-grad and realise that I was pregnant with DS1, I stayed home for 5 months. After I sold my company in the early 2000s, I stayed home for another 5 months. After #5, I retired again for 6 months. After my FIL passed on, I had to semi-retire until now.
I'm blessed with a good and flexible FT work, great bosses and I like the nature of my job. I have so much fun and autonomy, and my job is very rewarding. I will not likely retire again. I don't believe working for money, whether I need it or not. I have taken 5 pay cuts throughout my career which spans 20+ years, and every time, in my new job, I managed to climb back up, so I have a strong belief that if we work hard, our bosses will recognise and reward us accordingly.
My priority is always the home, but work has given me the joy of influencing and building lives. As the kids grow bigger, I see them needing me less (nowadays, they are all in school in the morning), so I have the whole morning nurturing my mentees. If my kids grow up and need me even less, I'll just increase my time at work.
Yes, I believe I'll just work and work, because I believe this is not a job. It is a calling for me.
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